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cjholland

59 / F / Straight / Single

San Rafael, California

Her Details

Last Online
Today – 4:31am
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 1″ (1.55m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism and very serious about it
Sign
Pisces and it’s fun to think about
Education
High school
Job
Banking / Financial / Real Estate
Income
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I love music, art, people, animals and all the adventures life has to offer. Dishonesty, cruelty and greed flip my switch to the "off" position. Making oneself vulnerable is scary, but it also frees you up; I am working on that day by day.I have travelled a bit; Great Britain, France, Japan, Mexico and Hawaii, so far. I loved it and hope to do more as time and finances allow. I care about the world and how it will be for any grandchildren I may be fortunate enough to meet. I am making a brave attempt to look *only* forward.

I am kind, compassionate, and honest
What I’m doing with my life
Currently working full time as an accountant which has been my career for 24 years. Taking the time to seriously assess where I am and where I would like to go from here, who I am and who I would like to be going forward.
I’m really good at
Appreciation. I appreciate people for who they are as a whole. I understand, actually grok that many of the qualities that one might admire in a person may be the very qualities that in different circumstances may drive you over the edge. Nonetheless, they are part and parcel of who that person is and cherry-picking the things you like about someone and attempting to discard the things you dislike is not only not possible, but it is destructive to the relationship, whatever that may be.

Enjoying creativity. I love art, colors, textures. Music: classical guitar, classical period. Rock n' roll - Beatles, Paul McCartney, Sting, Los Lonely Boys, Rolling Stones. Motown. Jazz - Dave Brubeck. Swing - Frank Sinatra and currently Michael Buble and Janet Mondheit.

Listening and talking in probably equal measures. Suffice to say I love interacting. Monologues can be boring; dialogues are compelling and interesting.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile, perhaps. Or that I am looking at their eyes when they speak to me. Or my bright, silver hair. Or that I am most likely shorter than them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Source - James Michener, The Power of One - Bryce Courtney - Three Cups of Tea - Greg Mortenson (That's just a sample, because I love, love, love to read and I really don't have "favorites")

Movies: They Way We Were, Defiance, A Hard Day's Night, Out of Africa, Cool Hand Luke, Robin and Marian, (again same as above on the favorites thing)

See above in "I am really good at"

Food: As a vegetarian, I enjoy just about any vegetable or fruit prepared with a light hand in seasoning and less rather than more cooking. (Please don't serve grey veggies - feh!)
The six things I could never do without
My children, my animals, music, books, art and my heart.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I have learned in the past to improve on my future. What I am trying to do is live right now fully, utilising what I have learned so far, trying, trying, TRYING to not give up the NOW by only concentrating on tomorrow, next week, or next year.
On a typical Friday night I am
At home reading, watching a movie on pay per view or taking in some live, local music with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am not ready to answer this, but I will come back to it when I am.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 50–65
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You feel like it. I am interested in what people have to say, good, not so good or whatever. Just no indifference. Indifference is intolerable.