I'm in the process of getting a divorce from the wonderful derbylittle, though he and I are still good friends and spend time together regularly. I currently live with my partner, sorrowsheart, though I will be semi-relocating to Flagstaff later this year. My ideal relationship style looks a good deal like the extended-poly-family version of polyamory. While I put no explicit limits on the forms new relationships might take, I'm not looking for additional relationships right now. That said, I tend to be most attracted to sensitive, emotionally available folks of any gender who appreciate strength of character and are up for adventure. The decision to leave monogamy behind has already been among the most challenging adventures of my life, and I am (currently) content with it and the new possibilities it opens. And a little overwhelmed by the constant scheduling challenges. And I'd be happy to answer any questions you have about it - or just say right here that if you're in Chicago, you should come to the Poly Support Group (last Saturdays, Center on Halsted).
In partners, I value curiosity, integrity, enthusiasm, insight, dedication, and commitment to passions. I'm happiest when I'm following my intuition through life. It often leads me in unanticipated directions, and I support others who are on - or in the process of finding - their own paths. The label I feel most comfortable claiming is that of environmentalist. To my mind, if you like the idea of humanity continuing to enjoy relative peace and prosperity, you should be one too. Or you should be working getting another planet to live on. Or both!
In somewhat less than fifteen years, I plan to be living in a much more sustainable fashion, ideally in anearth-sheltered hobbit-hole-esque ecovillage with as many dear friends, lovers, and like-minded adventurers as I can convince to join me in a great and marvelous experiment.
Interests include: hygge, adventure, energy work, good conversations, singing, hiking, kink, playing board games, writing, backpacking, biking, woodcarving, reading, sewing (by hand, mostly), beading, travel (anywhere), practical jokes, and public transportation.
I often think in images rather than words, which leads to some interesting poems, but also means that it can take a while for me to figure out exactly what the pictures in my brain mean, and translate them back to the kind of language we all share.
I should probably add that I am among the silliest people I know. I love my laughtergasms. Does that mean I laughsterbate? Hmmm...