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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30-36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 5:42pm
Relationship Type
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
A little extra
Special Diet
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has cats
English, French, Spanish
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My Myers-Briggs test says I'm JK-LOL; my Briggs & Stratton test says I'm a hemi.

To the handful of people who 'liked' me: thanks, I'm flattered. Too bad I have no idea who you are. To those who are considering 'liking' me, how about just messaging me instead?

I saw a comment on a woman's profile that said she only got one reply per 100 messages she sent; hrm, I thought that was something that only happened to us guys...

I've seen too many comments like "I'm a tee and jeans kinda gal, but I also like to dress to the nines," I.E. vague. That's what inspired me to come up with my sliders:

..quality ---|------- quantity
.Indoors ----|------ outdoors
...woods --|-------- beach
.....dogs ---------|- cats
.eat out -------|--- cook ---|------- improvise
....liberal -|--------- conservative
...winter ----|------ summer
..boozer --------|-- teatotaler ---------|- cocktail
....bland -------|--- spicy
..artistic --------|-- technical
......bold ------|---- shy
.humble ---|------- proud
.....timid -------|--- confident
focused --------|-- flighty
.....stick -|--------- automatic
...teams ----------| indiv. sports
nightowl --|------- early bird
.....suits -------|--- jeans ---------|- scientist
.love job --|-------- hate job
......lefty -|--------- Righty

I'll add more sliders as they occur to me. Or you can suggest a new one. Feel free to plagiarize my idea; it's not copyrighted!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
My work history is a long and winding road, including in no particular order hotellery, teaching English abroad, freelance language teaching, a brief and miserable stint in retail, and cruise ship work. I started out as Guest Services on the cruise ships, then switched to the onboard IT department, which is where I found my calling. I now do IT support for an engineering firm in Glastonbury, but I'm studying for Linux certification, because I'm tired of supporting Microsoft; it's like being a vegan chef in a steakhouse. So in a nutshell, that's where a BA in French Literature will take you.

I bought a condo as an investment property while away on the cruise ships, but I don't really care for condo life. So I am fixing it up with intent to sell, and then I'll look for a proper house. In the meantime, to streamline the process, I'm living at my mother's place. It's mutually beneficial because my father passed away in January and it's not a good time for her to be alone. So if you won't date a guy who lives with his mother, even under special circumstances, then get back to me in 6 months when I'm living in my own new house. Or better yet, just don't get back to me. ;)

I just lost a loyal companion. I remember taking her home twenty years ago, when she was just days old. I took good care of her and we had good times together, but the last couple of years have been kind of rough, requiring a lot of extra care as she just lost pep. One morning about a month ago I just couldn't get her to move. I did what I could myself, then I took her to an expert. Of course I wanted her to keep going just a little longer; I didn't want to give up. They said it would be expensive to get her back on all fours -prohibitively expensive. So just this morning (29 Oct) I made one of the hardest decisions of my life and sold her for scrap. I loved that Saturn. The good news is, I've already ordered my next car -an all-electric car- and it will be ready in December. I look forward to never changing oil again.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Self deprecation, and I'm really not even that good at it.

I'm getting pretty darn good at cooking; I still mostly work off recipes, but I can usually improvise and modify the recipe if need be.

Also, conserving energy and recycling.

...and procrastinating; I'll elaborate more on that tomorrow...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My outward appearance. That includes my current facial hair status.

Yes, for those keeping track or with strong feelings either way about facial hair: I recently shaved off my thick, raging beard-on. I was sporting a goatee (chin beard, no mustache) while on vacation so my snorkel mask would seal. Now I'm growing back the mustache to have a Van Dyke, which is my usual and preferred look. Occasionally I'll go full beard for a month or three, but that last time I released the Kraken. It's the longest I'd ever let it grow (December to July). One thing's for sure: I don't like going baby-face. You can see both in my primary picture. Which do you prefer?

Or that I'm quite reserved in a mix 'n' mingle scenario. I've got no problem with one-on-one; not so great in a room full of strangers where I'm supposed to just walk up to people and strike up a conversation. Maybe that's why I'm on OkC. I'm just not into meet markets (or is it "meat markets?")
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
[Feel free to skip over this section for now; I know it's long. If you'd like to say hi after seeing the rest of my profile, then you can browse through this list to look for a nice juicy ice-breaking nugget. That's what I do ;) ]

Northampton, it's got the best fun to driving distance ratio of any place around (and yes, it's not a book, movie, show, music or food, but it's got all that going on); Postmodern Jukebox; I like French-press coffee as much for the ritual as for the good coffee; mostly sci-fi books, particularly James P. Hogan or William Gibson (Go Wintermute!); Unforgiven is the only western I like; Good Eats (which luckily lives on in the YouTubes. We'll miss you Alton); Perhaps my favorite song of all time is "In the Waiting Line" by Zero-7; sushi; I have read the entire Harry Potter series, and I'm not ashamed of it; Memento; the Daily Show(the new host ain't bad); Reggie Watts; Indian cuisine; I've read four Dan Brown novels, and I definitely see a pattern/formula to his stories, but he's still a pretty good page-turner; the Matrix (just the first one); Futurama; Lately, I've been "tuning in" to SoMa FM (digital streaming out of San Fran) and enjoying several of their channels, particularly the randomness of "Cover Me;" Alton Brown's breakfast smoothie; the Abyss; some of the home improvement/woodworking shows on CPTV Create (971 'round here); my own music collection is pretty diverse, to the point that I don't think one could categorize me by it; fresh baked bread (particularly when the weather's cooler); Shaun of the Dead; Used to love HGTV and Food Network before everything went all reality/competition; Admittedly, for a long time I pretty much listened to whatever Clear Channel and Mtv threw my way, but those days are over; blueberry-cornmeal pancakes; Serenity; loved Dexter right up until the finale, then I deleted the entire series out of disgust; Italian cuisine...especially lasagna and ratatouille; the Princess Bride; Big Bang Theory isn't bad; I own just about everything xTc has ever done; I miss Firefly and wish it would come back like Futurama did. Or at least a sequel to Serenity. And I guess here is the best place to confess my addiction to the Walking Dead. I can't walk through a hardware store anymore without asking myself, "would that hammer stop a walker? Could I make a crossbow out of that spring steel?" It's my only must-see TV, and if I could figure out a way to stream or download episodes, I could probably quit the rest of TV cold-turkey.

Favorite quote: "Cooking is like love. It should be entered into with abandon or not at all." -Harriet Van Horne
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot. no particular order:

1)My cast iron skillet; it does pancakes, braised chicken, home defense, fly swatting... what doesn't it do?!?

2)Linux; Kubuntu in particular, but open-source software in general.

3)NPR, both the radio and the app (this entry used to be the Daily Show/Colbert Report hour, but now I get most of my news from NPR).

4)The four seasons. No, not the la-dee-dah hotel; the actual seasons. I haven't gone a whole calendar year w/o at least one snowfall, even during all my times abroad.

5)the Dvorak keyboard layout. Ask me or Google it.

6)My slow-cooker. The ultimate bachelor accessory.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well, I recently got back from vacation by a lake in ME, which included some amazing snorkeling, so that's on my mind.

Hydroponics. I've always been fascinated by the concept, but lately I've been considering practical applications. Alas, it will have to wait until I get my living arrangements sorted out.

Sous-vide cooking. I recently got an immersion rig and have been trying different things with it.

Has there ever been an all-poultry restaurant? There should be. There are steakhouses and seafood restaurants, but I don't know of any poultry restaurants... aside from some all-turkey restaurants, but I'm talking about all types of poultry. Think about it: chicken, turkey, duck, goose, pheasant, quail, cornish game hen (which yes, I know, are just young chickens), maybe even ostrich steaks. Of course there'd be the token beef and fish entrees, but otherwise, the possibilities are virtually endless, especially if they included both farmed and wild-caught birds.

Also: pressure cooker recipes; Crock-Pot recipes; skillet recipes; sous-vide recipes; recipes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cooking or baking. I don't like to try new recipes on the other weeknights because they can often run long unexpectedly; It might turn out something needed marinading overnight, or I may have to run to the store for a missing ingredient, etc. So I like to do my experimenting on Friday evenings. If I really get into it, I can always sleep in on Saturday, and I've been known to tinker in the kitchen until the wee hours.

Also, I usually stop by the Whole Foods and Harkens market on the way home on Fridays, so that's when the ingredients are fresh. There's a wholesome satisfaction I get from coming home with bags full of fresh produce and restocking the fridge.

Otherwise, I'm up for anything. What did you have in mind?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I spent about nine months studying in Spain on an expired visa. We all (the students in my group) went over on 3-month tourist visas and were supposed to stop by the town hall to get a student extension before it expired. But the day I passed by, the line was out the door, so I skipped it and never went back.

I photoshopped (well, technically "gimped") the extra depth of field into three of my pics.

I have the same laptop as Wolowitz and Sheldon

I baby-talk to my cats.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
and ONLY IF you're sitting in front of a computer right now (or on your smarty-device). As long as you're sincere, I'll reply.

You don't base your relationship expectations on what you've seen in romantic comedies. I don't think replying to an OkC message could qualify as a "meet cute" anyway.

You're in CT or MA and your county starts with an H, or your town borders one of them (I'm lookin' at you, neighbors in Tolland County...). Anything else and we're probably too far. My work is in Glastonbury and sometimes takes me down to New Haven, so I will take that into consideration as well.

You play Settlers of Catan. I'm getting kind of tired of beating my computer at it (or being beaten by it, as is sometimes the case). That's certainly not a deal-breaker, but it's definitely a +1 in the Pros column!

Also -and I guess this goes without saying- you're modern enough to agree that it's cool for a woman to make the first move sometimes.