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chort

32 M San Jose, CA

My Details

Last Online
May 21
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Skinny
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Speaks
English, Polish (Okay), Chinese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm conflicted about this profile. And dating in general really. I've signed myself up for a lot. I have a project to finish, that I feel really driven to do, in a "meant to do this as my life's work" kind of way. I also do a lot of teaching and mentoring, which is both time consuming and extremely fulfilling. I know I want a romantic relationship in there someplace too. I know how great it is to have someone special with you.

I should be able to find someone without a website to use as a crutch. I'm a pretty decent guy. I'm tall, healthy, thoughtful, mature, sociable, occasionally even social, well-educated, honest, employable, financially stable. Not terrible looking. Confident. I feel like a complete human being. I try to be humble. I Love learning things. I like traveling. I like meeting people. I'm giving with my time. I like progress toward big goals. I'm forward thinking. I'm patient, considerate, forgiving. But I can remember being a jerk too... I've made mistakes in relationships that I regret.

I have standards for myself, that I can't help but judge others by, even though I try not to. I can't stand bad decision making. I can really over-think things. I can be overconfident, which brings my foot into my mouth. And I'm pretty busy and driven at this point in my life...

But I really want a healthy and smart woman to share my time with. I need to be connected to someone. Human beings need to Love. We have to Love.

... I really want a partner in my life. I want someone to share with, and snuggle with, trade back rubs with, to encourage and be encouraged by, someone to challenge me out of my comfort zone, to smear my colors with in this passing blur of a life we have. I want her so badly that my heart aches me into knots, and some nights it pulls me into the emptiness of my single big spoon, driving my imagination into fooling myself she's there, smelling her shadow beside me in vain, hoping that comfort from the future could beam itself back in time, to me, from her, whoever she is... when we find each other, the rest of my world may just crumble away, and that will be ok with me, because she'll finally be here...

Maybe she's out here, on the internet.

Disclaimer : Allergic to cats, and dogs too :(
What I’m doing with my life
I do what I like, and I like what I do. Software and teaching. Very brainy work.
I’m really good at
Computers. Arts and crafts. Learning languages. Fixing broken things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I look exactly like my photos. Seriously. Tall, skinny, curly hair. It's weird to get asked how old I am by strangers. Though recently, that has been happening less.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Avocados, Tomatoes, and Salmon get special mention.
The six things I could never do without
Teaching, Computers, Science.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Really nerdy hobbies. Spiritual awareness. Hope for someone special in my life. Reality.
On a typical Friday night I am
probably somewhere in the California Bay Area.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I had a fairly robust OKCupid profile once, thousands of words long. Multiple people called it a Novella. Ask if you're interested in seeing it.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if
my profile seems interesting to you.

I'm probably not going to message you first. Not shy, just busy ... I'm trying not to get distracted, while hoping to get distracted.