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35 Brooklyn, NY Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26-38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Black, White
6' 1" (1.85m)
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
This is a work in progress, but for now I'll just say that I’m smart, funny, silly, and unlikely to turn weird on you after a few promising conversations. I'm still figuring a few things out, but I know what's important and I'm not afraid of complicated/real.

Update: I really have nothing to add to this, except that I'm probably more fun than this intro makes me sound.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work at a white collar private investigation firm, but I'm also trying to decide whether grad school in my mid-late 30s is a good idea.

Also: Reading/learning, going to the movies as often as possible, DJing occasionally, hanging with friends, turning off Mets games in disgust, dancing to Future in my living room at 2 in the morning, etc.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking and listening, trivia, belly laughs, synthesizing information (said in an electronic voice), sorting through confusion, nodding in approval.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Stump and glass eye?

Joking. I guess the first thing would be, “Whoa, that's a big dude." Followed by, “Ok, well that's not what I expected."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food: Tacos, iced coffee, a good steak, pistachios, spicy Sichuan, stuff you dip into other stuff. The Jew (mother's side)/New Yorker in me requires at least one bagel per week.

Shows: Deadwood, The Wire, Mad Men, Jeopardy, Twin Peaks, Simpsons, Hannibal (really), Game of Thrones, Rectify, Peep Show, Louie, Broad City, etc. We all like the same stuff, apparently.

Movies: Unforgiven, Apocalypse Now, (Forget it, Jake. It's) Chinatown, Long Goodbye, Big Trouble in Little China, Fearless, Dirty Pretty Things, The Wild Bunch, Blade Runner, Children of Men, Coen Brothers, The Thing, Alphaville, Groundhog Day, Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, After Hours, etc. Also, plenty of the horror/sci-fi stuff your average fanboy is into (as if this site needed another nerd with dreams of killing zombies and piloting the Millennium Falcon).

Recent stuff I liked: Inherent Vice, Boyhood, Selma, John Wick, Under the SKin, Only Lovers Left Alive, Phoenix.

Music: Bruce Springsteen and Sam Cooke are essential/restorative. Also - Talking Heads performing This Must Be the Place, Paul Simon singing Graceland, David Bowie, Nina Simone*, Motown, Stax, and other 60s and 70s soul, Iggy Pop, Fever Ray, Thin Lizzy, Prince, Outkast, and Leonard Cohen's sort-of-cheesy almost apocalyptic sounding stuff from the 80s ("I'd crawl to you baby, And I'd fall at your feet, And I'd howl at your beauty, Like a dog in heat, And I'd claw at your heart, And I'd tear at your sheet, I'd say please, I'm your man").

I also dig hip hop/rap, mainly stuff that makes you want to dance and/or flip over tables.

Books: Nick Hornby, Philip K. Dick, Paradise Lost, Wonder Boys, Ragtime, Born Again, Watchmen and other stuff written by Alan Moore, The Right Stuff, Kurt Vonnegut, Graham Greene, Lord of Light by Roger Zelazny, Neil Gaiman, Charles Willeford, Hunter S. Thompson (but for his romanticism and vulnerability, not as a cult of personality), I Was Dora Suarez, The Goodbye Look, and plenty of stuff that falls under the category of noir, or pulp (Dashiell Hammett, Chandler, Ross Macdonald, Lawrence Block, Richard Stark, etc.). Book recommendations are welcome and much appreciated.

Recently read Baldwin's Notes of a Native Son and was blown away by the honesty of his writing and the power/beauty of his language.

Also, I would just like to say that I do not like this Kindle stuff.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Laughs, whiskey (not really, but it sounds cool), portable music, boots, stories, girls in their summer clothes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Courage, clarity, humility, school, social construction, hope for the future vs fear for the future, what to eat for lunch.

Also, where to live in NYC. I love my city in its totality, but I'm growing increasingly discouraged by what's happening to its neighborhoods.

Also, is there anybody alive out there????!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Howling at the moon.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've watched more than a few episodes of VH1's "Mob Wives."
You should message me if
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I'm into smart, kind people who are prone to laughter and have a nose for bullshit (presumably mine included)

But whatever, just do it