I recently found someone thanks to OKC who is (almost) all the things I wanted in a partner but was too afraid to hope for. I will probably not message you back. If I do, you will be immediately friend-zoned.
I'm still using OKC as a device for personal reflection. The fact that it is public is encouraging my own honesty with myself. You are welcome to read it as a data-point for your own path of discovery through this crazy inter-web.
I'm conflicted about this profile. And dating in general really. I've signed myself up for a lot. I have a project to finish, that I feel really driven to do, in a "meant to do this as my life's work" kind of way. I also do a lot of teaching and mentoring, which is both time consuming and extremely fulfilling. I know I want a romantic relationship in there someplace too. I know how great it is to have someone special with you.
I should be able to find someone without a website to use as a crutch. I'm a pretty decent guy. I'm tall, healthy, thoughtful, mature, sociable, occasionally even social, well-educated, honest, employable, financially stable. Not terrible looking. Confident. I feel like a complete human being. I try to be humble. I Love learning things. I like traveling. I like meeting people. I'm giving with my time. I like progress toward big goals. I'm forward thinking. I'm patient, considerate, forgiving. But I can remember being a jerk too...
I have standards for myself, that I can't help but judge others by, even though I try not to. I can't stand bad decision making. I can really over-think things. I can be overconfident, which brings my foot into my mouth. And I'm pretty busy and driven at this point in my life.
But I really want a healthy and smart woman to share my time with. I need to be connected to someone. Human beings need to Love. We have to Love.
... I really want a partner in my life. I want someone to share with, and snuggle with, trade back rubs with, to encourage and be encouraged by, someone to challenge me out of my comfort zone, to smear my colors with in this passing blur of a life we have. I want her so badly that my heart aches me into knots, and some nights it pulls me into the emptiness of my single big spoon, driving my imagination into fooling myself she's there, smelling her shadow beside me in vain, hoping that comfort from the future could beam itself back in time, to me, from her, whoever she is... when we find each other, the rest of my world may just crumble away, and that will be ok with me, because she'll finally be here...
Maybe she's out here, on the internet.
Disclaimer : Allergic to cats, and dogs too :(. To different degrees based on the animal. I would have to meet them to find out if I can breathe in the place they live!