Ok, about myself. My fear is that if I am too humble I come off as boring, but if I make strong claims about myself, I run the risk of sounding like a douchebag. That being said, I will try to be as honest about “what is interesting about me” as I can.
Up front you should know that I live with my best friend, the wonderful gabrimar. We happen to be legally married, but prefer to call ourselves "best friends with benefits". We have a very open marriage. This means we are both allowed and encouraged to date, play, hang out with, have SAFE sex with, cook meals with, sleep over with, have wild romances with, do fun things with other people. This is something we have always agreed on; it has always been a natural part of our relationship. This was not something one of us negotiated with the other, it is and always has been mutual. While we are not at all closeted about this “lifestyle” (hate that word), we also do not broadcast it on all frequencies, as some people would prefer not to know such details. We both have somewhat public personae, being actors, and we don't need potential employers looking askance at us. I don't identify as polyamorous per se, as I am not really part of any formal poly community, but I have nothing but love for all forms of romantic and sexual expression. Assuming of course that nobody is being hurt or victimized.
I also generally identify as straight, but only because up to now I have only really slept with women. I would rather identify as queer with hetero tendencies since I often find men extremely attractive, I just don't quite wanna sleep with them. And I hate to limit myself. In anything. I really love to hug tall, somewhat broad men. Just a thing, I don't know if it's relevant to anything.
If you made it through that long ramble about my open marriage and sexual leanings, stay tuned for the more interesting and specific stuff about the real me.
I love games. Not the emotional kind, but the kind you willingly play with friends. Celebrities, Mao, Poker, Apples to Apples, Cards Against Humanity, Pit, Cranium, Trivia...Pool, Shuffleboard, Darts, Ping Pong... This leads to my love of Improv, both Short and Long Form. I perform with a couple of different Improv troupes in SF Bay Area and I think I'm pretty damn good at it. I am an actor, and have the fortune to be able to eke out a living as such in a very slim market. I work on stage almost exclusively but would love to get more into screen work.
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I am generally liked by almost everyone who knows me. At this point I don't actually know of anyone who dislikes me. I'll let you know if this changes. I am funny, honest, genuine, and loyal. I am not a douchebag. (Ask me about the differences between asshole, douchebag, SOB, and truly mean people) People believe me to be hard-working and generous, though I think I am sometimes lazy and stingy.
I am very outgoing and extroverted when it comes to social situations and even flirting, but desperately shy when it comes to actually “hooking up”. I am always afraid of coming off as an aggressive lecherous asshole who has misread the cues. Women have to lead me by the hand into romantic situations. Once I am given the green light I can be very bold and forward, and I think I am really good at respecting boundaries.
I am very close with my family. That matters a lot to me.
I know this sounds very serious and unfunny. I am actually a fuckin' riot to hang out with, except when I'm not. I have an obsession with being clear and not wanting to confuse the truth with clever repartee. But get me going on a riff and I will rant with the best of them.
I really enjoy being drunk sometimes, but have never been puke drunk or pass-out drunk, or "I didn't know what I was doing"-drunk. I like that fact about me.
I've never been to Burning Man. I mean, I'd really love to go, but I keep being in shows that run during that time. And I can't turn down a good gig. That's my job, you know?