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31 Tucson, AZ Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Oct 9, 2014
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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****Note: I am currently on a round-the-country train trip and hoping to meet some interesting people along the way.****

"Portlandia is an extended joke about what Freud called the narcissism of small differences: the need to distinguish oneself by minute shadings and to insist, with outsized militancy, on the importance of those shadings."

I don't think I ever really understood Portland until I read this sentence. Around here, it's taken for granted that in order to fit in, one has to find the way that you are slightly different than the person next to you, and then become so committed to that difference that you are almost militant.

Perhaps you'll be happy to know that this is not me. (Perhaps not). Unfortunately a personals ad is all about emphasizing the small ways in which I am different than all of the other dudes on here. But I've never been too good at that.

So, you may find that I don't fit in around here because I am not militant about my differences, and I don't assume that the way I live and the things that I love are somehow superior to the ways that others live their lives.

None of this is to complain too much about Portland. I totally love it here. I even bought a house recently, because I can't imagine anywhere else in the world that I'd rather put down some roots.

I've discovered that being an adult is basically the same game of dress-up that we played as kids. My life has been a constant effort to not get sucked into that game. I think I've mellowed a bit on that front in recent years, but I hope you'll still find that I don't fit into any particular box.
What I’m doing with my life
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All finished up with grad school now, an looking for work commensurate with the number of letters after my name. I also am working two part time jobs - I'm teaching a class at PSU year round and I go to Astoria a couple of days a week to work as a Guidance Counselor. In other words, I keep busy.

I'm constantly planning for my next trip. And the one after that. I spend most of my real life fantasizing about when I get to escape next. That's not to say that I don't like my real life - it's that my real life is made much more colorful if I always feel like I'm searching for the next best thing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Singing while driving, dancing while cooking, drumming with my fingers, ping pong, dismantling right-wing bullshit, and talking about education and health care policy.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a rather large noggin, and my hair fails to cover its entirety.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I realize that I generally skip over this part in other people's profiles, so I decided to chop off the "list shit that I like" part of it. But I'll keep the food part:

I cherish the nights in my week where I'm able to splurge on a good bottle of beer, find a good recipe, listen on This American Life, and cook a good meal. I have been criticized roundly for my slow vegetable-chopping skills, but I do it deliberately, because sometimes I want cooking to take forever. Also, if I have company I tend to make giant mistakes in whatever recipe I choose. I'm better at cooking for myself, but still over-eager to cook for others, even knowing the consequences.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My cat (There. I said it.)
2. Coffee
3. Running
4. Beer
5. Disc golf
6. Traveling as often as possible
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future of Medicare and Social Security.

I'm not joking, unfortunately.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Not gonna lie: I am usually at home on Friday nights, with the cumulative sleep deprivation of the week weighing me down and keeping me in - or in Astoria, because I work there occasional Saturday mornings.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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A new one: I've come to the conclusion that growing up is a myth. Our lives are all about setting up artificial end points - such as "growing up," "settling down," "meeting the one," or, most insidiously, "succeeding." I don't think any of these things happen. In fact, I think the only end-point we can actually be sure of is death. Everything else is just a stopover before the next thing.

So if we set up our lives in such a way that ensures we get to a certain point - and we build our lives around that destination, giving ourselves no other options or ways out, we're probably going to be fucked. And like my Grandmammy always said, it's best to avoid fucking onesself.
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