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23 New York, NY Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 23–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 11:35am
Heteroflexible, Queer
Black, Native American, Hispanic / Latin, White
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Not at all
Atheism, and laughing about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Art / Music / Writing
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English, German (Okay), Swedish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly), Hungarian (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I'm smart, witty, and probably making that up.

Howdy! I'm Joel and I hail from the lovely city of New York, and yes I mean this one. I bring Puerto Rican sass and a great voice (or so it's been said). I love languages to the point I travelled to Hawai'i to study Linguistics and am aiming to eventually be a researcher in dialectology, tho I spend my days working various jobs and pretending I'm a writer.

Punk is my life blood and I've been involved in the New York scene for quite a few years now. I especially love classic, 70s punk, Riot Grrrl and Horrorpunk and my current favourite band would have to be Horrorpops.

A Marxist I'm very committed to smashing all forms of oppression and to that end I'm also a relationship anarchist, rather than polyamorous, that is I believe in having multiple fulfilling relationships not defined by titles or claims of ownership.

If you're down for cool punk, and sometimes metal, shows, trips to the library and wearing lots and lots of boots you should come on down. And bring friends, I love friends!
What I’m doing with my life
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Pretending to be a writer, amongst other things. I blog about economics, sociology, linguistics and then I never share my pieces with anyone (I'm shy). I also write short stories and poetry.

I recently started playing Animal Crossing and The Sims 4 again, so my productivity has plummeted.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Sleeping through construction
Declension paradigms or whatever
Not taking the last slice of pizza
Finding great places to eat
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I probably haven't noticed them noticing me yet. Or the piercings, if I remember to put them in.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Tolkien, Luxemburg, Debs, Marx, Goldman, Crystal, Austen, De Leon

Usagi Drop, Ichigo 100%, Houshin Engi, Bitter Virgin, DNA^2, Hokuto no Ken, Saint Seiya, Dragon Ball (Z), 20th Century Boy, Phoenix

Lord of the Rings Trilogy, Star Wars, Ringu, Goth, Braveheart, Nightmare Before Christmas, Battle Royale, Edward Scissorhands, Amelie, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Melancholia, Interview With a Vampire, Queen of the Damned, Pan's Labyrinth

Portlandia, Doctor Who (Classic and Revived), Sherlock, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, Xena: Warrior Princess, Friends, Seinfeld, Bob's Burgers, Rick and Morty, Squidbillies, anything by Genndy Tartakovsky or Craig McCracken and most Hanna-Barbera

Record of Lodoss War, Serial Experiments Lain, Evangelion, Nadesico, Crest/Banner of the Stars, R.O.D. Read or Die, Jojo's Bizarre Adventure, Red Garden, Sailor Moon, Shadow Skill, Last Exile

Age of Empires 2, TES: Morrowind, Star Wars: Rebellion, Knights of the Old Republic, Tales of Symphonia, Mega Man X, Crusader Kings 2, Victoria 2, Romance of the Three Kingdoms VII, PlanetSide 2, Ragnarok Online, Space Engineers, Life is Strange, Cities: Skylines

Misfits (Danzig era only), Ramones, Danzig, Cramps, New York Dolls, Horrorpops, Bratmobile, Cranberries, Exist†Trace, Type O Negative, Yoko Kanno, Yoko Shimomura, Jeremy Soule, Nobuo Uematsu, Yuki Kajiura, Bikini Kill, Dead Kennedys, Nirvana, bȏa, Crowbar, A Tribe Called Quest, Earl Sweatshirt, Hodgy Beats, De La Soul, Fugees, Tupac

Whiskey and Cheese, definitely and Cheese and anything involving meat (preferably beef) and/or potatoes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How hard it is to find fellow punks/baby bats because everyone dresses like us now.

Where can I get some toast.

The effects of political consciousness on whiskey, and why that makes it taste better.

Who are you people and why are you looking at me like that?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
What does typical even mean anymore?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I used to be a rocky horror kid, I performed as Janet once, I had rainbow fishnets and heart pasties it was glorious.
You should message me if
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You want to go on a wibbly wobbly timey wimey adventure.

You'll be a friend, a lover or neither of those things or all the things.

You want to sit and read books in silence at each other.

Or drink heavily and cry at the Charmed series finale, or better yet when [SPOILER ALERT] Pru dies.

Especially if you can rock a Bette Page cut or not, whatever.

Or you just want to stay up talking to a weird kid at a weird hour of night.

Gyere beszélgetni velem!