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72 • Sebastopol, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 55–70
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating
- Last online
- Apr 22
- 5′ 4″ (1.63m)
- Body type
- Other, and laughing about it
- Leo, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from university
- Strictly monogamous
- Has a kid
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
I'm a long-time Sebastopolian, originally from NY (left in '67) via Berkeley (til '69) and Mendocino (til '74). An ex-Ivy League, ex-hippie. I'm health-oriented, curious, love food and am an excellent cook (but find myself not preparing anything that takes more than 15 minutes, lately), exercise regularly, am self-employed part-time. I'm responsible, unconventional, organized, intense, financially sound (800+ credit score and zero debt) but not wealthy, good at finding solutions, youthful, finally grown-up (but still learning), a good communicator and a potter/sculptor (since age 59). I love tools and doing projects around the house, but also like to get 'outta' town (Mendocino and SF are favorites). I'm most comfortable in shorts or jeans, but also like dressing up or costuming. I'm a thrift shop browser, love my hot tub, have a sewing machine (and use it), enjoy good books and movies, am an NPR junkie, used to dance up a storm (still enjoy hitting the floor now and then) and like volunteering with nonprofits. I consider myself to be a good friend; helpful, supportive and honest.
Though I've spent many years pursuing various spiritual paths, (New Age, Hinduism, Sufism, Buddhism), at this point I'm just into awareness and being present.
More and more I tend to view my opinions and beliefs not as the truth, but as "my stories" about things. I'm not necessarily invested in them. It pleases me to be able to chuckle when I notice them. They're more like the clothes that I put on each day or for a specific event.
WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR:
I want a partner-in-life. Not to smother or be smothered; shared interests, individual interests, shared friends, individual friends; comfortably independent/interdependent. Someone whose age is close enough to mine to understand and be able to relate to my stage of life. Hopefully, someone to live with and share and explore the rest of life with. I'd like to find a fun, interesting, intelligent, articulate, wise, slender, petite, warm and open woman. I'm mixing all kinds of adjectives here....spontaneous, responsible, strong, health-oriented, with integrity, familiar and comfortable with her "shadow". Maybe someone who also likes to putter on home projects. A good communicator & friend & hopefully she considers relationship as "path"....
AND a relationship that encourages me to grow beyond who I believe myself to be......
AND I seek a woman for whom 'being aware' is a priority. Not a serious, grit-your-teeth pursuit, more like a laugh or giggle at how silly we can be when we're not being present.
BOTTOMLINE: someone who truly likes me, though obviously, not necessarily everything about me. (But hopefully those things you don't care for about me, you find humorous).
I had felt the desire to do some work with a non-profit again and was honored 4 years ago by being asked to join the board of Food For Thought, the Sonoma County AIDS Food Bank. (What a great group of people!). Was recently elected Treasurer of FFT, which brings with it the encouragement to more actively participate in all the financial aspects of the org.
Also, I've been working with a Sebastopol group called cittaslow Sebastopol on projects to create a safe, interesting, and walkable town. Our first project, The Sebastopol Pedline, three routes originating from the Plaza and heading in different directions, with different highlights and attractions is currently in beta-testing.
About 2 years ago I started meeting with an elder group at Coffee Catz in Sebastopol. Meeting informally, weekly, as a small, leaderless group to discuss whatever is "up" for us that week (from a decidedly elder perspective) has been a source of tremendous satisfaction. Meeting regularly with people of similar age to me to delve (often deeply) into pertinent subjects, has been consistently rewarding. To me it is both precious and rare to find people, at a later stage of life, who are committed to exploring the life-stage with openness and candidness. I'm extremely grateful to have found this group.
I'm constantly amazed at how much knowledge and how many answers are at my fingertips 24/7 on the internet. Being insatiably curious, anytime I have a question or need a piece of information, I google it. For example: I fixed my washing machine for $10 with a part and instructions I found online. The calories and nutritional information for all foods is right there. Consumer research, before buying anything is easily done. I admit it, I'm an internet junkie!
Taking care of myself.
Clear, articulate communication.
Listening and asking questions.
I like jazz (if it's not dissonant), blues, R &B, mountain music, classic rock, oldies, chamber music and classical, music from Mali and gamelan from Indonesia. But I generally prefer silence or the sounds of nature.
I love period movies. I just enjoyed watching the documentary on Paul Simon and the making of the Graceland album on Netflix. I don't get live tv, but do watch movies and tv shows on Netflix. (I'm really irritated by commercials!) I tend to go to movie theaters only when there's something that I really want to see on a big screen, and I'm willing to put up with a theater.
Food again. Food is really important to me and I find great pleasure in it (visual, smell, flavor, texture, the after-swallow feeling). Besides my own cooking, I prefer friends cooking. After that, Asian cuisines in general (Thai, Chinese, Vietnamese, Korean, sushi), but I also like Mexican (and most other authentic ethnic food), BBQ, and seafood and some of the fine local cuisine (which tends to be overpriced). Really most anything that's fresh and well-prepared with lots of veggies --except if it's got wheat in it. About 26 years ago I discovered I had a wheat intolerance. In the summer I mostly have a BIG salad for dinner....AND CHOCOLATE! It's amazing how much pleasure a piece of dark chocolate melting in my mouth can bring.
Pretty intense, huh? Don't worry, I love to laugh at it all.
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