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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 45-65
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 9
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Average build
Buddhism and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English, Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Do you love Truth more than comfort? Do you believe that life is too precious to sleepwalk through it in a trance of distraction or busyness? And are you actually available for the hard work that a conscious relationship requires? Then perhaps we should talk....

I am 5 feet, 8 1/2 inches tall; 147 lbs; and in good shape. Am in the personal growth business, and feel like my main job for the past 40 years has been working on my own healing & growth. So, I'm seeking a partner who likewise is committed to personal transformation and sees a committed relationship as an ideal vehicle for awakening.

Have identified as a "Bu-Jew" (born Jewish, practicing Buddhism) for the past 6 years. This past year I've found resonance with both a Reconstructionist Synagogue in Cotati, and with Rinzai Zen Roshi John Tarrant's Pacific Zen community. Meditation is a key part of my life, and it would be a joy to share with a partner.

I play electric & acoustic guitar (well); sing (passably); dance (swing, Contra, rock & roll); and enjoy listening to jazz. Am refreshed by being in Nature and like to walk--whether at Howarth Park or just around town. I enjoy cooking & my charcoal grill (mainly organic); good conversation; & laughter. I like a good video (have a great home theater system) & hope you like to cuddle. I work out regularly and tend to stay physically active; would hope you have a similar energy level (tennis anyone?).

Looking to meet someone who shares my desire to be fully able to share her inner life--and hear mine--without losing touch with herself or yielding to fear of conflict. Hoping she finds humor in life and human gentle with herself and others... appreciates beauty and the passionate and affectionate...and will go with me to places where neither of us have gone before!
What I’m doing with my life
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Am a practicing Marriage and Family Therapist and Director of Partners 4 Well Being. Am actively looking for compatible partners for this holistic health-oriented business. Am also having fun learning how to play jazz guitar.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Speaking (have won 16 speech contests), writing (handful of published articles), coaching, playing music, cooking.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Penetrating, deep-set eyes; active mind; enthusiasm.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Siddhartha, Wishcraft, Gestalt Therapy; Jazz, blues & rock; Thai, French, Indian, Vietnamese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good friends; interesting work; something to learn; healthy food; coffee & chai (make my own); physical activity & rest.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My career; almost anything related to personal growth and spirituality; friendships & intimacy; how to have more fun in my life!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
No such thing as a "typical Friday night."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not as "self-contained" as I appear to be.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you feel a resonance with what I've written and are drawn to connect. Let's take a chance: let's place our bets on love. Even if the odds of 'winning' are small, isn't it more fun to play than to watch from the sidelines? And, who knows? Perhaps a great friendship and/or business partnership might even result....