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33 San Jose, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 90–98
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Apr 1
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body type
Mostly other
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
English, Polish (Okay), Chinese (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I recently found someone thanks to OKC who is (almost) all the things I wanted in a partner but was too afraid to hope for. I will probably not message you back. If I do, you will be immediately friend-zoned.

I'm still using OKC as a device for personal reflection. The fact that it is public is encouraging my own honesty with myself. You are welcome to read it as a data-point for your own path of discovery through this crazy inter-web.

I'm conflicted about this profile. And dating in general really. I've signed myself up for a lot. I have a project to finish, that I feel really driven to do, in a "meant to do this as my life's work" kind of way. I also do a lot of teaching and mentoring, which is both time consuming and extremely fulfilling. I know I want a romantic relationship in there someplace too. I know how great it is to have someone special with you.

I should be able to find someone without a website to use as a crutch. I'm a pretty decent guy. I'm tall, healthy, thoughtful, mature, sociable, occasionally even social, well-educated, honest, employable, financially stable. Not terrible looking. Confident. I feel like a complete human being. I try to be humble. I Love learning things. I like traveling. I like meeting people. I'm giving with my time. I like progress toward big goals. I'm forward thinking. I'm patient, considerate, forgiving. But I can remember being a jerk too...

I have standards for myself, that I can't help but judge others by, even though I try not to. I can't stand bad decision making. I can really over-think things. I can be overconfident, which brings my foot into my mouth. And I'm pretty busy and driven at this point in my life.

But I really want a healthy and smart woman to share my time with. I need to be connected to someone. Human beings need to Love. We have to Love.

... I really want a partner in my life. I want someone to share with, and snuggle with, trade back rubs with, to encourage and be encouraged by, someone to challenge me out of my comfort zone, to smear my colors with in this passing blur of a life we have. I want her so badly that my heart aches me into knots, and some nights it pulls me into the emptiness of my single big spoon, driving my imagination into fooling myself she's there, smelling her shadow beside me in vain, hoping that comfort from the future could beam itself back in time, to me, from her, whoever she is... when we find each other, the rest of my world may just crumble away, and that will be ok with me, because she'll finally be here...

Maybe she's out here, on the internet.

Disclaimer : Allergic to cats, and dogs too :(. To different degrees based on the animal. I would have to meet them to find out if I can breathe in the place they live!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I do what I like, and I like what I do. Software and teaching. Very brainy work.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Computers. Arts and crafts. Learning languages. Fixing broken things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I look exactly like my photos. Seriously. Tall, skinny, curly hair. I'm used to being asked how old I am by strangers. I feel like I'm finally getting older though.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Avocados, Tomatoes, and Salmon get special mention.

The rest of it makes good conversation for later, so I won't spoil anything here.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Teaching, Computers, Science, Deep thoughts, Success, Unintentional failure (for the Wisdom and Humility it brings).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Really nerdy hobbies. Algorithms I need to implement. Spiritual awareness. Hope for someone special in my life. Reality.

One day, you and everyone who remembers you will be dead. This is true for everyone. This is an inescapable fact. My response to it has been realizing the emptiness of my own mortal wants, and seeking the discipline to work for the whole of Humanity that will succeed me. My response has also been to enjoy some of those mortal wants while I still can, sometimes quite impulsively. And my response has been to seek God (ignoring religious constraint), and find the value of community and a love-giving lifestyle. If my partner doesn't want to think and feel about this sort of stuff, a long term relationship may be out of reach. I want a partner for all the parts of this journey, including the spiritual one.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably somewhere in the California Bay Area.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I had a long and fairly robust OKCupid profile once, thousands of words long. Multiple people called it a Novella. I may share it with you after we meet, if you are interested.
You should message me if
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my profile seems interesting to you.

I'm probably not going to message you first. Not shy, just busy ... I'm trying not to get distracted, while hoping to get distracted.