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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:00pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
A little extra
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
To the handful of people who 'liked' me: thanks, I'm flattered. Too bad I have no idea who you are. To those who are considering 'liking' me, how about just messaging me instead?

(Dec '14) FYI for those keeping track or with strong feelings either way about facial hair, I've just gone from my usual goatee to full beard. It'll probably be a month or so before I go back.

I saw a comment on a woman's profile that said she only got one reply per 100 messages she sent; hrm, I thought that was just something that happened to us guys...

I've seen too many comments like "I'm a tee and jeans kinda gal, but I also like to dress to the nines," I.E. vague. That's what inspired me to come up with my sliders:

..quality ---|------- quantity
.Indoors ----|------ outdoors
...woods --|-------- beach
.....dogs ---------|- cats
.eat out -------|--- cook ---|------- improvise
....liberal -|--------- conservative
...winter ----|------ summer
..boozer --------|-- teatotaler ---------|- cocktail
....bland -------|--- spicy
..artistic --------|-- technical
......bold ------|---- shy
.humble ---|------- proud
.....timid -------|--- confident
focused --------|-- flighty
.....stick -|--------- automatic
...teams ----------| indiv. sports
nightowl --|------- early bird
.....suits -------|--- jeans ---------|- scientist
.love job --|-------- hate job
......lefty -|--------- Righty

I'll add more sliders as they occur to me. Or you can suggest a new one. Feel free to plagiarize my idea; it's not copyrighted!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Lately, it seems I've been spending way too much time maintaining my car. I'm not a gearhead or a grease monkey, but I'm the original owner of a '95 Saturn and proud of that fact. Just last weekend (11/16) I replaced the thermostat; the weekend before that was a burst coolant hose. There's always more to do, but it's still a good little car w/ 86k miles on it (it spent a lot of time in storage while I was away). Pretty sure my next car will be a Tesla... when the price comes down or my salary goes up :D
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Self deprecation, and I'm really not even that good at it.

coming up with project ideas. My home-improvement dreams can be pretty wild and ambitious sometimes. I do come up with realistic ones, too. Also, saving energy and recycling. And I have a killer oatmeal raisin cookie recipe and an awesome falafel recipe.

...and procrastinating; I'll elaborate more on that tomorrow...
The first things people usually notice about me
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My outward appearance.

Or that I'm quite reserved in a mix 'n' mingle scenario. I've got no problem with one-on-one; not so great in a room full of strangers where I'm supposed to just walk up to people and strike up a conversation. Maybe that's why I'm on OkC. I'm just not into meet markets (or is it "meat markets?")
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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[Feel free to skip over this section for now. If you'd like to say hi after seeing the rest of my profile, then you can browse through this list to look for a nice ice-breaking nugget. That's what I do ;) ]

Northampton, it's got the best fun to driving distance ratio of any place around (and yes, it's not a book, movie, show, music or food, but it's got all that going on); Postmodern Jukebox; I like French-press coffee as much for the ritual as for the good coffee; mostly sci-fi books, particularly James P. Hogan or William Gibson (Go Wintermute!); Unforgiven is the only western I like; Good Eats (which luckily lives on in the YouTubes. We'll miss you Alton); Perhaps my favorite song of all time is "In the Waiting Line" by Zero-7; sushi; I have read the entire Harry Potter series, and I'm not ashamed of it; Memento; the Daily Show; Just recently discovered Reggie Watts; he's my commutin' buddy; Indian cuisine; I've read four Dan Brown novels, and I definitely see a pattern/formula to his stories, but he's still a pretty good page-turner; the Matrix (just the first one); Futurama; Lately, I've been "tuning in" to SoMa FM (digital streaming out of San Fran) and enjoying several of their channels, particularly the randomness of "Cover Me;" Alton Brown's breakfast smoothie; the Abyss; some of the home improvement/woodworking shows on CPTV Create (971 'round here); my own music collection is pretty diverse, to the point that I don't think one could categorize me by it; fresh baked bread (particularly when the weather's cooler); Shaun of the Dead; Used to love HGTV and Food Network before everything went all reality/competition; Admittedly, for a long time I pretty much listened to whatever Clear Channel and Mtv threw my way, but those days are over; blueberry-cornmeal pancakes; Serenity; loved Dexter right up until the finale, then I deleted the entire series out of disgust; Italian...especially lasagna and ratatouille; the Princess Bride; Big Bang Theory isn't bad; I own just about everything xTc has ever done; I miss Firefly and wish it would come back like Futurama did. Or at least a sequel to Serenity. And I guess here is the best place to confess my addiction to the Walking Dead. I can't walk through a hardware store anymore without asking myself, "would that hammer stop a walker? Could I make a crossbow out of that spring steel?" It's my only must-see TV, and if I could figure out a way to stream or download episodes, I could probably quit the rest of TV cold-turkey.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot. no particular order:

1)My cast iron skillet; it does pancakes, braised chicken, home defense, fly swatting... what doesn't it do?!?

2)Linux; Kubuntu in particular, but open-source software in general.

3)the Daily Show/Colbert Report hour (I'm still in denial about that second half; I'm sure it's all just a big prank.)

4)Toe socks. It would be hard to go back to regular socks now.

5)the Dvorak keyboard layout. Ask me or Google it.

6)My slow-cooker. The ultimate bachelor accessory.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately? Hydroponics. I've always found the concept intriguing, but I started thinking practically about how to do it while I was making chicken broth. I was thinking about how the nutrients in the veg and the protein in the bones (in the form of collagen) leach out into the broth; and then I thought: I could get nutrient-rich growing water without using chemicals or fertilizer by steeping compost in water, essentially making 'compost tea.' It's not a new concept as it turns out. I haven't actually started growing yet, and I'm not sure if it will ever come to fruition, but I have got the vat and irrigation designs all figured out in my head. In a fit of confidence, I even ordered a couple of grow bulbs on Amazon. My first crop will be beets. So that's what I've been thinking about a lot lately.

Has there ever been an all-poultry restaurant? There should be. There are steakhouses and seafood restaurants, but I don't know of any poultry restaurants... aside from some all-turkey restaurants, but I'm talking about all types of poultry. Think about it: chicken, turkey, duck, goose, pheasant, quail, cornish game hen (which yes, I know, are just young chickens), maybe even ostrich steaks. Of course there'd be the token beef and fish entrees, but otherwise, the possibilities are virtually endless, especially if they included both farmed and wild-caught birds.

Also: pressure cooker recipes; Crock-Pot recipes; skillet recipes; recipes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
up for anything. What did you have in mind?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I spent about nine months studying in Spain on an expired visa. We all (the students in my group) went over on 3-month tourist visas and were supposed to stop by the town hall to get a student extension before it expired. But the day I passed by, the line was out the door, so I skipped it and never went back.

I photoshopped (well, technically "gimped") the extra depth of field into three of my pics.

I have the same laptop as Wolowitz and Sheldon

I baby-talk to my cats.
You should message me if
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and ONLY IF you're sitting in front of a computer right now (or on your smarty-phone or tablet). As long as you're sincere, I'll reply.

You don't base your relationship expectations on what you've seen in romantic comedies. I don't think replying to an OkC message could qualify in any way as a "meet cute" anyway.

You're in CT or MA and your county starts with an H, or your town borders one of them (I'm lookin' at you, neighbors in Tolland County...). Anything else and we're probably too far. Pro-tip: the Phillipines, Russia, and Puerto Rico are all too far, and I won't bother to reply. My work is in Glastonbury and sometimes takes me down to New Haven, so I will take that into consideration as well.

Also (and I guess this goes without saying), you're modern enough to agree that it's cool for a woman to make the first move sometimes.