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55 M New York, NY

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Graduated from med school
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Relationship Type
English, French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Peer-adjusted percentiles:
Intuition: 73
Facility in acquiring new languages: 32
Verbal skills: 89*
Recollection of jokes: 29
Wit: 74
Optimism: 78
Empathy: 78*
Memory for non-affectively-laden information: 31
Memory for random junk: 87
Hostile nihilism: 14
Negative capability: 93
Taste recognition:26
Pattern recognition:85
Thrill seeking: 39
Travel humor: 84
Curiosity: 81
Ability to concoct percentiles: 64

*corrected for gender
What I’m doing with my life
Working at a career that involves a terrific combination of service, teaching, and writing.

Raising solo a daughter who just turned three.
I’m really good at
throwing snowballs.


looking at the other side of the story.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably depends on the situation.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I really like books, both novels and nonfiction.* And I enjoy many types of movies. Shows, dance, music, and food are relatively unimportant.** I do go to shows and performances, and I eat regularly, and I have friends who make their livings (and/or find their own passion) in the arts, but when I go to a great restaurant or to a friend's show, much of my pleasure is the shared experience rather than my personal transcendence.

* As for books, my reading has taken a hit since my daughter was born. But, in general, once I stumble onto novelists, I tend to read their books in clusters. Examples include Martin Amis, Jim Shepard, Philip Roth, Denis Johnson, AM Homes, Haruki Murakami, Ian McEwan, Julian Barnes, Dave Eggers, Michael Chabon, as well as a few specific books that for some reason tweaked my interest (John Lanchester's Debt to Pleasure; John le Carre's A Perfect Spy; Anne Michaels' Fugitive Pieces). I also enjoy wide, random nonfiction, though my ratio of book reviews: books is probably 10:1. These days, though, my fiction reading revolves around a good little monkey who is always very curious; a lovely young girl who lives in an old house in Paris, all covered with vines; and the loss, recovery, and stunning transitional redemption of a bunny known as knuffle.

**As for shows, dance, music, food, etc, I don't mean to say that I'm a complete philistine. I enjoy lots of kinds of music (think Nina Simone, Mumford and Sons, anything with a cello), and performances (Shakespeare--no matter how mediocre--feels like vitamins, but I also like stuff written post 1650). And i always enjoy dance, perhaps because Ive done lots of yoga and appreciate both the challenge and the beauty. Basic point: I like lotsa stuff but also like experiencing almost anything with people who know more (or less) than I do.
The six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
disillusioned? you were illusioned in the first place

most important thing Napoleon ever learned? people are willing to die for ribbons
On a typical Friday night I am
building towers with magna-tiles and negotiating a bedtime.

Change the above "am" to "used to" or "will be," however, and the answer would be a little more okcupid typical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a triple Pisces.

I'm not sure what that means, but it gets an amused reaction from a certain slice of the world...
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
you're either potentially interested or have random criticisms about my profile. as a psychiatrist, I thrive on criticisms, especially if I can rework them into a transference interpretation that places the onus back on you (kidding, kidding, I keep such comments confined to work and the very occasional argument that can only be neutralized--there are no real victors in real arguments--when I play a few professional trump cards, that, to be effective and not seen as obnoxious, need to be directed both inward and outward).

Shuffling through the city, exploring the world, hanging with the yogis, dating, etc etc, have taken something of a back seat for the last few years. So message me if you'd be interested in helping me clean out the cobwebs or if you might be interested in sitting on the floor with crayons, dolls, and cake made of plastic.

If you're a patient or a trainee, just let me pretend that you haven't recognized me (kidding, transparency is next to godliness, so bring it up, and we'll rebound into making it therapeutic soon enough).