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clevernamerson

33 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 25–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 30
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Trying to quit
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of masters program
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Speaks
English, Dutch (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm just doing my thing, trying to make it on this big ol' ball of dirt like everybody else. Like termites.

I'm an introvert, even though I'm admittedly pretty loud.

I've always worked in politics/organizing and the non-profit industrial complex in the past, but I am "retired" from that now ("if voting actually changed anything..." and all that). I've managed campaigns and been a labor organizer, and right now I'm trying to slow things down and enjoy life a bit more. I'm currently trying to learn more about gardening, and how I can pay my bills without having to compromise my integrity too much. I'd eventually like to have a small farm of my own at some point.

I love riding my bike, but am legitimately terrified to do so here in the Bay area. I've never met so many people who have been hit by a car while riding in my entire life.

I play guitar (poorly), and also bought a cheap Casio a while back, lying to myself that I would teach myself how to play keyboard. It now gathers dust on a shelf in my closet. So if you want to come over sometime and play the piano part to Bob Seger's "Still the Same" while I strum along, that would be awesome.

I also got a new toy from REI (the one place I actually like to shop), an inflatable tandem kayak! Let me know if you'd like to go paddle around.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to open a retail store. It's kind of a pain in the ass.

Living it. Doing my best to not be complicit in the suffering of others.

Trying to continually be a better person, which I don't always succeed at. Finding prepositions to end sentences with (it's allowed, seriously. http://www.plainenglish.co.uk/)

Attempting to communicate honestly and openly.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Rolling spliffs. I joke about my 10,000 Malcolm Gladwell hours going into this, but seriously, I can roll a pretty nice spliff, if you'd ever like me to demonstrate.

I also am a pretty good cook, as long as it consists of throwing various items in a pot with wine and roasting it for a long time.

This section is hard for me. As I've mentioned I'm a bit shy, and it feels weird saying things that aren't half-assed and jokey. I'm good at caring. I care about a lot of things. I care about people, and how this world is a fucked up place and what we can do about it and what we all have to do to get by and make the best of it. I care about injustice and oppression, and even though I may come off as a cynic, I'm really just a damned disappointed idealist. There's probably a quote about that somewhere.

I'm good at listening, better than I am at talking most times.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably my long, flowing hair? Maybe my eyes? I also get asked if I'm hapa a lot, but nope, unless you mean part "native american" or "indian" (ugh, really don't like either of those words, hence the scare-quotes, but those are the horrible terms we have to work with.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I usually only skim this section on most folks' profiles, and I kind of assume most others do the same. There's already too much text on this profile, so why not ask me? Good stuff, I promise.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ice water.
Something to read.
Podcasts.
Chia and/or sunflower seeds.
My backpack (this is slightly cheating, I'm using this as a collective noun. There are several items found within said backpack that I could never do without. e.g. a hoodie, an umbrella [admittedly haven't used that one in a while], rolling tobacco, snacks, etc.)
The abbreviation "e.g." It's all like, "hey, I'm going to do you a favor and give you an example of the thing I'm trying to demonstrate. I won't even charge you for it."
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ewige Blumenkraft und ewige Schlangenkraft.

Also, how much cooler it would be if I didn't have to do dumb things like "work" at a "job" just to get "money" to pay the "rent" and buy "food" (and no, I don't know why those words are in scare quotes. so?).

That it's annoying that I'm listed as "more drug friendly" on this website. I smoke marijuana both medicinally (migraines, anxiety, insomnia) and recreationally. I don't drink, have never ever tried coke or heroin or amphetamines, have done mdma once and didn't find teeth-grinding and feeling gross particularly fun, and do psychedelics maybe once a year. Maybe. Last time I used psychedelics was microdoses last summer to try to break a cluster headache cycle. I used to work in drug policy reform, for lots of reasons. One big reason (setting aside the obvious soul-crushing reality of the criminal justice system) is that I really, really dislike marijuana/drug culture (420 slang, insularity, sexism, dabs, the lack of ambition that makes productive pot-smokers look bad by association, general bro/stoner culture, etc etc), and like being able to buy my pot at a clean, well-lit store rather than a sketchy dufus drug-dealer. I'm looking forward to when "cannabis" is just another pulldown menu under "smokes" and "drinks" on the sidebar of this site, not in the catch-all "drugs" (actually I'm not looking forward to that as realistically by the time that happens I really hope I have met a nice lady to be my partner and am not on this site still.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopefully getting my tent set up for a weekend camping trip. Oakland Museum Night is pretty cool. Maybe hanging out with a few friends and playing some music. Maybe New Parkway? Or, staying in and smoking some joints, reading, listening to music, decompressing.

Love going to shows, want to see more live music. Know anything good coming up?

Most likely not at a bar or club, but stranger things have happened.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm colorblind, and it is just like this: http://randomfunnypicture.com/random-funny-pictures/what-happens-when-i-tell-people-im-color-blind/

I have terrible insomnia. Anyone have any advice on dealing with this?

I'm the child of an alcoholic, and I don't enjoy being around drunk people all that much. I'm not judging, just not my thing. I have a strained relationship with alcohol. If we're going to the bar, I might have a guinness or glass of wine to be social, but I'd honestly rather be having a coke. I sometimes wonder how much easier dating would be if I enjoyed drinking more, or if there were more social places to meet/hang out with people and smoke pot (like coffeeshops in Amsterdam), but there's still that whole pesky being illegal thing, I guess.
You should message me if
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You are slightly less shy than me. No, seriously.

You are a funny, cute, well-read lady who likes to smoke pot, eat good food, go on hikes and weekend getaways, and also like to snuggle and such.

You actually want to meet in person. Coffee is not scary, right?

You want to get in a bit more camping this year before it gets too cold and wet.

PS - you are preferably (but not mandatorily) East Bay.