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32 • Bellingham, WA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 26–38
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Today – 11:16am
- 5′ 9″ (1.75m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Atheism, but not too serious about it
- Aries, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from university
- Rather not say
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Has cats
- English (Fluently), German (Poorly), C++ (Fluently), LISP (Okay)
First impressions mean very little to me. It takes time and effort to really get to know someone. It can sometimes be hard not to make assumptions about people, but I try not to. I know there's only so much I can really learn about someone before spending a somewhat significant amount of time with them. Likewise, I'm generally rather quiet and usually a bit awkward, and I expect it usually takes some patience to get to know me.
I might be a bit of a computer geek. I spend a fair bit of my time playing games and programming and reading things. I'm usually happy to have an excuse to go out and do something, though. I just don't like going out by myself or being in crowded places. My usual preference is to go have coffee or something with one person at a time. I find it's easier to make a connection with people that way.
I like living a calm and relaxed life. I might be a bit quiet most of the time, but I'm happy that way. I've found that silence with someone else is rather special, and it's something that I don't want to do without.
I'm looking for a relationship, but that takes time. For the short term, I think it's easier to say that I'm just interested in meeting someone that I can enjoy being with. For me, romance needs to develop from something else, and I would very much like to find that.
Along those lines, I'm not particularly afraid of distance anymore. It does suck to not be able to be as spontaneous, and I don't have any particular interest in travelling otherwise. However, I have some luxuries at this point in my life that makes travelling most places not totally unreasonable, and I'd be happy to look into doing so for someone special. I've also found there's something sort of romantic about being on Skype with someone while I do my other useless computer things in the evening.
In my spare time, I dabble with graphics programming and game development. Lately, I've been getting a bit more serious about this. I'm finding the balance between these kinds of projects and the more business-oriented stuff I do for my day job is very fulfilling.
I've never owned my own car, and I'm happier with that choice as I get older. I walk for at least an hour almost every day, mostly just getting to and from work. I like it that way.
In general, I'm continuously trying to work towards being happier in life. I'm working on career stuff with work and study and practice.
I am a really good listener. I rarely feel that I have the best advice to give, but I'm always willing to go out of my way to be there for someone I care about in whatever way I need to be. If nothing else, I like to try to treat my friends the way I'd like them to treat me. That being said, I do genuinely like listening. I like learning about people, especially people who I'm close to.
People have told me that I'm pretty laid back and easy to get along with.
People also tend to notice that I'm pretty quiet. At some point in my past, I used to pretend I wasn't an introvert. I don't do that any more.
Aside from that, I generally prefer textbooks. Computer books, math books, physics books, sometimes chemistry books. Most things science or theory oriented.
(b) Movies: V for Vendetta, Batman Begins, The Dark Knight, The 40 Year Old Virgin, Ordinary People
Shows: Dr. Who, The Outer Limits, Battlestar Galactica, Firefly, Avatar
(c) I really like music, but I don't go nuts over it. I try playing an instrument occasionally. Sometimes I hear a song that I think fits some situation perfectly. Sometimes (probably depending on my mood more than anything) a particular song will just click with me perfectly. Mostly, I listen to music more for the melody than for the message. I end up liking a lot of music without ever knowing who or what it is. I guess I could get more specific, so in no particular order:
Oomph!, Eisbrecher, Daft Punk, Leftfield, Tool, BT, Breaking Benjamin, Jem, Massive Attack, Ministry, Tapping the Vein, Delerium, Static-X, Garbage, James Blunt, Snow Patrol, Dishwalla
MrSuicideSheep on youtube has a lot of stuff that I really like too.
I've been listening to a lot of stuff on soundcloud lately. To see/hear a list that's mostly disjoint from what I've mentioned here, you can reference my ever growing likes list: soundcloud.com/codewad/likes
(d) Spicy food and/or cheesy food. Things that are both are amazing.
There are other things that I would like to put here, but I have and do live without them, so that would be something like cheating... or something...
I think a lot about how I can understand things better. I like to think that one of my talents is that I can figure out almost anything (at least if it's technical). I don't know how true that really is, but I feel like I do pretty well.
For something a little more concrete, I think a lot about programming and video games, or just automated systems, I suppose. I tend to have a number of projects going at once, mostly because I get a bit scatter-brained. I start working on one thing, and then I get an idea for something else and I have to go try it out.
I don't own a car, and I'm a little proud of it. I own an old, cheap tv, only for console games. Even that doesn't really get much use anymore.
I hate the sound of people eating crunchy things.
I haven't written in cursive in so long that I'm not sure I remember how.
I have a lot of books, and I love having a lot of books, and I occasionally flip through them, but I rarely actually read them.
Rain gets me really excited. Particularly the sound of it... and thunder...
I seem to know more about cats than the average person, but I don't consider myself anywhere near an expert. Similar, and maybe a little weird, I feel like I can understand cats pretty well. Not communicate with, just understand...
I seem to be a little awkward sometimes, and I usually wish I wasn't.
Cuddling is the best thing ever. Affection in general is very nice.
I've never really identified with the term "hedonism," but I do seem to think in pretty similar ways. I really just like being happy, and I like seeing other people be happy.
There isn't really very much that I won't admit to. I don't know that I'd go as far as to say I wear my heart on my sleeve, but I don't try to hide anything. I do my best to be honest and forth-coming, especially when it's about something important.
I've noticed over the years that I tend to fall in love fairly easily. To go along with that, I also tend to get hurt fairly easily. I don't get bitter about much, but I have learned to be a bit more careful. If we meet, and I seem stand-off-ish, I apologize in advance. It's always been hard for me to relax with new people, and I may have accidentally developed some new walls to get through. For whatever it may help, if we do meet, it probably means that I like you enough to hope you can put up with me long enough for me to get out of those walls.
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