Now to what I want to say that may be different.
I have been on dating sites for way too many years. ( So have some of you. I keep seeing your faces and profiles day after day month after month and year after year!)
I have played the game of searching, messaging, talking on the phone, first meets all of it and I am so frustrated!!!
This is backwards to how it should be. If we were to meet someone through a friend, work, or out, we would know we clicked right away and conversation and getting to know one another would start from there.
When we meet someone through dating sites, the conversation, the getting to know one another starts before you ever know, if face to face, eye to eye you click. So you spend hours connecting with someone. We try to see through messaging if we would click or not. We may be able to figure out that we wouldn’t click with someone but we can never know if we do click until we meet.
After hours of messaging and talking we do one of two things. We either, get board and lose interested and the communication stops before we ever meet. For really no reason at all we just stop talking so we miss the opportunity of meeting. Or we really hit off when talking and messaging and we agree to meet with high hopes that we have finally found someone that we will feel comfortable with someone to enjoy life with. We meet and both or one of us feel no connection at all. We walk away from the meet wondering how we could have not known after all those hours of talking that we would not click enough to want even a second date.
I am tired of all the talking that amounts to nothing until you meet. If you view my pics and profile and you feel the tug that says “I want to know more about this woman” I want you to message me. When you do you be ready to meet me. I am no longer going to spend hours typing and talking before we meet. I am not a desperate, unhappy, lonely woman. I am just a woman who is tired of wasting time.
There is one more thing.
I am not rich by any means, I live comfortably working part time, but I have a hard time getting around a 50 or 60 year old man needing to borrow money for whatever reason. If you can’t buy me a drink today because payday is tomorrow, we have a problem.
People say that love will happen when you are not expecting it to, when you’re not looking. So I am trying not to expect anything but put myself out there. I am trying not to look but keep my eyes open. Grins