Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
This is what I'm looking for--someone sweeter and more refreshing
than solitude. I want to be in a relationship, to give, to share,
to be close to someone. To paraphrase the philosopher Jean Vanier,
the goal should be to love someone as they are--without pretense,
with imperfections, warts and all.* I'm looking for a friend, an
ally, a lover and a confidant, and I want to be the same for
someone else. It should go without saying that I'm an
introvert--INTJ to be exact.
I'm looking for a deep diver and a button-pusher. I want depth,
connection and the kind of passion that isn't branded, lazy
nonsense. That's a lot, and I can move a tad slowly, but I don't
play small here.
I run and I bike--I'm training for the Richmond Marathon, and a
20-mile bike ride is a good morning spent. Call me crazy, but it's
fun. Having a running/cycling partner would be great. Or having
someone who understands the need to run/bike at the crack of
I'm a great friend.
I'm a good listener.
A little shy at the start, but I warm up fast.
*Despite all this, I do know my way around a gin and tonic, and
have a loud laugh, even in an American bar. But, I'm a
Weeble-Wobble (remember those?)--I always come back to center...and
I don't fall down.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work for a newspaper in Manhattan--yes, they are still around...
And I run and I bike--for fun, and to keep me out of trouble. I'm
in training for my first marathon in November in Richmond.
Generally, keeping my shit together the best way I can, and trying
to live the questions...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The eyes, and the shaved head...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Running and Being: The Total Experience; Quirkyalone: A
Guide for Uncompromising Romantics; Zen and the Art of Poker, The
Hero and the Blues, Comfortable With Uncertainty, The Places That
Scare You, How to Love
Music: Lots of jazz, lots of electronica
Food: trying to keep it healthy, but will never turn down a good
burger and a good beer
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, a hat, my family, a book, my bicycle, good friends...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Quietly enjoying a meal out. Or driving around and decompressing...
Or getting ready for a long run Saturday morning (see above--the
fun's left for Saturday night).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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A friend asked me what love is...I think it's deep care and deep
concern for someone. Showing compassion for flaws and weaknesses.
Allowing them to be whole and human, and giving them the safe space
to whole and human, and to grow and explore. I think that's it.
You should message me if
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