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34 • Oakland, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 26–35
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Jan 6
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Other, and laughing about it
- Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
- Dropped out of two-year college
- Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), German (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)
I spend my time selling rice and almonds at the farmers' market, hanging out with my 4 year old god-daughter a couple days each week, working for a short list of preferred clients and their friends doing odd jobs (mowing, house cleaning, moving, construction, organization of space, carpentry, installing tile, replacing fixtures [both plumbed and electric]), working on home-based projects (most recently a built-in bed and wooden shelves), cooking rice and kale, making/drinking homebrew and kombucha, canning and preserving soups and stews (made 12 gallons of chili in August [8 gals veggie, 4 gals meaty], canned 200 lbs of strawberries, 300 lbs of blueberries, and something close to 500 lbs of apricots), dehydrating fruit (this season, hundreds of pounds of apricots and 30 pounds of strawberries), hanging out with friends, culturing milk into yogurt, baking granola, fermenting cabbage into kraut, pickling cucumbers, and waxing cheese. In February and March, I clarified 110 lbs of butter into ghee. I buy my food/trade from the local farmers' market and local farmers, canning and dehydrating in season to enjoy out-of-season, living within the constraints of local and in season. I love ball (made in the USA) mason jars; I use them for everything. I take a plate to taco trucks, refill kegs with beer made on site, bring a jar with me for leftovers, and carry a re-usable water bottle.
I'd like to meet good people and make new friends. I'm interested in a deep, loving, affectionate partnership/relationship/friendship. I'd prefer to have a solid friendship foundation before trying to build a romantic/sexual relationship on top. I am a monogamist; I don't engage in sexual activities with people who are in active sexual relationships with another person. Call me old fashioned; the health risks are high and I believe outweigh the potential benefits. I do want you to have other close friendships/relationships that include emotional intimacy. No one person can meet all the needs of another nor be responsible for those needs to be met. We can share our observations, express our feelings and needs and make requests of each other to meet our own needs.
I tend to feel uncomfortable being in large groups of people unless I'm with someone I feel comfortable with or I can find a spot against a wall to stand or a place to fall asleep.
"All I really need is a song in my heart, food in my belly, and love in my family"
I want to reduce my dependency on corporations, both as the provider of my income and the provider of my goods and services. And in action that looks like: trading and buying goods and services from local businesses and farmers' markets and doing without unnecessary "conveniences" especially those which are resource or energy intensive. Making fewer american dollars and incidentally paying fewer dollars to taxes, creating many of my own end-products from renewable resources from the local area and region, establishing trades (including work trades) with others also making their own products or working for small businesses.
you'd like a home-cooked meal or a homebrew...
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