Unfortunately, since becoming disabled in 2001, I haven't been
doing much. I like to talk with friends (who are all long
distance), watch TV, stay current on events and, of course, love my
cat! I'm determined not to continue being a hermit. Despite my
condition, I don't think I am a needy, high-maintenance woman and
I'm definitely not a drama queen. I have been used to living
alone/on my own and I cherish tranquility - I don't allow
negativity/stress into my home or my life. I love to laugh, I'd
like to start having some more fun and talk intelligently with
someone about life!
Before becoming disabled, I was an assistant director of special
education for a school district in Santa Cruz/Monterey Counties. In
the past, I've been a special education teacher, education
research/writer, editor and so much more, including working for the
IRS! Boy, do I have some stories I could tell.
I used to be in a choir when I lived in Santa Cruz and discovered I
was a decent tenor. I was also in a Buddhist (adhering to that
faith not required) meditation group for survivors of chronic
illness (it was very uplifting, not a whine/pity group). I miss
those activities here on the Central Coast.
I suppose the largest thing I'm doing with my life is helping
others who are in it. I've been told I am a vast wealth of
information and I take pleasure in sharing what I know to help my
friends. Also, as I explain in the next section, I'm good at
analyzing situations, so I often help my friends figure out what to
do when they face various problems in their lives. Knowing that I
am able to, and do, help others is my raison d'etre.
Given my situation, I'd rather focus on what I'd like to do -
hopefully with you!
I used to love dancing
. It's been years since I've done
any, so I'm not sure if I'm currently able to dance for an extended
amount of time (of course, I can always stand there and sway back
and forth if nothing else!) I like concerts, as long as it isn't
just loud noise. I prefer small venues (like the Red Barn in Los
Osos), rather than large arenas. I saw Bonnie Raitt there and loved
it! I also like to listen to and observe people, e.g., drinking a
latte and watching the scenery.
I'm drawn to the water and the woods. I find it spiritual
and calming. So, any
visits to the shore and boat voyages are great! I've been on a
Windjammer cruise (on a 3-masted schooner), which I absolutely
loved. After getting to know you (and hopefully we like each
other), walks hand-in-hand on the beach or cliff overlooking the
shore sounds nice! So do picnics and going to the movies (does
anyone go to the theater anymore)? Short, easy treks in the woods
are also appealing (I even have a brochure of local trails with a
lot of info to help me figure out whether they would make me
breathe hard, but not cause any pain, or whether I shouldn't step
foot one on the trail for fear it will totally wipe me out!)
I have an adventuresome streak. Besides the Windjammer (in case you
don't know, they are totally unlike the huge cruise ships, which
I've also done; you totally feel the rocking and rolling beneath
your feet - try dancing with high heels and too many rum drinks on
that!) Years ago, I did a Tony Robbins firewalk, which involved
walking barefoot over 12 feelt of hot charcoal. It was fantastic!
Very powerful. I've water rafted (loved it; hated when it came to
an end and regret not buying the photo, even tho it was a rip-off
pricewise), tubed down the Ichnetucknee (sp?) River, in Florida,
with the gators (!), and kayaked in another Florida river. I
haven't done any of these lately, but I'm still game.
I stopped going to bars decades ago. I don't think it's a good way
to meet someone (unless you're looking for a hook-up - which I'm
not). Also, I sort of stopped drinking. I might have a rare glass
in a social situation though.