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33 San Jose, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27-35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 4" (1.93m)
Body Type
Christianity and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
English, Polish (Somewhat), Chinese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm conflicted about this profile.

I should be able to find someone without a website to use as a crutch. I'm a pretty decent guy. I'm tall, healthy, thoughtful, mature, sociable, occasionally even social, well-educated, honest, employable, financially stable. Not terrible looking. Confident. I feel like a complete human being. I try to be humble. I Love learning things. I like traveling. I like meeting people. I'm giving with my time, and my life feels full as a result. I like progress toward big goals. I'm forward thinking. I'm patient, forgiving, I try to be considerate. But I can remember being a jerk too...

I have standards for myself, that I can't help but judge others by, even though I try not to. I can't stand bad decision making, especially group think. I can really over-think things. I can be overconfident, and say dumb things. But I know my mistakes don't define me.

I really want a healthy and smart woman to share my time with. I need to be connected to someone. I need to touch, and be touched. Human beings need to Love. We have to Love.

... I need a partner in my life... someone to share with, and snuggle with, trade back rubs with, to encourage and be encouraged by, someone to challenge me out of my comfort zone, to smear my colors with in this passing blur of a life we have. Some nights, my heart aches me into knots, it pulls me into the emptiness of my single big spoon, driving my imagination into fooling me that she's there, smelling her shadow beside me, hoping that comfort from the future could beam itself back-in-time, to me, from her, whoever she is...

Maybe she's out here, on the internet.

Disclaimer : Allergic to cats, and dogs too :(. To different degrees based on the animal, but it is usually pretty bad. I really like both cats and dogs, but this is enough of a deal breaker that it I need to be upfront and honest.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I do what I like, and I like what I do. Software and teaching. Very brainy work.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Computers. Arts and crafts. Learning languages. Fixing broken things. Teaching (I've been told). Communicating?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I look exactly like my photos. Seriously. Tall, skinny, curly hair. I'm used to being asked how old I am by strangers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Avocados, Tomatoes, and Salmon get special mention.

The rest of it makes good conversation for later, so I won't spoil anything here.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Teaching, Computers, Science, Deep thoughts, Success, Unintentional Failure (because success will not teach me Humility or Wisdom).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Really nerdy hobbies. Algorithms I need to implement. Side projects. Spiritual awareness. Hope for someone special in my life. Reality.

One day, you and everyone who remembers you will be dead. All of the artifacts of your life will eventually crumble into dust and vanish, consumed by who is next. This is true for everyone. This is an inescapable fact. My response to it has been realizing the emptiness of many of my own mortal wants, and seeking the discipline to work for the whole of Humanity that will succeed me. My response has also been to try to enjoy life while I still can. And my response has been to seek God (ignoring religious constraint), and find divinity in a compassionate, love-giving lifestyle. I want a partner for this living journey.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably somewhere in the California Bay Area.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I had a long and fairly robust OKCupid profile once, thousands of words long. Some joked that it was a 'novella'. I may share it if you are interested.

I try to be extremely open+honest with myself, and with others, to the limits of their attention. I won't pollute your mental/emotional space with my private stories of past-tragedies, or doubts, ... unless you ask or it makes sense in conversation.
You should message me if
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my profile seems interesting.

I'm probably not going to message you first. And certainly not if you are browsing anonymously. Not shy, just staying focused on things I can expect ... and hoping to get distracted by someone-I'm-not-expecting.