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cheeryhobbit

30 F Chicago, IL

My Details

Last Online
Apr 15
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and very serious about it
Sign
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, French

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My self-summary
I am an enthusiastic adventurer. I tend to fall in love with places in the same way that most people fall in love with other people. I've never found that loving one place diminished my love for another place; each connection is unique and speaks to me with a voice all its own, though some voices are more compelling than others. And, as it turns out, that can also be true of my relationships with people. Parallels abound. I'm still discovering some of them.

I'm in the process of getting a divorce from the wonderful derbylittle, though he and I are still good friends and spend time together regularly. I currently live with my partner, sorrowsheart, though I will be semi-relocating to Flagstaff later this year. My ideal relationship style looks a good deal like the extended-poly-family version of polyamory. While I put no explicit limits on the forms new relationships might take, I'm not looking for additional relationships right now. That said, I tend to be most attracted to sensitive, emotionally available folks of any gender who appreciate strength of character and are up for adventure. The decision to leave monogamy behind has already been among the most challenging adventures of my life, and I am (currently) content with it and the new possibilities it opens. And a little overwhelmed by the constant scheduling challenges. And I'd be happy to answer any questions you have about it - or just say right here that if you're in Chicago, you should come to the Poly Support Group (last Saturdays, Center on Halsted).

In partners, I value curiosity, integrity, enthusiasm, insight, dedication, and commitment to passions. I'm happiest when I'm following my intuition through life. It often leads me in unanticipated directions, and I support others who are on - or in the process of finding - their own paths. The label I feel most comfortable claiming is that of environmentalist. To my mind, if you like the idea of humanity continuing to enjoy relative peace and prosperity, you should be one too. Or you should be working getting another planet to live on. Or both!

In somewhat less than fifteen years, I plan to be living in a much more sustainable fashion, ideally in anearth-sheltered hobbit-hole-esque ecovillage with as many dear friends, lovers, and like-minded adventurers as I can convince to join me in a great and marvelous experiment.

Interests include: hygge, adventure, energy work, good conversations, singing, hiking, kink, playing board games, writing, backpacking, biking, woodcarving, reading, sewing (by hand, mostly), beading, travel (anywhere), practical jokes, and public transportation.

I often think in images rather than words, which leads to some interesting poems, but also means that it can take a while for me to figure out exactly what the pictures in my brain mean, and translate them back to the kind of language we all share.

I should probably add that I am among the silliest people I know. I love my laughtergasms. Does that mean I laughsterbate? Hmmm...
What I’m doing with my life
My life goal is to help create a more sustainable society.
Figuring out exactly how to do that is a work in progress, which I currently am pursuing in four ways. More keep popping up, and I love that I have the freedom to pursue the ones I like best.

1. I run a small professional organizing business. This job is ideal for me because it a. lets me help people while fulfilling a semi-compulsion to move stuff around, leaving me energized at the end of a day, and b. has the most ridiculously flexible schedule ever, which c. allows me to spend a goodly amount of time with the people I love.

2. Hygge. Defined as: the art of creating intimacy: comradeship, contentment, and coziness all rolled into one. I see this as the personal side of sustainability. Contentment via simplicity. I'm a little obsessed with hygge at the moment, and it's totally always worth it. <3

3. Plotting, scheming, and dreaming about the shape of the ecovillage / co-op / utopia I'll live in after leaving Chicago, and wondering how many of the people I know will eventually live there with me.

4. I have completed my MS in Environmental Management and Sustainability and I hereby lay official claim to the title Mistress of Sustainability.

When I'm not occupied with sustainability-related stuff - and sometimes when I am - I like to go exploring outside, watch all things sci-fi, go for long walks with friends, experiment with art-forms like the conversation-poem and the dream-story, and occasionally write up my musings and contemplations. I also putter like a maniac, dance at goth clubs with dear friends, read, harmonize to all the songs I can lay hands on, bicycle at high speeds, carve wood, woodburn, craft, and plot new adventures! ...and sometimes I really do just relax...

UPDATE! I am planning to backpack for at least 200 miles along the Pacific Crest Trail in 2014. Possibly more.
I’m really good at
being a down-to-earth optimist. Harmonizing. Staying oriented to cardinal directions (which makes the rare occasion when I get lost even more fun). Planning. Walking and biking long distances. Finding things! Plotting and executing road trips and surprise parties. Introducing friends. Organizing places and stuff. Dredging up obscure nerdy quotes with little to no provocation. Visualizing. Solving real-life problems in comprehensive ways... I hope. Getting hired. Remembering dreams. Imitating GLaDOS. Hugging. Using my face to communicate. Instigating awesome adventure by having ideas and diving into their execution without *quite* getting all the details. Or a reliable map.

Using OKCupid to procrastinate... and then redefining my priorities such that using OKCupid doesn't count as procrastinating.

I'm *not* really good at starting fires with a bow drill, but I'd like to be.
The first things people usually notice about me
probably depend on my mood and the alignment of the stars.

The things people comment on are, without fail:

1. my pleasantly bright red hair;
2. my smile; or
3. my lovely matching Tengwar armband tattoos.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: first and foremost, Lord of the Rings and the full Tolkien pantheon. A surprisingly close second are the Robin Hobb trilogies (Assassin, Liveship, and Tawny Man). The Arthurian legends. LeGuin, Asimov, Orson Scott Card, George RR Martin / Game of Thrones (minus the football), Terry Goodkind / Sword of Truth (minus, well, several of the books entirely, and the fact that *anything* can interfere with Confession), Robert Jordan / Eye of the World or whatever it's called (minus the countless 1000s of pages where NOTHING HAPPENS).

ChaoticAkuma recently made me very happy by saying that reading epic fantasy brought me to mind. I saved his voicemail. It is itself rather epic. :)

I am also very fond of many excellently geeky environmental books like Uncommon Ground, Wilderness and the American Mind, Changes in the Land and anything by William Cronon, Emerson's "Nature", Thoreau's "Walking", all of Ed Abbey, Barry Lopez, Bill McKibben, Michael Pollan, and more... and I'm partial to books of both a more mystical and sometimes scientific bent - The Alphabet and the Goddess springs to mind. Oh, and if you're depressed about things environmental, try reading Good News for a Change: How Everyday People are Saving the Planet by David Suzuki and Holly Dressel. It's a great set of stories. And The Prize if you aren't afraid enough of oil... which you're probably not.

*And! People, if you haven't heard of it yet, or if you have and are procrastinating, or if it's a bolt from the blue, whatever - read Sex at Dawn!!!*

Movies: Wall-E, Shawshank Redemption, the Scarlet Pimpernel, Contact, the Legend of Lobo, Willow, the Princess Bride, Harold & Maude, Up, Star Wars (the real ones), Avatar, The Sting, the Fast Runner, The Last Unicorn, and again, LOTR. Including the wonderfully terrible Rankin / Bass versions.

TV shows: Bablyon 5, Firefly, Sherlock, Jeeves and Wooster, Dollhouse, House of Cards, Game of Thrones, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Monty Python's Flying Circus, Coupling, Bleak House, BSG, Star Trek (mostly TNG), Lost, House, Who, Seeker (a la MST3K only)... why are there so many good TV shows with the name "House" somewhere in them? Weird.

Board Games: Shadows Over Camelot, Scotland Yard, Pandemic, Werewolf/Mafia/Assassin, Ticket to Ride, PowerGrid, Carcassonne, Cards Against Humanity, Contact! (also known to some as Botticelli), Scrabble, Bananagrams (handicapped only). And a variety of other board games, most of which can be found in derbylittle's living room. :)

Music: primarily dark, lyric-oriented folk or rock. Dave Carter & Tracy Grammar, Vienna Teng, Dream Theater, REM, Chris Pureka (thank you, violetsingreen!), Dar Williams, Jonathan Coulton, Angtoria, Loreena McKennit, Death Cab for Cutie, Nightwish, Heather Dale, with recent infusions of industrial / goth like VNV Nation and the Cruxshadows from sorrowsheart. Music from the BBC radio dramatization of Lord of the Rings... and assorted musicals from Fiddler to My Fair Lady. I also know far too many lyrics from Disney tunes.

Food: I am what I call a scavenge-atarian; that is, I aim to eat meat only when it's someone else's leftovers, so I get to eat the tasty meat without causing the death of any more delicious- ahem, lovely and lively!- animals. And I adore green smoothies! Seriously, they are amazingly good with almond milk and spicings. Eternal thanks for this tasty innovation to rosesapphire! Also, FRIED PLANTAINS OH MY GOODNESS. I remembered! I have a favorite food!

I'm looking forward to growing most of my own food one day. For now, though, I find myself disenchanted with storebought munchables (except the aforementioned plantains). Such is the fate of a hobbit in an industrialized world. Sad, isn't it? Let's have a green smoothie and plot.
The six things I could never do without
- adventure!
- wildness / wilderness
- connecty conversations with friends new and old
- the color red
- magic / mystery / dreamtime / the ineffable
- the requisite leisure, freedom, and independence to enjoy all of the above

And, here are a bonus six things I'd love to do without:
- OIL
- my Palantir (aka iPhone... it's damnably convenient)
- full-time employment (done!)
- close-mindedness
- summers spent roasting in Chicago
- keeping track of time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
building community. Hygge. Places I've been and how they shape my thoughts. The most effective ways to save energy & resources. How to find clients via social media without annoying my friends. Also, figuring out how to recycle or reuse all the random items that come my way. Forging my own path. How to encourage people to be more actively concerned about the effects of human activities on the earth. How to balance my love of wild places, and solitude and contemplation, with my love of people. I also contemplate the heat-death of the Universe (thanks to derbylittle).

More recently, I've been thinking about mortality, kink, how to communicate difficult / intensely personal thoughts with grace, clarity, and gentleness - and how to love tenderly, boundlessly, and fearlessly. That last is also something I try to spend a lot of time *doing*.

I also think (and plot) a good deal about how I can possibly do all the things I want to do in 2012. If I didn't love dreaming so very much, I would take time off from sleep. Edit: taking time off from sleep apparently does not interfere with dreaming. ...this is going to be fun. :D
On a typical Friday night I am
* choose four *

- in the midst of a board game or a very, very thoroughly overthought game of Resistance, because it's better than Werewolf. >}
- talking with people I care for deeply
- reading, aloud or to myself
- dancing!
- at GD2
- lifting my voice in song
- wearing red, black, or both
- dabbling in mysteries
- the Traitor
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
is that I am on Fetlife as Dancing_Serpent. ;)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 18–65
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
two or more of the statements below are true for you, AND you don't mind waiting a while for a response. My life is delightfully full of people and projects I care about deeply, and I'm not on OKC very often. I do check Fet regularly, though..

*I love nature, backpacking, bicycling, and outdoor adventure, and need to have more of them;

*I am kinky, poly, open, or curious, and like talking about my experiences or hearing about yours;

*I'd like to join in game nights that range from casual to strategic to epic to cuddly;

*I do NOT plan to settle permanently in Chicago;

*I am into planning (or better still, executing!) any kind of sustainable or alternative living scheme, from co-ops to ecovillages of the future, or live in one now;

*I prefer the gender and/or orientation choices on Fetlife to those on OKCupid;

*I have posted or lurked on TORn, or need to seriously geek out with someone about Lord of the Rings or the Hobbit.