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codegrinder

47 M Chicago, IL

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:10pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Skinny
Diet
Strictly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Poorly), LISP (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I weigh about 135 pounds. My favorite color is blue. My turn-ons include skepticism, absurdism and joyous nonsense, chocolate, urbanism, integral theory, interesting technology and good design--including, of course, bikes. My turn-offs include drama, intellectual and political purism, my own laziness, excessive exclamation points, and bad breath.

I love Chicago. Maybe not the greatest city in the world, but certainly the best.

Mastery of things is a core aspect of my personality. I can demonstrate some mastery in writing, cooking, programming, and probably other things. I like to be good at things I do, and I set high standards for myself.

I won't talk about how smart or funny I am here. Read my profile and judge for yourself.

I don't give a hell of a lot of credibility to Myers-Briggs, but ENTP describes me really, really well. I have a lot of social circles, and every circle knows a side of me, but no one knows everything about me. I'm a long conversation. I like to make things with my friends.

My techie friends might know I'm Buddhist, but won't know much about it unless they ask. My Buddhist friends know I'm a techie, but won't know much about it unless they ask. Most folks know I'm car-free, but won't know much about it unless they ask. My bikey friends know I go to Burning Man, but... you get the idea. It's not like I have a bunch of secret lives, I'm just not that interested in talking about myself. Tell me about you.

I am geeky, but 'hacker' is probably a better description for me than 'geek'--hacker in the original sense of the word, bending technology to my will in fun ways. Science fiction is like porn to me: diverting, but I'd rather do the real thing.

Oh no, they're retiring awards! Here's the one I care to keep. Robotic_Exo gave me The Great Date, awarded Jul 6: “Mexican wrestling, illegal parties, bike rides, backyard cookouts/parties, fireworks and access to soldering gun action! Without fail, always a fabulous meandering adventure.”
What I’m doing with my life
Writing code for big companies. Spending too much time on Facebook and email. Developing interesting technology in my free time. Trying to rebrand my career. Hanging out with friends. Cooking. Making stuff at the new South Side Hackerspace (bonus points if you know why the abbreviation ssh is awesome). Always looking for interesting problems to solve.
I’m really good at
Writing, editing, coding, cooking, learning, naming things, starting projects... not so good at finishing them.

Making people say things like, 'I never thought of it that way.'

Bringing clarity: 'So what you're trying to say is [x].' 'Yes, that's it!' Asking the right question.

Making connections: 'I know someone you really should meet.' All my social circles come in handy sometimes.

Ordering at restaurants. You will want what I'm having.

Admitting I'm wrong.

I have a very, very good brownie recipe: dark chocolate, mixed with marmalade--ideally bitter orange marmalade... mmm...
The first things people usually notice about me
Online, you may notice the lack of pictures of my penis in your inbox. Not that I'm particularly proud of knowing better, but from what I hear from women I have met, it might be a remarkable thing on OkC. I'm also potty trained.

If they're trying to engage my ego with this question, well, people are immediately struck by my penetrating brilliance and subtle wit. But first they notice I'm a total spaz. A sexy, sexy spaz.

You might also notice I respond to bullshit questions with bullshit answers. It's definitely more fun than saying 'I dunno, ask them.'
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: chocolate, hummus, sweet potatoes, Thai food, sushi, Indian food. I love the restaurants along north Western Avenue, especially Thai Spoon and Opart Thai. (OMGOMGOMFG Opart Thai has a new place in the South Loop!) I make a good glaze for chicken or salmon, or tofu if you're veggie: combining apple cider and miso paste. I love the combination of sweet and salty. I'm not vegetarian, but I am meat-light.

Movies: I Heart Huckabees, Waking Life, Memento, Young Frankenstein, Lost in Translation, Pi, The Fountain (Requiem for a Dream doesn't belong on this list, but Aronovsky is a genius), Brazil, Happiness, Henry Fool, Something About Mary, Pan's Labyrinth, Y Tu Mama Tambien, Spinal Tap, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Being John Malkovich (again, Charlie Kaufmann, genius), Idiocracy (Brawndo--it's got what plants crave!)

TV: I'm generally a media snob, but Archer, Mad Men, and House of Cards have rekindled my interest in TV. I have no use for the channel abstraction, though. What a crappy way to organize media.

Music: Lyle Lovett, Bach, John Coltrane, They Might be Giants, The Breeders, The Pixies, Mozart, Beck, Bjork, Johnathan Richman, Stuart Davis, TV On The Radio, Lcd Soundsystem, Radiohead... did I mention I'm eclectic? Oh--Jackson 5-era Michael Jackson! 'Stop: the love you save may be your own' is one of my favorite songs. Maybe through 'Off the Wall'... the rest doesn't do much for me. De La Soul's 'Three Feet High and Rising'--best album of the eighties, hands down. More Jim DeRogatis than Greg Kot.

Books: I've been reading lots of anarchists lately. Loving Rebecca Solnit, David Graeber. Love most of Johnathan Lethem, but favorites include Motherless Brooklyn, The Fortress of Solitude, and The Wall of the Sky, the Wall of the Eye--yes, I was reading him in the nineties, Susanna Clarke's Johnathan Strange and Mr. Norrell. Christopher Alexander's The Timeless Way of Building, Taleb's The Black Swan, most of Tufte--I just took his one day class. So good. Hofstader's Godel, Escher, Bach--how can you not love translations of the Jabberwock into French and German? Paul Tough's Whatever It Takes. Ken Wilber's The Eye of Spirit. Greg Bear's Blood Music.

I spend more time in my feed reader than reading books these days, so here are my favorite sources: NPR's Planet Money, Core77 design blog, Make Magazine's awesome blog, Bruce Schneier will beat your plaintext out of your cyphertext with his fists, Ars Technica has the best damn science and technology coverage on the web, Fafblog, xkcd, Scanwiches, Savage Love podcast--Dan Savage is the bomb. I usually listen to This American Life as a podcast. My newest fave: Miller-McCune. Research-driven journalism FTW.
The six things I could never do without
Coherent thought-- I'll probably never have a bad drug habit, because I find the sensation that I can't trust my thought process deeply unsettling.
a regular meditative practice
chocolate
a decent bike--fear the Bike of Steel! Would your weak-ass fixie take you through a Chicago winter, or would it cower in a corner of the basement, begging for springtime? Yeah, that's what I thought.
friends & family
interesting problems to solve.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Things I could be doing. I have about a million projects going on, besides work. Some folks do sudoku, I pick random four digit integers and try to find their prime factors in my head. Give me one, see how I do.

Hard problems, like how money flows in the economy. Technological change and its consequences for people. The coming desktop manufacturing revolution. The way human beings develop over time. The tension between 'human' and 'animal' aspects of our nature. The tension between individual and collective aspects of our nature, and healthy and unhealthy responses to those aspects.
On a typical Friday night I am
It's hard for me to think of a 'typical' Friday night. Sometimes I'm at home, sometimes I'm out with friends, sometimes I'm riding with Critical Mass (on the last Friday of the month), sometimes I'm at the hackerspace...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I look younger than my age, and like a lot of single folks in their 40s, I socialize with a younger crowd, but I really am 46. My version of adulthood may include a healthy amount of play, but I'm still a grownup.

That said, I've discovered a new compulsive behavior: untangling piles of cables. Got a big, gnarly pile of cables sitting in a drawer? Give me half an hour, and I'll have them all neatly separated and tied off. Happy as a clam.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–51
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
...you like smart or geeky guys;

...you are a brownie connoisseur;

...'Her mystery not of high heels and eyeshadow:' Some might say that as you get older, you lower your standards. Others might say you develop as a compassionate person, and learn to appreciate less obvious charms.

I'm not devoid of superficiality, and I don't expect you to be. But you will find kindness, sweetness, and understanding go a very long way with me. If you feel the same way, we will get along well.

...you enjoy intellectual conversation, but you don't get lost in it. I love it too, but emotionally it doesn't lead anywhere. I'm finding I bond best over intimacy, sharing the details of our lives. Maybe that was obvious, but I'm the kind of guy who had to learn it the hard way;

...you are a city-dweller... I don't rule out meeting suburban women, but being car-free, I'm just not sure how that would work. I'm close to Berwyn and that area, so close-in western suburbs can probably work. Outside that, either live in the city or come with some ideas about how we will make it work. That don't involve me buying a car.