Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you like to have fun. i like fun as much as i like things. and
...while i'm not necessarily looking for a relationship, i have no
desire to be the third, fourth or twentieth wheel in a
poly/open/swing situation. please do not ignore this one caveat and
believe that YOUR message will be the one that changes my
already-made-up mind. i appreciate your life choice and i don't
share a desire to participate. my academic work involves extensive
analysis of non-traditional/non-pro-creative sexuality, so i'm
familiar enough, well-educated enough and self-aware enough to know
about the(se) lifestyle(s) and realize i can't be swayed,
regardless of your assertions.
most other things, though, can likely be negotiated. so let's