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  • Ages 30–50
  • Located anywhere
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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Mostly non-monogamous
Has dogs
My self-summary
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Writer & professor. Newly single (but not damaged!). Just looking for something light and fun this summer (at least for starters).

I don't look at the match %, for better or worse; most of the questions I answered years ago when I first set up this profile. I just don't trust a computer to do math for me when it comes to meeting people. What you write matters more.

No TV, no facebook. Not that I look down on folks who do, just tend to try to keep my bandwidth somewhat filtered, and thus my 'favorites' probably out of the loop in terms of things like TV and music...
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing, music, performance, editing, activism, going to see art & dance & poetry readings, teaching writing (& thus grading papers), walking the dogs...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making you laugh? (or at least roll your eyes and/or laugh at me, especially if you enjoy dark humor and/or bad puns). Being straight-ahead, open, honest, and no BS when it comes to communication.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ugh, hate these lists, so: this week, loving Kamel Dauod's The Meursault Investigation, Mathias Énard's Street of Thieves, Elena Ferrante, Elfriede Jelinek, in the last two months finished Bolaño's 2666 & (audio)books 1-4 of Knausgaard's My Struggle as well as amazing new books by Bhanu Kapil, Mercedes Eng, & Anne Boyer. Summer reading list includes the new Mayakovsky bio, the new Black Panthers history, a history of AIM, and a stack of poetry books and art mags that've been waiting for a break from teaching. Beneath the pavement, the beach reading!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My dogs, trips out of the city (usually to NYC or the desert), a piano to bang on, art & culture that challenges me, a good healthy sex life...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Art and writing and their relation to activism. How to live both in the city and the desert at the same time.
You should message me if
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You're smart, strong, and sexy (on your own terms).

Open minded, non judgmental, healthy and fit, politically on the left, know the difference between it's/its and they're/their/there, Burning Man isn't the highlight of your year, able to laugh at yourself (or at least at me), don't take yourself too seriously (though are serious about things that matter to you), enjoy going out but not a partier…

Bonus points if you own both a pair of boots and some sexy heels.