I feel like I hit the jackpot with my name. Naturally, there's a story behind it, but it's probably not what you think. My middle name is unusual too; it's an animal known for its sense of family and survival. Even my last name has some good stories behind it . . .
Like some people, I grew up as the "weird kid." And that is not to say I was creepy, rather it means I grew up as an oddball. This nonconformist tendency took many shapes over the years, with peaks and valleys, and it still does I suppose. But these days, I employ such inclinations with a bit more grace and tact - and a lot less piss and vinegar.
Making friends who are solid and who host a myriad of awe-inspiring talents is extremely important to me. I'm excited to meet even more people who hold onto these attributes for dear life. I surround myself with folks who push me to higher ground and I will accept nothing less from someone I date. I love being exposed to new art, new conversations, new music, new science, new thinking and new bikes (drool)!
I'm kind of an alien, but not so foreign I alienate people. In fact, I'm quite the opposite in that I'm outgoing, open and present. And I've pushed these three elements in several ways.
But the main vehicle for pushing these elements to a new level is being authentic. This can manifest itself through the simple interaction of saying hello to a stranger in the grocery store or it can be as complex as falling in love. Either way, I consistently break facades into pieces, my own and others'.
Generally, I'm attracted to bi or bi-curious or queer-identified women, but I love straight women too - especially those who don't rely heavily on traditional gender roles. This doesn't mean I won't hold the door open for you. In fact, I will, but it does mean I want to be with a woman who will hold the door open for me too. Chivalry is not dead; it's just been re-invented, and it isn't something just men are supposed to do. In short, I prefer to date forward-thinking women.
These days, my dating palette has quite a few colors on it. I'm definitely interested in making new friends. If you simply want to pal around with a new person, but without the pressure of calling it a date, I can do that easily over supper or a couple beers or while making art or whatever. I have an uncanny ability to stick to clear boundaries. I can also date short-term, which can include a lover component or not; do not let that be confused with casual sex. I'm not into that. Being a respectful lover is way different than casual sex. I am also open to finding a life partner and having kids eventually.
If I ever "settle down," it won't look at all like the white-picket fence story that many folks seem to want. I prefer some kind of "alterna-ship," a partnership that stands, with great bravery, outside this white-picket box.
10 Random Chance Facts:
1.) I have a degree in cognitive psychology.
2.) Köln, Germany was a place I called home once.
3.) The number of times I've been hit by cars while riding my bike is astounding. I've been hit 5 times and doored once. All the accidents were caused by drivers not signaling.
4.) Oddly, I've fallen madly in love a staggering 5 times. I'm hoping this number doesn't correlate with getting hit by cars.
5.) I have a strange affinity for visiting cathedrals, but I'm not at all conventionally religious.
6.) My cat, Eva, is named after a woman I met on a train in Germany. The gal kindly gave me a ride home from a train station and I never saw her again.
7.) For my 21st birthday I stayed up late to write a 2-hour lecture on the mind-body problem. I had to give the lecture the following day in my psychology class.
8.) I have a tattoo of a female deer tick set in a cameo on my calf. That has an interesting story.
9.) I studied ballet for 2 years as an adult and I still go to class once in a while.
10.) I've ridden a bike from Seattle to Portland 3 times. One of those times I did it in a single day.
And finally, regardless of whether we are a match or not, I would like to offer my encouragement and wish you well on finding the person you want. Cheers!