My deal is this: I'm in a solid long-term open relationship with a remarkable woman (mk4935) with whom I continue to fall deeper in love. She dates other people, I date other women. We support each other in this and feel it's a more honest way to live. It is not necessary that you meet her, but it is mandatory that you accept and respect our relationship.
The happiness I experience in my situation is testament to the fact that I am not much of the same person I was ten years ago. The Christianity I was raised with is gone as I find a godless universe more sensible. Male chauvinism has been replaced by feminism. I embrace sexual desires and ideals of which I was once ashamed. I am more authentic, more encouraging, more engaged in living.
The first thing I would devote more time and energy to if I had it is climbing. I started rockclimbing about a year and a half ago (as an alternative to the Y membership I wasn't using enough) and it has become a favourite part of my life. I love the individual challenge of the sport, the meditative aspect of training your attention on every part of your body to complete a move. [For the climbers out there, I have sent a few 5.12s, but most days I stick to 10's and 11's. I boulder some. Need to do a lead course.] I'm always eager to show a newbie the ropes, so if you're interested in trying it out, let me know!