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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 45–65
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:53pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
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Neither macho nor mama's boy, I consider myself pretty balanced between the Yang qualities of ambition, assertiveness & protectiveness...and the Yin qualities of cooperation, kindness, and nurturing.

Like the song lyric, I believe that "love is what we came here for." And I also believe that a committed partnership, while incredibly challenging, offers unmatched rewards for those who enter into it--as well as for the people whose lives are touched by the partners. I believe that love is our fundamental nature, and we also need to practice it! I can't think of a better use of my time than devoting it to "the Art of Love," can you? If you agree, then perhaps we can support each other....

I am 5 feet, 9 inches tall; 150 lbs; and am in the personal transformation business. It feels like my main job--for the past 40 years--has been working on my own healing and transformation. So, I would certainly cherish a partner who is up for inner work that relationships seem to require!

Have identified as "Bu-Jew" (born Jewish, practicing Buddhism) for the past 6 years. Recently, however, have found quite a resonance with Adyashanti--who incorporates Buddhism, Christianity and the "non-dual" perspective into his teaching. Meditation is a major part of my life, and it would be wonderful to connect with someone who would want to meditate together.

I play electric & acoustic guitar (well); sing (passably); dance (swing, Contra, rock & roll); or just listening (especially jazz). Am refreshed by being in Nature and like to walk--whether at Howarth Park or just around town. I enjoy cooking (& my charcoal grill); good conversation; laughter; and am told I give a good massage. I work out regularly and tend to stay physically active, so prefer a partner with a similar energy level.

Looking to meet someone who shares my desire to be fully present...who wants to (and can) share her inner life--and hear mine--without losing touch with her own truth or yielding to fear of conflict. Hoping she finds humor in life and human gentle with herself and others... appreciates beauty and the passionate and affectionate...and will go with me to places where neither of us have gone before!
What I’m doing with my life
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Am a practicing Marriage and Family Therapist and Director of Partners 4 Well Being. Am actively looking for compatible partners for this holistic health-oriented business. Am also having fun learning how to play jazz guitar.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Speaking (have won 16 speech contests), writing (handful of published articles), coaching, playing music, cooking.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Penetrating, deep-set eyes; active mind; enthusiasm.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Siddhartha, Wishcraft, Gestalt Therapy; Jazz, blues & rock; Thai, French, Indian, Vietnamese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good friends; interesting work; something to learn; healthy food; coffee & chai (make my own); physical activity & rest.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My career; almost anything related to personal growth and spirituality; friendships & intimacy; how to have more fun in my life!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
No such thing as a "typical Friday night."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not as "self-contained" as I appear to be.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you feel a resonance with what I've written and are drawn to connect. Let's take a chance: let's place our bets on love. Even if the odds of 'winning' are small, isn't it more fun to play than to watch from the sidelines?