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chehaw

43 New Brunswick, NJ Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Black
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
This is what I'm looking for--someone sweeter and more refreshing than solitude. I want to be in a relationship, to give, to share, to be close to someone. To paraphrase the philosopher Jean Vanier, the goal should be to love someone as they are--without pretense, with imperfections, warts and all.* I'm looking for a friend, an ally, a lover and a confidant, and I want to be the same for someone else. It should go without saying that I'm an introvert--INTJ to be exact.

I'm looking for a deep diver and a button-pusher. I want, depth, connection and the kind of passion that isn't branded, lazy nonsense. That's a lot, and I can move a tad slowly, but I don't play small here.

I run and I bike--I did my first overseas half marathon in Montreal--and a 20-mile bike ride is a good morning spent. Call me crazy, but it's fun. Having a running/cycling partner would be great. Or having someone who understands the need to run/bike at the crack of dawn.

I'm a great friend.

I'm loyal.

I'm a good listener.

A little shy at the start, but I warm up fast.

*Despite all this, I do know my way around a gin and tonic, and have a loud laugh, even in an American bar. But, I'm a Weeble-Wobble (remember those?)--I always come back to center...and I don't fall down.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work for a newspaper in Manhattan--yes, they are still around... And I run and I bike--for fun, and to keep me out of trouble. Contemplating running a marathon before the year's out. Generally, keeping my shit together the best way I can, and trying to live the questions...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
really listening...
The first things people usually notice about me
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The eyes, and the shaved head...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Quirkyalone: A Guide for Uncompromising Romantics; Zen and the Art of Poker, The Hero and the Blues, Comfortable With Uncertainty, The Places That Scare You, How to Love

I'm starting "Running and Being" by George Sheehan...

Music: Lots of jazz, lots of electronica

Food: trying to keep it healthy, but will never turn down a good burger or a good beer
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, a hat, my family, a book, my bicycle, good friends...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Quietly enjoying a meal out. Or driving around and decompressing... Or getting ready to run a race or do a ride the next morning
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A friend asked me what love is...I think it's deep care and deep concern for someone. Showing compassion for flaws and weaknesses. Allowing then to be whole and human, and giving them the safe space to whole and human, and to grow and explore. I think that's it.
You should message me if
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You're intrigued by the idea of dating a unicorn. And, please say more than hi.