Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Recently moved to Edinburgh to begin a PhD program. Looking to meet
some like-hearted people who love life and don't take themselves
I am a contradiction and i prefer to deal with situations as they
come rather than following a rigid set of ideals. i like walking,
and spending time with people who know what they want and are also
open to exploration and experience as a guiding principle. i think
there's a world of difference between sensuality and sexuality and
appreciate both. i thrive on intellectual connection and love
silence and simplicity in equal parts. i think poetry might be the
highest expression of the human soul. i can't go to bed angry. i
like slow mornings that revolve around espresso.
i'm on here as someone who's used to having a wide range of friends
with different interests and I'm exited to meet new people and
learn new things and of course new experiences.
i have a sense of humour and i'm not afraid to use it. i adore
witty-vulgarity and love people who will take it to the next level,
and the next after that. i find other than toronto natives, the
only other people who seem to get it are people from new york. i
think it has something to do with growing up in an overwhelmingly
multicultural setting and learning to take nothing as sacred and
making fun of everyone equally. americans think canadians are
polite, but for the most part they're actually just passive
aggressive and are only nice to americans because they feel
culturally superior to them.
I find it remarkable how many women on here describe themselves as
"easy going" and "laid back." The funny thing is, in everyday life
i've *never* met anyone who is always "easy going" and "laid back."
I can only assume that you're lying to yourselves, or are putting
forward an incomplete representation of yourselves in the belief
that a potential partner wants you to be pacified and not carry any
strong convictions. This video offers a brilliant perspective on
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
For the most part, trying to get out of the way and allowing the
universe to unfold however it needs to -- luckily, i've learned
that this often leads to a full and exciting life full of wonder,
good people, and deeply meaningful experiences. At the moment that
translates into a lot of grant writing, slow travel, offering my
time/energy wherever it's needed, and figuring out next steps.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
improvising - in the broadest sense of the term
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People who's eyes are too close together would likely notice me
eyeing them suspiciously.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
BOOKS: Can't say I'm able to devote tons of time to reading for
'pleasure' when my full-time job is reading for my dissertation,
but when I do take a break, I've recently enjoyed "The Song of
Achilles" by Madeline Miller, and "Die Wise: A Manifesto For Sanity
and Soul" by Stephen Jenkinson.
MUSIC: i listen to a lot of music sung in languages i don't
understand, however i hate crappy-fusion-world-music and can often
feel personally offended if subjected to it. i think people who
name-drop obscure musicians are obnoxious.
MOVIES: i haven't owned a tv in 10 years and i watch movies seldom,
when i do its usually a documentary or has subtitles. i did a film
degree out of highschool and worked in the commercial tv/film
industry in toronto in which i had to work on countless productions
whose focus was some combination of well-lit-tits &
over-excited-guns. i quit because it was unfulfilling, and i value
my time too much to watch anything similar even for the sake of
FOOD: i have lots of views on food and i find people's feelings on
the subject to be fascinating. when most people meet me they assume
i'm vegetarian, but i'm not, however i lived in a vegetarian
intentional community without a problem. i'm much more interested
in people who are passionate and well informed in their views than
people who happen to think the same as i do.
DISLIKES: Richard Dawkins, sport hunting, people who stop in the
middle of a busy side-walk to text, everything on the wrong side of
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to live a fulfilling life. Donkeys. Why johnny marr never did
anything memorable after the smiths. St francis. Southern spain.
Imagined road trips. Preachy atheists. Anselm Kiefer. Why americans
don't have passports. That woman in the gas station in Taos with
the sparkle-eyes. Ship wreck ballads. Istanbul. How post-modern
continental philosophy is really just a bunch of old white men
masturbating each other and being quoted in every dissertation from
here to the moon. The influence of early medieval Islamic
imperialism in Spain and its manifestation within colonial american
rituals of possesion in the 16th century.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i'm suspicious of people whose eyes are too close together
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Hows aboot you should *not* message me if:
- you treat animals badly
- you treat yourself badly
- you're passive
- you're passive aggressive
- you've internalized dominant-culture gender norms
- you're looking for someone/something to complete you
- getting your way is more important to you than finding
creative/collaborative solutions to life's challenges
- "i don't care" is a position you often take
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