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40 M San Francisco, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:38am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), German (Poorly), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I asked a friend for input recently while hiking. She came up with these three items:
1. "Well, you're literate."
2. "You didn't laugh and point when I tripped."
3. "You made sure I didn't fall off that cliff."

Seems like a good start. Here are some other miscellaneous things that make me, well, me...

I own a picnic basket.

My drinks of choice are Manhattans and smoky single malts.

Discussions about the weather and the phrase "circle back" make me want to rip my ears off.

I never break my promises.

Food is a passion. I can cook. Seriously. With ingredients and everything.

I miss having a dog. I'm planning to remedy that this fall. Now accepting breed recommendations (and yes, "just go the pound and save a mutt" is an acceptable recommendation).

From time to time, I'm wrong about something. I know how to apologize.

I've taken adult education classes on glassblowing, criminology, and sushi making.

I tell long meandering stories, with tangents, asides, and backtracks, all the while forgetting the original point.

One winter, I lived at a ski house in Vermont.

Among my most important knowledge is the best bakery in Boston.

I'm a pescatarian... unless I'm in a situation where it's FAR more interesting not to be (tasting menu at a five star restaurant, ballgame, Bizarre Asian Foods class, Alabama...).

The same day I cracked my head open, I learned how to whistle.

I know how to operate a Ferris wheel.
What I’m doing with my life
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Picked up and moved from Boston to San Francisco a year and a half ago. Now I'm exploring this new world and loving every minute of it, especially being outside without freezing to death! I'm having fun hiking, looking to dust off my inline skates and skiboards (not a typo), and I imagine surfing is coming soon too.

Suffered through a job I didn't much care for last year (have to cover that spendy SF lifestyle somehow), but now I'm at my dream job. 2014 is moving along right!

While I don't expect to become ascetic, I'm switching from a life of things to a life of experiences. It's a work in progress but one I'm enjoying. Things on shelves are meaning less and less to me every day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Remembering things long forgotten.

Dropping more references than a one-armed librarian.

My mad scientist laugh.

Making you laugh (with or without use of my mad scientist laugh).

Being tall. I use my powers for good.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I've traded in hoodies for cufflinks.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Words: I'm equally happy reading hard-boiled mysteries, Shakespeare, graphic novels, cookbooks, biographies, non-fiction, etc. I generally skip modern fiction. I currently have my bookmark in Modernist Cuisine, and I'm eying some classics sitting on my shelf (okay, iPad) - Proust heads the list.

Pictures: Seurat, Mondrian, Pollock, Escher, Kandinsky, Van Gogh

Words & Pictures: Less and less every day, it seems. Either they are canceled/end (Damages, Breaking Bad) or stop interesting me (Boardwalk Empire, Homeland). I still adore Mad Men though. Others I like(d) are The Killing, Doctor Who, True Detective, Sherlock, Bored To Death, Arrested Development, Happy Endings, Downton Abbey, Daily Show, Sports Night, Buffy, X-Files, Twin Peaks, IT Crowd, Tabletop, and of course, The Wire.

Words & (Bigger) Pictures: The top five are probably Seven Samurai, The Umbrellas Of Cherbourg, Lawrence Of Arabia, The Third Man, and M. Hulot's Holiday, but that's always in some amount of flux. Yep, I like classics. Hey, at least they're talkies...

What? You want some a little more recent? Okay. The Fountain, The Red Violin, Margin Call, Boyhood, and Brick.

I pay much more attention to directors. Favorites there are Akira Kurosawa, Fritz Lang, Jacques Tati, Jean-Luc Godard, Krzysztof Kieślowski, Richard Linklater, Wes Anderson, Edward Burns, John Sayles, Terrence Malick, and Eugene Jarecki.

Sounds: Belle & Sebastian, Spain, Hayden, Mark Eitzel, Yo La Tengo, Pixies, Stereolab, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, Sleater-Kinney, Ivy, The Magnetic Fields, Nick Drake, Neutral Milk Hotel, Olivia Tremor Control, That Dog, Cibo Matto, John Coltrane, Miles Davis, Thelonious Monk, Edith Piaf, Ella Fitzgerald, Billie Holiday, Luna, Rilo Kiley, Cornershop, Throwing Muses, Angelfish, Imperial Teen, Morrissey, The Smiths, Beastie Boys, Sebadoh, Magnapop, Shivaree, Velocity Girl, They Might Be Giants, Concrete Blonde, Velvet Underground, Nirvana, Fountains Of Wayne, I Love You But I've Chosen Darkness (actually, I've never heard the last one but isn't it a great band name?)

BONUS FACT: I was able to have one of those artists play a house party for my 40th birthday - quite the dream!

Mangoes are definitely the best.

Mangosteens are entirely different, much more elusive, and nearly as wonderful.

Will I be flying to Boston in July to have some cucumber ice cream? OhyesIwillthankyouverymuch!

I made koulibiac once and it was very much worth the effort.

Uni at a really good sushi restaurant is an exceptional delight.


A really lemony lemon tart.

Moxie (I don't expect you to like this too - NO ONE but me does.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
opposable thumbs
Poohsticks (don't be scared - look it up)
French footwear
a well-equipped kitchen
Schoolhouse Rock! (if there is a perfect thing in this world, Rufus Xavier Sarsaparilla is surely it)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Airfare pricing models. It's the most inexplicable mystery I know. ;) Okay, I've actually given up and admitted that one to be inscrutable.

I wonder if I can pass Jeanne Calment.

Also, lint. Because it's just weird. Shouldn't the shirt just disappear eventually?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
raiding OKCupid for all the good answers while the rest of you are out drinking. Mwah ha ha ha...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I enjoy knock knock jokes far more than anyone over the age of eight probably should.
You should message me if
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There used to be a long checklist of what I was looking for, but it's pretty well narrowed down at this point: 1. Please try not to stab me. 2. NEVER ask me to rake leaves.

If you know what you want, and that happens to be a real long-term relationship that you're willing to put some effort into, that would be nice as well. But mostly it's the leaves.