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My self-summary
I am having a lot of trouble writing about myself without sounding arrogant or self-deprecating, but I'll try to write as authentically as my writing ability will allow.

I am an immigrant, an engineer, a son, a thinker, a dancer, a friend, an atheist, a jew, a feminist, a reader, a cook, a student, cat café proprietor, often an iconoclast, sometimes shy, seldom sentimental.

Those are all labels, and maybe they mean the same to me as they do to you, but they probably don't. Hafiz wrote:

I have a thousand brilliant lies for the question:
How are you?
I have a thousand brilliant lies for the question:
What is God?
If you think that the Truth can be known from words,
If you think that the Sun and the Ocean an pass through that tiny opening called the mouth,
O someone should start laughing!
Someone should start wildly Laughing,Now!

That's how I feel about this profile, but it's the only game in town.
What I’m doing with my life
I write software for a living, and for love. I know talking about work is a faux pas, and I should instead just mention it in passing and move on to talking about my diverse and impressive hobbies. But I really, truly, love what I do. My work brings me joy, fulfillment and a sense of purpose, and I consider it my main creative outlet.

I read a lot, love the theater, go on TED talk binges, and am usually trying to learn something new. I love, and seek out good art, good stories, good ideas, and good food.

I've spent the last year focusing on my health and fitness, learning guitar, dancing blues, re-discovering poetry, exploring festivals, and trying (mostly unsuccessfully) to make a habit of meditation.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
So so many. But here are some favorites:

Diamond Age
Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance
Deepness in the Sky
Kurt Vonnegut
Baroque Cycle
Diskworld Series
American Gods
Alan Watts
The six things I could never do without
I have a few close friends, and consider them family. I love them dearly and make them a priority. Some of them are my exes. This has caused problems in past relationships, but is nonnegotiable.

Everything else is just window dressing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Philosophy, economics, sociology, my place in the world, my relationships, dinner.

Playing with ideas is one of my favorite things, and I want a partner that will play with me and hold their own.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes I go to parties, but lately I've been feeling more low-key. Cooking dinner with a friend, drinking wine and reading poetry, seeing a play or watching a movie.
You should message me if
You are sapiosexual, witty, appreciate and exercise critical thinking, take responsibility for who you are, and are looking for someone to share this crazy beautiful life.