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35 • Toronto, Ontario, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 22–38
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Apr 10
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
- Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
- Dropped out of university
- Open relationship
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
- Likes dogs and has cats
- English (Fluently)
My deal is this: I'm in a solid long-term open relationship with a remarkable woman (mk4935) with whom I continue to fall deeper in love. She dates other people, I date other women. We support each other in this and feel it's a more honest way to live. It is not necessary that you meet her, but it is mandatory that you accept and respect our relationship.
The happiness I experience in my situation is testament to the fact that I am not much of the same person I was ten years ago. The Christianity I was raised with is gone as I find a godless universe more sensible. Male chauvinism has been replaced by feminism. I was once ashamed of my sexual desires and ideals -- now I embrace them. I am more authentic, more encouraging, more engaged in living.
The first thing I would devote more time and energy to if I had it is climbing. I started rockclimbing about a year and a half ago (as an alternative to the Y membership I wasn't using enough) and it has become a favourite part of my life. I love the individual challenge of the sport, the meditative aspect of training your attention on every part of your body to complete a move. [For the climbers out there, I have sent a few 5.12s, but most days I stick to 10's and 11's. I boulder some. Need to do a lead course.] I'm always eager to show a newbie the ropes, so if you're interested in trying it out, let me know!
I'm focussing more on my climbing since my girlfriend is in South America for a few weeks and I have a lot of extra free time. Doing a lot of personal reflection too.
I'd really like to go to Burning Man one of these years. I'd also really like to move to California and get away from winter once and for all. Maybe this will be the year... we'll see.
Making dessert. Cookies, brownies, muffins, cakes. I love making desserts for special occasions that appeal to both the eye and the palette. Lately I've been working on my ricotta cheesecake. I suppose I could have just said that I'm good at cooking, but dessert and breakfast are what I most like to make.
Being thoughtful. I studied science in school and was aiming to be a physicist for a while. It trained me to be open-minded, to remember my own bias, and to look at things from as many angles as possible. One of my favourite quotes is something Stanley Kubrick said: "What chess teaches you is that you must sit there calmly and think about whether it's really a good idea and whether there are other, better ideas."
Magazines: I subscribe to New Scientist and Cooks Illustrated. I love these not just for their content, but also for their approach to their subjects. CI takes a scientific approach to cooking, and an unnamed founding member of NS is reported to have said that "our philosophy at New Scientist is that science is interesting and if you don't agree you can f*** off!"
Movies: Nothing stands out at the moment. I like the odd documentary and there are plenty of good ones. I'll watch anything with Cameron Diaz.
Shows: Doctor Who, Sherlock, The Good Wife and I still watch TBBT. I'm invested in the characters and it's 20 min of predictabl... Whatever. I don't have to explain myself. I enjoy it. Deal with it. Just started watching Masters of Sex and I really love it.
Music: I just bought three CDs for the first time in a long time. Foo Fighters, (this latest album is a disappointment compared to Echoes) a David Bowie collection, and, um, Iggy Azalea's album. Yeah, when I first heard 'Fancy' I thought "'fast lane from LA to Tokyo?' Who is this ridiculous person" but then I gave her a chance and I can't deny she really is the sh!t.
Food: I love going out to eat at places where they are passionate about the food they serve. Two of my favourites are Canoe and Farmer's Daughter, where you can get a seat at a counter overlooking the kitchen and talk to the chefs. One of these experiences is what made me want to try working in a kitchen.
A proper breakfast.
Something to climb.
Space of my own.
A bike fit for navigating through the herd of cattle known as Toronto traffic.
I'm fascinated by the idea of free will and whether we actually have it. If we are just a collection of atoms and chemicals interacting, then how does consciousness arise? What am I?
By the way, If you have zero romantic interest in me at all but want to go climbing, I would be up for that.
Thanks for reading!
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