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50 M Redwood City, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 39–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:42pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Other (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
With work, kids, play, congratulating myself on my state of self-satisfaction and a bit of bumming around my life is very complete, but I really, really need a woman so I can figure out the "duvet and sham" thing. Of course the male friends with whom I share confidences are just as clueless as I am, and my women friends refuse to help, typically responding with "Get a girlfriend, then ask her!". So here I am on OKC.

Many of you wonder, "Indian who speaks Spanish? WTF is wrong with him?".
So take your pick:
0. "Ohh, Spanish is sooo useful in the Bay Area." Right, how else would I communicate with the software engineers at Guguel, Feisbuk, Apel, Tuiter ...?
1.The probability that any one Indian speaks Spanish is very low, but there are a billion of us, making it statistically very likely that at least one of us does, that's me.
2. I took courses 15 years ago so I could get advice and "la receta de mi abuela" for ceviche from the chicanos at the Chinese fishmongers behind my house.
3. I wrote an essay on the relativistic and quantum physics in Jorge Luis Borges' "El Sur", which, I am aware, doesn't answer the "WTF is wrong with him?" part.
4. Based on an impromptu interview, I wrote a miniscule fraction of the story of one of the immigrant custodians at work.
5. Read Mafalda, fail (It's in bloody Argentinian!)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living it - would like to live like Goldmund but personality is like Narcissus'. Making a living (data/stats) and thoroughly enjoying it. I genuinely enjoy work, almost as much as grad school.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Modesty does not permit me ... but if you really want to know, foreplay and afterplay.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Passionate - but what does it mean if that is the first thing the CTO of my company noticed about me?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Food: I distrust ethnic or fusion restaurants in the US because American fusion = real food plus sugar. I very very successfully reverse engineer recipes. I can cook well enough that you will get bored of dining out. That goes for other things as well.

Movies: As P.A.M. Dirac said, "Yes.".

TV or not TV: Battlestar Galactica (I am Starbuck). Big Bang Theory (Leonard I guess. I am not smart enough to be Sheldon, not circumcised enough to be Wolowitz, I need two drinks before I can talk to girls so I can't be Raj and my boobs aren't big enough to be Penny).

Music: e.g. Delhi 2 Dublin, Ana Tijoux

Books: GEB (turned me on to stuff about computing, Escher and art, Bach -> Fusion - Indian classical!),
Anna K (my review consists of quotes mostly taken out of context, but they are astoundingly applicable to the present),
Feynman Lectures in Physics (a conceptually new way of thinking of physics from the ground up, beautifully explained, and what I mean by that is that the explanations are sticky, you grok them),
Saramago (Jose!, not, as the Spanish minister of culture Espe. Aguirre thought, "the portugese poetess Sara Mago")
Quino (the _real_ reason I learned spanish was so I could read Mafalda in the original)
Kingsolver, Ehrenreich, not Rushdie, not Pahmuk, not Friedman, no longer Allende (but I've been easily convinced to give her later work a try). "Kinflicks" anyone?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
sunshine, earth, wind, rain, vacuum and the universe
e, 1, 0, pi, i and infinity
k, G, h, c, q and 1/alpha
sometimes phonetic acrostics
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
whether (mattress protector, fitted sheet, flat sheet, fleece blankets, duvet (whatever that is!), comforter, pillows, shams (pillow cases with frills?), bed spreads, bed covers, pyjamas, the book or two I am reading, towel to protect the pillows from daughters' oiled hair and their sundry stuffed animals) form a completely ordered set.

whether heterosexual women who say they are open to dating men from other races do so only in order to appear to be cool to guys from their own race. If this isn't already a Portlandia episode, well, it should be one.

why many more mothers on on-line dating sites brag about their sons than do so about their daughters. Score is about 20-0 so far. I think I'll put this on Quora, since leaving it on here is hardly likely to be a winning strategy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
trying to scrape the OKC website and gather usage statistics that will prove that in place of "dining out with friends" or whatever super-interesting thing it is they claim to be doing, most single people are browsing OKC. What is funnier is that data shows that late Friday night is a BIG time for traffic on OKC - "Well that date sucked, let's see who else is new in the last 12 hours."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that I am not a set theorist, perhaps just a theorist who is set in his ways. There is the set of "things", the subset "things I'm willing to admit", and a property "privacy" which can be used to (partially) order the above. By the axiom of choice, there is a maximal element, hence the above question has at least one answer.

In the vein of "Everything everyone writes on any dating profile is geared towards increasing their success rate, and thus is meant to increase their attractiveness, but I find that boring", here we go:
#1 I dated a girl for 5 years and ...
#2 Because by that time, ... until
#3 I caught ...
#4 I never admitted to myself that ...
#5 I did tell #3 ...
#6 In boarding school ...
(My friends stared at me in horror when they saw this part of my profile before I replaced what I had written with ellipses, so I guess, "not a set theorist" will have to do.)

And so I should confess that “The most private thing I am willing to admit” to you has to do not so much with me but with what I would like to know of you: What do your eyes look like when you uncover your face? There is a smile in them even behind your fingers, will that continue even when you part your hands? How will your voice sound, what timbre will it have, when you first greet me? What parts of you will you first show me, what will hold your interest, what impassions you about your life or work or play? What will your hand feel like in mine? How will you respond when my finger runs down your back? How deeply will I be affected by your smell after yoga? What will you smell like when your skin has warmed in the sun, when a light, clear, blue breeze on red earth runs over you and wafts your hair, when the sunlight strikes your bare shoulders, causes parts of your body – molecules, yes, but still parts of your body - to sublimate off, so densely that even with the light breeze enough of them reach me, reach receptors in my body? What reaction, then, will your molecules catalyse in me, or any part of me that will still have any sense of self left?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- my car keys, but this belongs two categories above!
Any one of the following:
You are the kind of woman who knows herself well enough and is strong enough to risk rejection, in which case you could also message some other guy, it doesn't have to be me.
You can be Mafalda to my Calvin, or vice versa.
You think that a guy doing his kids' laundry or wrestling with them is sexy.
You've searched for a question with "green, eggs, ham" and answered it.
You are the kind of woman who reciprocates "into"ness, courtesy, kindness, thoughtfulness, massages and can give a guy flowers.
Or... you think your reputation can survive "shagging a little Indian boy". (google it!)