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35 San Francisco, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23-34
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:05am
Sapiosexual, Straight
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Average build
Buddhism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Russian (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am having a lot of trouble writing about myself without sounding, like either an arrogant prick, or a self-deprecating loser. I am going to try to be as authentic as possible, just keep in mind, writing was never my strong suit.

I am an immigrant, an engineer, a son, a thinker, a dancer, a friend, an atheist, a jew, a feminist, a reader, a cook, a student, cat cafe proprietor, often an iconoclast, sometimes shy, seldom sentimental.

Those are all labels, and maybe they mean the same to me as they do to you, but they probably don't. Hafiz wrote:

I have a thousand brilliant lies for the question:
How are you?
I have a thousand brilliant lies for the question:
What is God?
If you think that the Truth can be known from words,
If you think that the Sun and the Ocean an pass through that tiny opening called the mouth,
O someone should start laughing!
Someone should start wildly Laughing,Now!

That's how I feel about this profile, but it's the only game in town.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I write software for a living, and for love. I know talking about work is a faux pas, and I should instead just mention it in passing and move on to talking about my diverse and impressive hobbies. But I really, truly, love what I do. My work brings me joy, fulfillment and a sense of purpose, and I consider it my main creative outlet.

I read a lot, love the theater, go on TED talk binges, and am usually trying to learn something new. I love, and seek out good art, good stories, good ideas, and good food.

I've spent the last year focusing on my health and fitness, learning guitar, dancing blues, re-discovering poetry, exploring festivals, and trying (mostly unsuccessfully) to make a habit of meditation.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
So so many. But here are some favorites:

Diamond Age
Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance
Deepness in the Sky
Kurt Vonnegut
Baroque Cycle
Diskworld Series
American Gods
Alan Watts

Arrested Development
Parks and Rec
West Wing
The Office

Vienna Teng
Regina Spector

I don't like beer, but I like the taste of beer.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I have a few close friends, and consider them family. I love them dearly and make them a priority. Some of them are my exes. This has caused problems in past relationships, but is nonnegotiable.

Everything else is just window dressing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Philosophy, economics, sociology, my place in the world, my relationships, dinner.

Playing with ideas is one of my favorite things, and I want a partner that will play with me and hold their own.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sometimes I go to parties, but lately I've been feeling more low-key. Cooking dinner with a friend, drinking wine and reading poetry, seeing a play or watching a movie.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are sapiosexual, witty, beautiful, appreciate and exercise critical thinking, take responsibility for who you are, and are looking for someone to share this crazy beautiful life.