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30 M Gloucester City, NJ

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Last Online
Yesterday – 10:07am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Full figured
Christianity, and very serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm an INTP in the MBTI; I have limited faith in the usefulness of such tests and the psychological essentialism they imply but the INTP description really does describe me to a tee. I tend to approach the world analytically, but I am also very much the romantic. I can be absolutely swept away by the sort of fantasy that Stephanie Meyer's Twilight sells even as I 'm able to point to all the ways that it's anti-feminist and selling a heteronormative, reproductive futurist anti-choice agenda. That said, as much as I might dream about Princess Charming coming along on her white horse, what I'm really looking for is a real three-dimensional human being!

I'm a dedicated social liberal but tend to live my own personal life fairly conservatively. I'm a committed feminist who does his best to not let himself be placed into gender roles, and can act with frustration to gender essentialism found in the wild.

I'm fannish, interested in the critical and often subversive responses one can make to media texts through creative transformative works. Indeed, I served as a Symposium co-editor for Transformative Works and Cultures, the online academic journal published by the Organization for Transformative Works.
What I’m doing with my life
After getting a B.A. in English and Philosophy & Religion from Colgate University and doing about half the work towards an interdisciplinary M.A. from NYU (which I abandoned because my loans fell through and an interdisciplinary M.A. is about as useful as a B.A. in Philosophy) I'm now actually working full-time on an A.A. in computer science while continuing to be employed full-time at a factory at nights.

Much of my free time lately has been spent on church-related activities; especially since I sort of have TWO churches right now. I'm on the vestry of my local Episcopal parish, which is my spiritual home and where I go for mass on Sunday morning, but I'm also involved in an Anabaptist congregation that meets on Sunday evenings (with small groups during the week) and whom, despite theology which is so much not my own (I call them my "crazy Protestants"), I love for, in addition to being loving and Christlike and committed to social justice, being able to challenge and stimulate me (and also for having so many people who are my age!).

I only just recently finished an aspirancy process towards possibly becoming an Episcopal priest when the bishop informed me he didn't discern a vocation for me as an ordained minister, so I'm still sort of reeling from that as I sort out my plans for the future.
I’m really good at
My analytic mind means that wrestling with abstract ideas and philosophies come naturally to me, while my romantic soul inspires me to express myself creatively. I love writing essays and short stories, whether to post on the internet or just to exist in my notebook; the imaginative exercise is freeing and cathartic.

I have a theology blog where I try to work out the specifics of my Anglo-Catholic mystic post-liberalism. Think Leonardo Boff meets Marcus Borg, if that means anything to you.

I absolutely love dissecting popular culture--especially science fiction and fantasy--and being able to respond critically. (My grad school essay taking a queer theoretic lens to the NeverEnding Story film trilogy can be found at my blog.)
The first things people usually notice about me
My speech patterns are actually fairly similar to the way I write, deliberate and unafraid of complication, and my diction can be semi-elevated. I'm fairly quiet until I have something to say, at which point I can deliver a lecture (but usually won't unless I'm utterly convinced it's actually welcome).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like my television id-vortexy, mostly science fiction or fantasy with a postmodern twist and which will reward fannish investment. Favorite shows include In Plain Sight, The Guild, Veronica Mars, Skins (UK), Firefly, The 4400, and Doctor Who and its spinoffs, but nothing beats Buffy the Vampire Slayer (although Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles comes close).

My taste in movies similarly balances the id-tastic and the cerebral in equal amounts; my favorite movies are Andrew Niccol's The Truman Show, Charlie Kaufman's Adaptation, and Angela Robinson's D.E.B.S. My favorite film adaptation of Alice in Wonderland is Jan Švankmajer's Něco z Alenky.

Musically, I listen to classic rock (Queen, The Who, Fleetwood Mac, Jefferson Airplane), folk rock (Arlo Guthrie, Dar Williams, Harry Chapin), all-girl rock (The Runaways, The Donnas), some pop (Lisa Loeb, Regina Spektor), musicals and showtunes (Sondheim, Weber, Kristen Chenoweth, Bernadette Peters), and whatever else Pandora seems to think I'll like.
The six things I could never do without
--the internet
--a paper notebook and pen(s) (preferably rollerball, not ballpoint)
--a laptop, desktop, tablet, and/or smart phone
--a pair of headphones and a good audiobook or podfic
--fandom, especially Dreamwidth Studios, Yulechat, the Organization for Transformative Works, and the Archive of Our Own
--the Body and Blood of Jesus Christ
On a typical Friday night I am
probably working overtime, doing homework, sleeping, reading, or writing.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
you're looking for someone to spend time with, to engage in conversation with, to challenge and be challenged by: you are someone with whom I could do a number of different things and have a lot of fun, but also could just spend fulfilling quiet time together, too. And someone I can invest myself in; I'm certainly not clingy or dependent, but when I put myself into a relationship I put myself in whole hog.