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51 Redwood City, CA Man


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  • Ages 41–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last Online
Online now!
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Other (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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What is the name of the Bollywood knock-off of the latest Hunger Games movie? Oh right, "Mocking Jai Ho".

With two daughters, work, play, congratulating myself on my state of self-satisfaction and a bit of bumming around my life is very complete, but I really, really need a woman so I can figure out the "duvet and sham" thing. Of course the male friends with whom I share confidences are just as clueless as I am, and my women friends refuse to help, typically responding with "Get a girlfriend, then ask her!". So here I am on OKC.

ists: The first thing that pops into my head when I ask my myself who I am is still "physicist". What else? dad, tree-house maker, climber (of 30 years and still counting, but as a friend said, it is a life-long activity), feminist (yup, I'm putting this back on, against the advice of many), atheist, physics stand-up, expert at getting a mugful of water thrown in his face by Daughter 1, getting back-handed on the nose by Daughter 2 exclaiming "... this big!", internationalist ...
OK, I'm bored, let's meet, you can find out how much of this is true, but I'd rather find out about you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living it - would like to live like Goldmund but personality is like Narcissus'. Making a living (data/stats) and thoroughly enjoying it. I genuinely enjoy work, almost as much as grad school.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Modesty does not permit me ... but if you really want to know ...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like words?

A young business analyst at work introduced me to a new colleague of hers as "the coolest person in the company". I'll take that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food: Sugar? Gaack! The other day I was served portobello mushrooms soaked in sugar - gaack gaack and gaack! Other than that, if you are familiar with the place or the cuisine, I'll let you order for me.

Cooking: I very very successfully reverse engineer recipes. I cook with my daughters.

Movies: As P.A.M. Dirac said, "Yes.".

TV or not TV: Battlestar Galactica (I am Starbuck). Big Bang Theory (Leonard I guess. I am not smart enough to be Sheldon, not circumcised enough to be Wolowitz, I need two drinks before I can talk to girls so I can't be Raj and my boobs aren't big enough to be Penny).

Music: e.g. Delhi 2 Dublin, Ana Tijoux, the old Manu Chao

Radio: KPFA and Amy Goodman over KQED and Michael Krasny (He used "police", "serve" and "community" in the same sentence in the wake of Ferguson! Eep!).

Books: GEB (turned me on to stuff about computing, Escher and art, then Bach led me to Fusion and Indian classical!),
Anna K (my review consists of quotes mostly taken out of context, but they are astoundingly applicable to the present),
Feynman Lectures in Physics (a conceptually new way of thinking of physics from the ground up, beautifully explained, and what I mean by that is that the explanations are sticky, you grok them),
Saramago (Jose!, not, as the Spanish minister of culture Espe. Aguirre thought, "the portugese poetess Sara Mago")
Quino (the _real_ reason I learned spanish was so I could read Mafalda in the original)
Roberto Bolagno's 2666.
"Kinflicks" anyone?
Naomi Klein over Tom "My head is flat" Friedman
The Russian Margaritas
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
sunshine, earth, wind, rain, vacuum and the universe
e, 1, 0, pi, i and infinity
k, G, h, c, q and 1/alpha
sometimes phonetic acrostics
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why "atheism," has a comma

... whether (mattress protector, fitted sheet, flat sheet, fleece blankets, duvet (whatever that is!), comforter, pillows, shams (pillow cases with frills?), bed spreads, bed covers, pyjamas, the book or two I am reading, towel to protect the pillows from daughters' oiled hair and their sundry stuffed animals) form a completely ordered set.

... and lots of other stuff, some serious

... work and other problems while enjoying being stuck in traffic on 101, no radio, no music, nothing to do but think.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
50% - playing boardgames with daughters, movie night with them, or at an all-ages friends' party.
50% - staying late at work, seeing friends, trying to get to bed before going climbing the next day.
Today, daughters, and friend's kids while she is out on a date. Points in the Karma bank for when(if) I ever have a date on Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that I am not a set theorist, perhaps just a theorist who is set in his ways. There is the set of "things", the subset "things I'm willing to admit", and a property "privacy" which can be used to (partially) order the above. By the axiom of choice, there is a maximal element, hence the above question has at least one answer.

In the vein of "Everything everyone writes on any dating profile is geared towards increasing their success rate, and thus is meant to increase their attractiveness, but I find that boring", here we go:
#1 I dated a girl for 5 years and ...
#2 Because by that time, ... until
#3 I caught ...
#4 I never admitted to myself that ...
#5 I did tell #3 ...
#6 In boarding school ...
(My friends stared at me in horror when they saw this part of my profile before I replaced what I had written with ellipses, so I guess, "not a set theorist" will have to do.)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- my car keys, but this belongs two categories above!
You understand that it is awkward enough for me to write about myself, leave alone write about you.
Any one of the following:
You can be Mafalda to my Calvin, or vice versa.
You think that a guy doing his kids' laundry or wrestling with them is sexy.
You do what you say:, accept inconsistency or are willing to discuss it.
You've searched for a question with "green, eggs, ham" and answered it.
You are the kind of woman who reciprocates "into"ness, courtesy, kindness, thoughtfulness, massages; and can give a guy flowers.
You know that a relationship between two people nurtures and is nurtured by family, friends and the surrounding community. If you think that meeting the people (kids with caution) important in each other's lives relatively early makes online dating a better approximation of "organic" dating.
Or... you think your reputation can survive "shagging a little Indian boy". (google it!)

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