Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Professional, single, spiritually grounded guy with the ultimate
desire for a committed monogamous relationship. I'm healthy, HIV-,
in shape. Intellectual pursuits, desire to make the world a better
place, and a commitment to personal responsibility rank high on my
desirability scale, as does the ability to observe one's own
action, make course corrections, and do so with compassion and
sensitivity to others. Usually attracted to guys 30-40, but can
sometimes be surprised by older guys. And just so you know, its
going to start with coffee and a conversation, an old fashion get
to know you date.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm wearing two hats right now and they both fit well. I serve part
time as the Minister of Pastoral Care at a Lutheran parish (I've
been ordained for many years). I also have a private practice as a
state licensed psychotherapist working with individuals and
couples, gay and straight. One of my interests is hypnotherapy
which I use as a modality in my work. I practice from a depth
psychology/spiritual perspective and love being able to effectively
serve those who see me. My holistic approach also considers diet,
rest, mindfulness, and exercise -- all crucial spheres in healing
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Public speaking at the drop of a hat, staying calm in a crisis,
making a cozy dinner for 4-6, helping people feel comfortable and
calm, building consensus in a group, singing -- Broadway to chant,
celebrating the gifts of others.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm often told that I have a very calming effect on people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Movie - Dead Poets' Society
Book - Hmmm...come visit my library, climb the ladder, I'll tell
you about a host that I've enjoyed for different reasons, mostly
Shows -- Wicked; I've seen it 3 times
Food -- BBQ Ribs (though I don't eat it often), Salmon, Lamb
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My closest friends/confidants/confessors
God beyond all defining, even while I believe in the Trinity (yah,
ask me about that one!)
Exercise -- 5x a week
Visualization (We believe, behave, become)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Building my practice
Growing in knowledge
OK...and maybe just a bit more recently about meeting Mr. Right
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Too often at home, though I enjoy my company and that of my dog.
But, I'm looking forward to someone special to be with -- in or
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm really quite open, but usually one on one. Got a question? Ask
me...in person! ;>)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You've read my profile and think we might truly be a match. I'll
admit, if it looks good on paper, but there is no physical
attraction, I'll politely decline, just as I would expect you
would. And please, don't say you are interested (which I do not
take as a marriage proposal, but as a desire to communicate and
find out if we might be a match) and then just disappear before a
conversation; that's really annoying ;>)
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