Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My deal is this: I'm in a solid long-term open relationship with a
remarkable woman (mk4935) with whom I continue to fall deeper in
love. She dates other people, I date other women. We support each
other in this and feel it's a more honest way to live. It is not
necessary that you meet her, but it is mandatory that you accept
and respect our relationship.
The happiness I experience in my situation is testament to the fact
that I am not much of the same person I was ten years ago. The
Christianity I was raised with is gone as I find a godless universe
more sensible. Male chauvinism has been replaced by feminism. I was
once ashamed of my sexual desires and ideals -- now I embrace them.
I am more authentic, more encouraging, more engaged in
The first thing I would devote more time and energy to if I had it
is climbing. I started rockclimbing about a year and a half ago (as
an alternative to the Y membership I wasn't using enough) and it
has become a favourite part of my life. I love the individual
challenge of the sport, the meditative aspect of training your
attention on every part of your body to complete a move. [For the
climbers out there, I have sent a few 5.12s, but most days I stick
to 10's and 11's. I boulder some. Need to do a lead course.] I
would love to find some climbing partners at about the same level,
but happy to show a newbie the ropes too.
What I’m doing with my life
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Building decks, fixing roofs, climbing, planning and training for a
cycling trip to Grand Rapids.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making breakfast. I buy eggs with rich orange yolks, properly
smoked and cured bacon from a local butcher. Kicking Horse coffee
with cream and turbinado sugar. Sea salt. Yogurt. Steamed veg. I
cook most things in a cast iron pan. (If you cook and don't have
one, get one and learn how to use it. It changed my life.) Knowing
a delicious breakfast is only 20 minutes away makes it easier to
get out of bed in the morning.
Making dessert. Cookies, brownies, muffins, cakes. I love making
desserts for special occasions that appeal to both the eye and the
palette. Lately I've been working on my ricotta cheesecake. I
suppose I could have just said that I'm good at cooking, but
dessert and breakfast are what I most like to make.
Being thoughtful. I studied science in school and was aiming to be
a physicist for a while. It trained me to be open-minded, to
remember my own bias, and to look at things from as many angles as
possible. One of my favourite quotes is something Stanley Kubrick
said: "What chess teaches you is that you must sit there calmly and
think about whether it's really a good idea and whether there are
other, better ideas."
Sex. :P Seriously though, I love sex. Most guys just like putting
their dicks into vaginas. I like being the best fuck a woman's ever
had. Or at least trying to be. Usually it isn't that difficult. I
guess most guys just ... have other priorities. (Seems nicer than
saying they just suck.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm actually not all that noticeable at first, I'm usually pretty
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Top of the must-read list for me is a classic from the
1930's, Dale Carnegie's "How to Make Friends and Influence People."
It's like a book of social interaction cheat codes. I like stuff
like that, things that will improve my ability to live life by
reading and applying. Timothy Ferriss' "4-Hour Work Week" is
another example of something like this. I am not always the best at
applying the advice but learning the principles involved is good
Magazines: I subscribe to New Scientist and Cooks Illustrated. I
love these not just for their content, but also for their approach
to their subjects. CI takes a scientific approach to cooking, and
an unnamed founding member of NS is reported to have said that "our
philosophy at New Scientist is that science is interesting and if
you don't agree you can f*** off!"
Movies: Nothing stands out at the moment. I like the odd
documentary and there are plenty of good ones. I'll watch anything
with Cameron Diaz.
Shows: Doctor Who, Orphan Black, The Good Wife and I still watch
TBBT. I'm invested in the characters and it's 20 min of
predictabl... Whatever. I don't have to explain myself. I enjoy it.
Deal with it. Just started watching Masters of Sex and I really
Music: Oscar Peterson and Daft Punk are the only things I've
purposely listened to recently, though I did turn the volume up the
other day when "Under the Bridge" came on the radio. It's one of my
Food: I love going out to eat at places where they are passionate
about the food they serve. Two of my favourites are Canoe and
Farmer's Daughter, where you can get a seat at a counter
overlooking the kitchen and talk to the chefs.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A subtle alarm clock.
A proper breakfast.
Something to climb.
Space of my own.
A bike fit for navigating through the herd of cattle known as
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The GSElevator twitter feed and whether I should go back to school
and become a banker. ;)
I'm fascinated by the idea of free will and whether we actually
have it. If we are just a collection of atoms and chemicals
interacting, then how does consciousness arise? What am I?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Climbing or sleeping, probably, but I'm always up for live jazz, a
new restaurant, or just getting high and going for a walk in the
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You should message me if
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I'm looking for someone I can spend the occasional evening/night
with, maybe once every week or two. You must be ok with my open
relationship, and I prefer that you be seeing someone else besides
me. I don't want to be solely responsible for anyone's sexual
By the way, If you have zero romantic interest in me at all but
want to go climbing, I would be up for that.
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