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44 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 13
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Has dogs

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My self-summary
I'm a writer & professor who lives in North Oakland.

I'm down to earth & open-minded, honest & respectful, well-read & curious but not a pretentious snob, sensual & physical but not a macho 'dude', politically a lefty but not judgmental or pious. Interested in art, books, music, film, culture, travel, hiking, etc etc... I take things like life & beliefs & ideas & the world seriously, but try to not take myself too seriously...

I juggle a lot of interests & gigs & try my best to find enjoyment in those challenges rather than stress. I write fiction, poetry & cross-genre prose, art reviews & essays. I try to get out & explore - the bay area, travel, hi/lo culture, new people, whatever it is that keeps the imagination sparked & one's ideas & beliefs from getting stale. I am still somewhat confused by 'dating' but open to a variety of connections with new people, from casual to serious, as long as they are real, honest, respectful, healthy, and can maintain a sense of humor about the whole thing...
What I’m doing with my life
writing, teaching, activism, playing piano, organizing events, hiking with the dogs, conceptual art/performance, traveling...
I’m really good at
Keeping steady & not getting sucked into drama. Talking straight. Keeping you laughing, even if it comes with significant eye rolling.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(see below, but in case you find it annoying here's who I'm reading/juggling this week: Claire Bishop, Peter Weiss, Maria Irene Fornes, Kim Hyesoon, Mark Fisher, various essays on occupy movements...)

I generally don't like top ten lists or using consumer & entertainment preferences as a primary means of expressing 'who I am'. I mean, I know that if I write Mike Davis instead of Harold Robbins that can help give some sense of how I engage the world, and I understand that by not making long lists of books, bands, films, etc., that I probably reduce the number of computer-assisted matches or whatever, but I find it hard to reduce the names of important works & inspiring artists to a brief list. Many things inspire me as an writer or thinker; some are (politically, personally, historically) inspirational without having much to do with my own work, some are written by my friends, others are songs or poems or essays or albums or novels I return to again and again for sparks or re-fueling.

Anyways, this wasn't meant to sound like some kind of pious rant; feel free to ask me "whatcha reading these days" or something like that & I'll make a go of it. And I will tell you, for example, that one of my dogs is named after PJ Harvey, the other after Buster Keaton... And of course even after writing all this I'll probably read your lists and imagine all sorts of things about you based on what you write...;)
The six things I could never do without
a piano, my dogs, 'nature', challenging friends, writing & art that challenges the way I see the world, good, healthy sex...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
art, politics, writing, getting away (to the desert, woods, another country, new york, etc.)...
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You are independent, open-minded & adventurous, intelligent & yet not completely cynical, healthy & active, sexy on your own terms & comfortable expressing your desires, creative and/or interested in the arts & the world around you, take your work & world seriously but not yourself... You're autonomous & strong & don't need someone else to validate your self-worth but rather perhaps you're looking for someone to add to your life, to challenge you, push you, make you laugh, turn you on mentally/physically/spiritually/etc...
(And you are good at pushing me as well, & probably you can dance with me even if you have to laugh at me while doing it)
I'm looking for that elusive chemistry/spark, for something that could develop into a deep partnership but doesn't get overburdened with expectations or pressures before things are allowed to develop organically. Like me, hopefully you are passionate in a variety of ways, from intellectual to emotional to sensual, while also comfortable in your own skin, just hanging out & being goofy or trying new things.