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43 New Brunswick, NJ Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 4:59pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm looking for someone sweeter and more refreshing than solitude. I want to be in a relationship, to give, to share, to be close to someone--but I'm not going to be in a relationship solely to not be alone. I'm looking for a friend, an ally, a lover and confidant, and I want to be the same for someone else. It should go without saying that I'm an introvert--INTJ to be exact.

I run and I bike--I'm running my second half-marathon in a month, and a 20-mile bike ride is a good morning spent. Call me crazy, but it's fun. Having a running/cycling partner would be great. Or having someone who understands the need to run/bike at the crack of dawn.

I'm looking for a deep diver, and a button-pusher. Intelligence and depth are big turn-ons.

I'm a great friend.
I'm loyal.
I'm a good listener.
A little shy at the start, but I warm up fast.

tl;dr...If you can be sweeter than my solitude, you'll sit at the right hand of God, as far as I'm concerned.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work for a newspaper in Manhattan--yes, they are still around... And I run and I bike--for fun, and to keep me out of trouble. Figuring out which races I'll do this year--and where. Generally, keeping my shit together the best way I can, and trying to live the questions...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
really listening...
The first things people usually notice about me
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The eyes, and the shaved head...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Quirkyalone: A Guide for Uncompromising Romantics; Zen and the Art of Poker, The Hero and the Blues, Comfortable With Uncertainty, The Places That Scare You, the Art of Power

Music: Lots of jazz, lots of electronica

Food: trying to keep it healthy, but will never turn down a good burger or a good beer
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, a hat, my family, a book, my bicycle, good friends...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Quietly enjoying a meal out. Or driving around and decompressing... Or getting ready to run a race or do a ride the next morning
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm pretty passionate and dedicated about the running and the cycling I do, and it would be great to have someone to pour that passion and energy into.
You should message me if
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You're intrigued by the idea of dating a unicorn. And, please say more than hi.