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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 40-63
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 17
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Not at all
Other and it’s important
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Former ballet dancer/filmmaker/woodworker, wannabe musician, occasional sculptor & composer. A lover of connection and conversation whose soul food is solitude.
What I’m doing with my life
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Rehabbing my quiet cottage on the river. Trying to play guitar, harmonica and piano. Don't ask.

I have a great job as the house carpenter for a world-class music school. So I know just how bad a musician I am! Yet I've been invited to play and compose with this lot. I am very lucky and they are very tolerant.
Eagerly devising and revising my 5- and 10-year plans to get the most travel and art-making time possible. In the meantime I bike, hike/trail run, kayak as much as I can. I'm eager to get back into skiing if someone lures me back onto the slopes.

I'm very athletic and I hate the gym. My CrossFit training is schlepping large loads of lumber, tending my yard, throwing dirt and building materials around.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, thinking outside the box. Procrastinating.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Never asked. Blue eyes? My wicked cool arms?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Histories, bios, Nabokov, Borges, Garcia Marquez. The New Yorker, Louise Erdrich, Graham Greene. Wide range, foreign and domestic.

Raging Bull (and lots of Scorcese), Zoolander, Tropic Thunder, Christopher Guest, Louis Malle, film noir, Herzog, Fassbinder, Cassavetes, Wenders. Boogie Nights! Philip Seymour Hoffman (alas)

Jazz from Bix to Bird to Bill Frissell, blues, The Who, Talking Heads, Tom Waits. Looking at her body of work, Joni Mitchell should win the Nobel Prize. Some hip hop, Beethoven & all kinds of classical & modern. Arvo Part, Third Stream, Americana, West African pop... not a fan of current pop music in general....

No TV, don't have cable. Not a sports nut, but watch the Pats, of course...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My son, six times over
Six strings: EADGBE
Six sibs.
My '67 Guild
Mountains and the woods. Ocean, too.
Kind of Blue.
(Six sidemen and six songs, if you get the '97 reissue)

And the Bonus Track: Richard Thompson's solo on "My Soul, My Soul". Definitely.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Designing and redesigning my cottage. Dating as theory.

I also think about what the Dalai Lama says every time I see him. "You're much better looking than your picture! Not very photogenic, are we?" Such a kidder! But it's true.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Thinking about Saturday and what to do on the house. Thinking about field experience in dating.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Under a flippant, shallow exterior is a flippant, shallow core. Actually, as I get older I find things touch me more and more deeply. I tear up at the drop of a hat. I heard Beethoven's "Ode to Joy" live for the first time recently and I was destroyed. So don't drop a hat while whistling Beethoven.
You should message me if
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You are independent, adventurous, fit, funnyfunnyfunny and a mite askew. You are happily engrossed in your art, your work, your world, looking to forget all that when we're together.