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cjholland

60 F San Rafael, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:24am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 1″ (1.55m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Education
High school
Job
Banking / Finance
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
May 2014 Update:
Wondering why so many men signed up for OKC don't respond to "message him" overtures. Any constructive feedback would be appreciated.

(Constructive being the operative word; if you are simply in a bad mood and wish to vent, please refrain:))

I love music, art, people, animals and all the adventures life has to offer. Dishonesty, cruelty and greed flip my switch to the "off" position.

My friend once asked me what is was I look for in a partner; my answer? Someone who:
1. Has parented and been directly involved in the nurturing of a child
2. Has a well developed sense of humor
3. Reads
4. Is politically left leaning
5. Is comfortable partnering with an avowed atheist.

My friend then asked me: if you had to give up one of those attributes, what would it be? My answer was - why must I give up any? I know there is a person out there who is a wonderful parent, who reads, keeps well informed and can discuss and participate meaningfully in our political system, has a healthy funny bone and appreciates the honesty involved in making an irreligious lifestyle.

I am kind, compassionate, and honest and that pretty much summarizes it!
What I’m doing with my life
Currently working full time as an accountant which has been my career for 24 years. Taking the time to seriously assess where I am and where I would like to go from here, who I am and who I would like to be going forward.
I’m really good at
Appreciation. I appreciate people for who they are as a whole. I understand, actually grok that many of the qualities that one might admire in a person may be the very qualities that in different circumstances may drive you over the edge. Nonetheless, they are part and parcel of who that person is and cherry-picking the things you like about someone and attempting to discard the things you dislike is not only not possible, but it is destructive to the relationship, whatever that may be.

Enjoying creativity. I love art, colors, textures. Music: classical guitar, classical period. Rock n' roll - Beatles, Paul McCartney, Sting, Los Lonely Boys, Rolling Stones. Motown. Jazz - Dave Brubeck. Swing - Frank Sinatra and currently Michael Buble and Janet Mondheit.

Listening and talking in probably equal measures. Suffice to say I love interacting. Monologues can be boring; dialogues are compelling and interesting.
The first things people usually notice about me
I couldn't tell you, because I have never asked.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Source - James Michener, The Power of One - Bryce Courtney - Three Cups of Tea - Greg Mortenson (That's just a sample, because I love, love, love to read and I really don't have "favorites")

Movies: They Way We Were, Defiance, A Hard Day's Night, Out of Africa, Cool Hand Luke, Robin and Marian, (again same as above on the favorites thing)

See above in "I am really good at"

Food: As a vegetarian, I enjoy just about any vegetable or fruit prepared with a light hand in seasoning and less rather than more cooking. (Please don't serve grey veggies - feh!)
The six things I could never do without
My children, my animals, music, books, art and my heart.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I have learned in the past to improve on my future. What I am trying to do is live right now fully, utilising what I have learned so far, trying, trying, TRYING to not give up the NOW by only concentrating on tomorrow, next week, or next year.
On a typical Friday night I am
At home reading, watching a movie on pay per view or taking in some live, local music with friends.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 50–66
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
You feel like it. I am interested in what people have to say, good, not so good or whatever. Just no indifference. Indifference is intolerable.