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35 Toronto, Ontario, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22–38
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Apr 10
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm not usually one to post a shirtless pic but the photographer insisted it would get positive responses. I'm skeptical, but curious. Was she right? Let me know! :-)

My deal is this: I'm in a solid long-term open relationship with a remarkable woman (mk4935) with whom I continue to fall deeper in love. She dates other people, I date other women. We support each other in this and feel it's a more honest way to live. It is not necessary that you meet her, but it is mandatory that you accept and respect our relationship.

The happiness I experience in my situation is testament to the fact that I am not much of the same person I was ten years ago. The Christianity I was raised with is gone as I find a godless universe more sensible. Male chauvinism has been replaced by feminism. I was once ashamed of my sexual desires and ideals -- now I embrace them. I am more authentic, more encouraging, more engaged in living.

The first thing I would devote more time and energy to if I had it is climbing. I started rockclimbing about a year and a half ago (as an alternative to the Y membership I wasn't using enough) and it has become a favourite part of my life. I love the individual challenge of the sport, the meditative aspect of training your attention on every part of your body to complete a move. [For the climbers out there, I have sent a few 5.12s, but most days I stick to 10's and 11's. I boulder some. Need to do a lead course.] I'm always eager to show a newbie the ropes, so if you're interested in trying it out, let me know!
What I’m doing with my life
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Work-wise, I'm currently doing roof repairs. I enjoy the problem solving, the views of the city, the fresh air, but the bad days can be oh so bad, and it's not the best job for the winter, so I'm experimenting with going into business for myself, doing other handy-person work. I built a deck for a neighbour this past summer and really enjoyed it.

I'm focussing more on my climbing since my girlfriend is in South America for a few weeks and I have a lot of extra free time. Doing a lot of personal reflection too.

I'd really like to go to Burning Man one of these years. I'd also really like to move to California and get away from winter once and for all. Maybe this will be the year... we'll see.
I’m really good at
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Making breakfast. I buy eggs with rich orange yolks, properly smoked and cured bacon from a local butcher. Kicking Horse coffee with cream and turbinado sugar. Sea salt. Yogurt. Steamed veg. I cook most things in a cast iron pan. (If you cook and don't have one, get one and learn how to use it. It changed my life.) Knowing a delicious breakfast is only 20 minutes away makes it easier to get out of bed in the morning.

Making dessert. Cookies, brownies, muffins, cakes. I love making desserts for special occasions that appeal to both the eye and the palette. Lately I've been working on my ricotta cheesecake. I suppose I could have just said that I'm good at cooking, but dessert and breakfast are what I most like to make.

Being thoughtful. I studied science in school and was aiming to be a physicist for a while. It trained me to be open-minded, to remember my own bias, and to look at things from as many angles as possible. One of my favourite quotes is something Stanley Kubrick said: "What chess teaches you is that you must sit there calmly and think about whether it's really a good idea and whether there are other, better ideas."
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm confident in my physical appearance and I can make conversation easily enough, but I'm actually not all that noticeable at first. I have been described as being 'very chill' and 'surprisingly awesome' which, if you'll pardon my ego, I think is accurate. I have a fair amount going on in my head at any given moment but if I'm in unfamiliar company, it only comes out if I think it's worth hearing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Top of the must-read list for me is a classic from the 1930's, Dale Carnegie's "How to Make Friends and Influence People." It's like a book of social interaction cheat codes. I like stuff like that, things that will improve my ability to live life by reading and applying. Timothy Ferriss' "4-Hour Work Week" is another example of something like this. I am not always the best at applying the advice but learning the principles involved is good for understanding.

Magazines: I subscribe to New Scientist and Cooks Illustrated. I love these not just for their content, but also for their approach to their subjects. CI takes a scientific approach to cooking, and an unnamed founding member of NS is reported to have said that "our philosophy at New Scientist is that science is interesting and if you don't agree you can f*** off!"

Movies: Nothing stands out at the moment. I like the odd documentary and there are plenty of good ones. I'll watch anything with Cameron Diaz.

Shows: Doctor Who, Sherlock, The Good Wife and I still watch TBBT. I'm invested in the characters and it's 20 min of predictabl... Whatever. I don't have to explain myself. I enjoy it. Deal with it. Just started watching Masters of Sex and I really love it.

Music: I just bought three CDs for the first time in a long time. Foo Fighters, (this latest album is a disappointment compared to Echoes) a David Bowie collection, and, um, Iggy Azalea's album. Yeah, when I first heard 'Fancy' I thought "'fast lane from LA to Tokyo?' Who is this ridiculous person" but then I gave her a chance and I can't deny she really is the sh!t.

Food: I love going out to eat at places where they are passionate about the food they serve. Two of my favourites are Canoe and Farmer's Daughter, where you can get a seat at a counter overlooking the kitchen and talk to the chefs. One of these experiences is what made me want to try working in a kitchen.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A subtle alarm clock.
A proper breakfast.
Something to climb.
Space of my own.
A bike fit for navigating through the herd of cattle known as Toronto traffic.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The GSElevator twitter feed and whether I should go back to school and become a banker. ;)

I'm fascinated by the idea of free will and whether we actually have it. If we are just a collection of atoms and chemicals interacting, then how does consciousness arise? What am I?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Could be anything. Best night out I have had recently was Halloween. (LOL Actually, I've had great nights since Halloween, just don't have time to update this at the moment!) Went to the Kubrick exhibit, had dinner at The Rex, walked around Church Street checking out everyone's costumes, then stopped at a friend's place on the way home for a couple drinks. This past weekend I went climbing with some friends then had Korean Barbecue. I'm pretty easygoing. I've gone to an AA meeting with a friend before just to see what it was like.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You should message me if
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I'm looking for someone I can spend the occasional evening/night with, maybe once every week or two. You must be ok with my open relationship. I prefer that you be seeing someone else besides me. I don't want to be solely responsible for anyone's sexual satisfaction.

By the way, If you have zero romantic interest in me at all but want to go climbing, I would be up for that.

Thanks for reading!