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59 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 8:57am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them

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My self-summary
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words fail.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.

i climb & erect steel concert stages.
stage lighting tech
create upcycled art as a form of community outreach
casting my bread upon the waters...
stocking my artcave
supporting social justice
accumulating body ink

"When you find a conscious man you have no choice but to face yourself."

i embrace every life affirming act that refutes my sands have run.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.

lifelong autodidact, polymath

self-taught delinquent before the word "Doogie" was uttered
"Preach" in Cooley High.
the life journey of a Kryptonian
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The Woodpecker Song in 4/4 time by Woody Woodpecker-(we're all crazy)

Schizophrenic by Eek-A-Mouse

+ (whatever comes out in key during shower medley)

"My King, ( gurgle) it is an honor...( gasp) to die at your side.""It is an honor (wince) (shudder) to have lived at yours."

"he's a complicated man & no one understands him but his woman" (true that.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
when Miss Muffet doesn't run

when Miss Muffet's out for fun

when Miss Muffet respects syntax

when Miss Muffet smiles back

when Miss Muffet has released her anger to the cosmos

my spud wrench

doc martens work boots

any cool shoes that make my feet look smaller
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
black women: the sistas on this site all from over the world . (statistics are skewed for the pampered class & don't reflect your awesomeness.)

On the other hand, i can empathize with Charlton Heston's Astronaut Taylor where the human talks & jaws drop. No, it's not the same planet anymore. it's sterilized as we must appear to blend in...cuz free range non-lobotomized humans are taboo. (Happy now?)

( i've noticed a number of profiles where ladies are posing with
semiauto/tactical rifles--a trend or necessity?)

& this is a cosmic question: per Songs In The Key of Life:
why & how Stevie Wonder can say his love is polygamous without consequence (check the liner notes.)

just as an antivirus updates itself, i'm logging what the "lady boner breakers" are & what the new love language is. doesn't seem to be English...

how just saying "Hello" in a chatbox sets off more alarms than all of Tom Cruise's Mission Impossible flicks.

how the one lady out there who comprehends me will catch Holy High Hell* making up for the ones who didn't. (like every hail doesn't constitute a boundary violation & i remember "Juicy Fruit" as a hit record, not a sex crime. I also remember a date who left her partially-masticated gum on the edge of her plate where i could stare at her molar marks & yup that was her chaser to be re-chewed when done--guess i remember it as a nightmare too ;-) )

(if black smart people don't connect--the race is doomed)
don't succumb to brain death.

how Vaginal Davis' assertion** that "artsy-fartsy types of men are lousy in the sack" only applies to the foreigners she's encountered. says only convicts (criminals & thugs) can get her off.
**(SFAQ article)
(a widely shared belief i wonder.....? )

*(Holy High Hell = "the bliss which cannot be named.")

we are seeking bliss you know...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?

(First Fridays in Oaktown)

I applaud & uphold the principle that one can be a patriot & still be a socially conscious militant for change. So I salute any lady who isn't home reading this tonight but is out seeking justice with others across the nation. You are my heroines!

ahh & here's a quote from a query message sent to the UK:

"I use the site because certain Americans are too busy to nosh & chat--or too isolated to try."

seeking out those not coarsened or averse (manphobic) or ageist, preferably conscious, lucid, not timid. if a brotha sez you're so fine you assassinate the soul, it's not terrorist watch list time.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
1.) & when all hesitation is cast aside & your "creepy-meter" doesn't go off.

2.) congruence happens & you wish to discuss & explore affinities.

3.) you raise the portcullis & cross the moat.

4.) if this quote resonates: "instead of cherishing isolation why not cherish sharing?"

(broad hint: the photos i smile in = good endorphins flowing)* (wonder how those got loose?)(undiluted 100 PROOF)

5.) you want to engage & commune & hang out.*

*(that does entail conversation)

6.) you have an adventurous spirit & haven't murdered the seductive bones in your body.

The site also assigns me high match percentages to sistas who tend to be younger--don't hate :-) The Cryptkeeper is that other guy.

Oh yes! any sista out there who even REMOTELY thinks she's caught some of Robin Williams' spark of divine madness--hit me....