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5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Might want kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Hi, My name is Rhys.

Ok, so what is written below has been cut, and paste, and edited several times over the years so its more of a patchwork than a self-summary. Turns out I'm much better at describing things I have done, and the way I behave than I am able to tell you "who I am". So you will just have to infer as best you can or meet me for a drink, which is generally the easiest way to figure it out. Anyway, below is some stuff (up to date) about me.

I have lived on 2 continents, spent parts of my childhood in the Netherlands & South Africa. My mum is American, my dad is (London) Welsh. I don't feel at home in the English Home Counties; I'm a proper urbanite and I love London (and Barcelona, and New York). I like to spend my weekends at the markets, or walking along the South Bank, or sat in the parks, or at the museums, or wherever really, depending on the company. Cities are the places for me.

I want to travel more, and live in the USA. I've been to Norway, Italy, Spain and the USA (twice) in the last few years; went to the Pukkelpop Festival in Belgium last year to see Kraftwerk in the baking heat and Berlin last February experiencing city life in sub-zero, snowed-under conditions.

I collect things and I don't throw stuff out. I amass books, CD's and DVDs, and anything else from wherever I have been, and from whomever I meet. My room is strewn with these things, and adorned with postcards collected travelling, which please me.

I'm ambitious, eager to learn, keen to succeed and I'm restless. I'm looking for someone fun, intelligent and easygoing who shares similar interests and is looking for someone to have fun with in London. I like talkative, opinionated, frustratingly lovable people like myself!

I like to be contrary because I am often contradictory which is normal right? I can be excessive. I can be calm. I have my up-time and my down-time. I enjoy the company of others, and I need my own space. I am not logical, or organised, I work best in moments of fleeting inspiration or deadline inspired panic, but I get by. I have fixations, they pass, and change.

I am a member of no groups or tribes. I like football but I'm not an unreconstructed male. I know nothing about celebrity culture or reality TV, I dress according to no particular fashion. I am not 'cool' (because fitting in is frankly a bit overrated). I am often cynical & apathetic and equally often I am engaged, enthusiastic, dedicated & idealistic, depending on my mood. I like pubs, and occasionally clubs, and drinking (more than occassionally). When drunk: I dance, I get loud, I 'cross the line', I get boisterous. I laugh heartily & become badly behaved.

I quit smoking on 20th April 2009 and stayed quit, which I'm pretty pleased about. Though since October 2010 I smoke socially again, usually after the 5th pint.
What I’m doing with my life
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I did a degree in History and Politics at Queen Mary University in East London, followed by an internship for a Lib Dem MP. I am passionate, and like to talk, about politics. I make no apologies for this.

I've completed my MSc in Public Policy at UCL in September 2010; which was hard, and fun. I am currently interning as a researcher at a young think-tank based in Westminster since February, the hours are long, the work is difficult but at least its paid and I get free food. My colleagues all have these incredible employment records and they work very fast to very high standards. Its hard to keep up.

I am the chairmen of my local constituency Labour Party and I was a candidate in the May council elections (I came 2nd with 24% of the vote, in Surrey - not a bad result). I only started getting involved about 6 months ago and I haven't morphed into some bizarre dislikable semi-human politician type yet. The only difference is that I have had to learn to enjoy knocking on peoples doors. Surprisingly, its not at all as horrible as people imagine.
I’m really good at
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drunken monologues (and sober soliloquies), maniacal laughter and sofa surfing (I'm good at living out of a backpack).

I'm a good travel partner.

Failing to fulfill my potential but I'm working on it.

...Talking about matters of national or international importance with confidence & eloquence often exceeding my actual knowledge. Blagging basically.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Maybe my angular features, blue eyes and scruffy hair (its short now)? Perhaps that I am a fast walker? No one ever seems to notice that my nose is slightly bent out of shape after it got broke by a football that travelled the short distance, at great speed, straight on to it, when I was 16.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Well after finishing my Masters and spending some time unemployed I ditched the public policy books and went on a bit of a reading frenzy. So I have recently finished, and strongly recommend The Buddha of Suburbia and The Corrections. I also read the David Hare trilogy of plays; Racing Demons, Murmuring Judges and The Absense of War - they read a little dated, but are still interesting. I am also reading a sociological study of life in East London and how it has changed over the last 50 years; The New East End, which I am enjoying greatly - just the kind of research I would like to do one day - when someone will hire me to do it. I have also been reading Shock Doctrine by Naomi Klein in an attempt to locate my lefty moral compass and excite it into outrage; its safe to say it worked, I get super depressed and feel slightly sickly reading it so I can only absorb it a few small chunks at a time.

In 2011 I also read Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas by Hunter S. Thompson which is a brilliant book. Cool also because I did a similar road trip from LA to Las Vegas and For Whom The Bell Tolls; now I understand what all the fuss with Hemmingway is about, its a great story... I wouldn't have liked to have been married to him though.

I've started many book that I have yet to finish! The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Prozac Nation (Elizabeth Wurtzel ), Queer (William Burroughs) A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius (David Eggers). I enjoyed them all and hope to finish them in the near future.

I have read and enjoyed in the last couple of years: An American Dream by Norman Mailer, Only in America by Matt Frei, We by Zamyatin Dry by Augusten Burroughs, Junky by William Burroughs, Conscience of a Liberal by Paul Krugman, Dreams from my Father, Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, Slaughter House Five, by Kurt Vonneguit (awesome) and the Vertical Hour another David Hare play.

Books I read ages ago and recommend: Shadow of the Wind (Carlos Ruiz Zafon) Zen & the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, Heart of Darkness (Joseph Conrad) Metroland, The History of the World in 10 and a half Chapters (both Julian Barnes) The Hippopotamus (Stephen Fry), The Quiet American (Graham Green), Brave New World (Aldous Huxley), Dune (Frank Herbert), 1984 (George Orwell), To Kill a Mocking Bird (Harper Lee), Catcher in the Rye (J.D. Salinger), How to be Good (Nick Hornby), Neverwhere (Neil Gaiman).

I also like graphic novels: Palestine by Joe Sacco, Murder Mysteries by Neil Gaiman, Persepolis by Marjan Strapati and The Watchmen.

Films: I like films by Pedro Almodovar ( Live Flesh is my favourite), and Martin Scorsese; ( Mean Streets, GoodFellas, The Departed ). Chinatown is my favourite movie - Jack Nicholson is a brilliant actor. I love all Wes Anderson movies; The Royal Tenenbaums, The Life Aquatic, Rushmore, Bottle Rocket, The Darjeeling Limited. On a separate note, for those of you fascinated by family you should definitely watch The Squid and the Whale

All-time favourite movies include: Withnail & I, Dead Man, Blue Velvet, Cabaret, Dont look Now, Blade Runner, Leon, High Fidelity, Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, Cider House Rules, Apocalypse Now, Terminator 1&2, Wonder Boys, Slacker, Little Miss Sunshine, Peters Friends, City of God, Control, Predator, Crash, The Passenger, Leon, Falling Down, American Beauty, Lost in Translation, Amelie, Last King of Scotland, Blood Diamond, Easy Rider, The Squid & The Whale, Three Colours Blue, Three Colours White, Hidden, The Lives of Others, The Baader Meinhof Complex

I like old movies - Hitchcock's The 39 Steps (original), Vertigo, North by Northwest, Rear Window - Casablanca and Frank Capra films.

and stupid comedy; Dodgeball, Zoolander, Spaceballs & Waynes World 1&2

Music I like and play on my ipod in no particular order: Fuck Buttons, MGMT, Moderat, Public Image Limited, Pretty Girls Make Waves, Bat for Lashes, Talking Heads, Cassiotone for the Painfully Alone, Animal Collective, TV on the Radio, Boards of Canada, Fever Ray, Jeffrey Lewis, Left Field, Love is All, Vector Lovers, Lou Reed, Neutral Milk Hotel, Brian Eno & David Byrne, The Pixies,TV on the Radio, LCD Soundsystem, Of, Montreal, Joanna Newsome, Chemical Brothers, Sigur Ros, Interpol, Arcade Fire, Pavement, Architecture in Helsinki, Mogwai, Radiohead, Underworld, Godspeed you Black Emperor, Wolf Parade, Broken Social Scene, Sufjan Stevens, Beiruit, Gorillaz, Monkey, , Kraftwerk, David Bowie, Pink Flloyd, Led Zeppelin, The Clash, The Who and Neil Young

Joy Division, New Order are possibly my two favourite bands which I listen to over and over again.

I'm currently in love with Crystal Castles and Best Coast

Food: I eat anything. I like seafood and am an unashamed carnivore.

I am also a news-junkie (BBC, CNN, Politico, Huffington Post, the Independent and whatever newspapers are lying about on the tube).

I used to watch a lot of TV, my favourite programmes are The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, Mock The Week and American Dad. I also like a good DVD boxset: I need some new ones after finishing Twin Peaks season 1, The Wire season 1, Mad Men season 1,2 & 3 Six Feet Under (all) & The West Wing (all), Weeds season 1, The Day Today: Peep Show seasons 1 to 4 and seasons 1 & 3 of The Thick of It.
The six things I could never do without
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dark chocolate digestive biscuits & a cup of coffee, a hot morning shower, alcohol, my oyster card, my ipod, brentford football club (I shouldn't include that one but I do like my football).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Will I end up working in politics? Will I move to the States? Will I be able to afford to live in London again before I'm 30? Why do I find it so hard to write essays when the ideas are so clear in my head? Why am I not getting better (quicker) at reading when I do so much of it these days. Will my masters be the difference between doing a pointless job I hate and doing a meaningful one I like? This kind of thing.

Also how did I get to be 27 years old so quickly!?

Unsurprisingly I think a lot about my future, and girls and friendships and all that jazz.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Drunk. Or watching Newsnight Review. - either/or.

Actually, since February neither of these things. I barely go out anymore and Fridays are more about catching up on sleep. I think I would like to change that sometime soon.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Some people consider me untidy and disorganised. This however, is just a front.
You should message me if
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you didn't get bored trawling through this profile, and you find the picture of my blue crayoned face drunkenly, manically smiling on US Election night 2008, as funny as I do.