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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30-50
  • Located anywhere
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My details

Last online
Today – 12:37pm
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Post grad
Might want kids
Has dogs
My self-summary
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Writer & professor just looking for something light and fun (at least for starters).

I don't look at the match %, for better or worse; most of the questions I answered years ago when I first set up this profile. I just don't trust a computer to do math for me when it comes to meeting people. What you write matters more.
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing, music, performance, editing, activism, going to see art & dance & poetry readings, teaching writing (& thus grading papers), walking the dogs...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making you laugh? (or at least roll your eyes and/or laugh at me, especially if you enjoy dark humor and/or bad puns). Being straight-ahead, open, honest, and no BS when it comes to communication.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ugh, hate these lists, so: this summer have been loving Kamel Dauod's The Meursault Investigation, Mathias Énard's Street of Thieves, Patricia Galvao's Industrial Park, Elena Ferrante, Elfriede Jelinek, Guillermo Rosales, as well as amazing new books by Bhanu Kapil, Mercedes Eng, Anne Boyer & Cecily Nicholson. The new Ta-Neshi Coates book, without question, damn. Which sent me back to black nationalism, Baraka, histories of free jazz, which has in turn sent me back to the CD shelf for 60s-era post-bop & faves like Abdullah Ibrahim, Archie Shepp, Andrew Hill...
Fave art exhibits of summer were Radical Presence @ Yerba Buena & the Young Lords show @ the Bronx Museum. A retro of the Zero movement in Amsterdam was good too, as well as a Berlin show on post-war architecture and design. Oh and MOMA's show on Midcentury Latin American architecture, too.
I keep playing the same 3 songs by Stew & The Negro Problem and a couple Esperanza Spaulding jams. Desert island, tho: PJ Harvey, the Stooges 1st or 2nd album, Coltrane's Love Supreme, Miles' Kind of Blue, Mingus Ah Um, Otis Redding, maybe the 1st MeShell Ndegeocello album, then something hella mellow/folksy, hm, Joan Armatrading? Neil Young? Wait, what am I doing on an island?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My dogs, trips out of the city (usually to NYC or the desert), a piano to bang on, art & culture that challenges me, a good healthy sex life...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Art and writing and their relation to activism, pedagogy, and radical politics. How to live both in the city and the desert at the same time.
You should message me if
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You're smart, strong, and sexy (on your own terms).

Open minded, non judgmental, healthy and fit, politically on the left, know the difference between it's/its and they're/their/there, Burning Man isn't the highlight of your year, able to laugh at yourself (or at least at me), don't take yourself too seriously (though are serious about things that matter to you), enjoy going out but not a partier…

Bonus points if you own both a pair of boots and some sexy heels.