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  • Ages 28–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Oct 7
Relationship Type
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Other and it’s important
Working on University
Might want kids
My self-summary
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words fail.
What I’m doing with my life
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finding & restoring artifacts. returning them to their origin or source if needed.

"When you find a conscious man you have no choice but to face yourself."

i embrace every life affirming act that refutes my sands have run.

negotiating an ever changing sea of boundaries & identities in this magical mystery tour of life.

performing an agile kinetic job that requires concentration & stamina.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.

lifelong autodidact, polymath
rotating book cache
self-taught delinquent before the word "Doogie" was uttered
"Preach" in Cooley High.
the life journey of a Kryptonian
reinvention is constant
stagehand in S.F.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Anti-Love Song by Betty Davis.

"he's a complicated man & no one understands him but his woman" (true that.)

a site i discovered that resonates with me:
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
any cool shoes that make my feet look smaller
the sawmill i use to cut through the bull
Occam's razor
Dr. Sagan's B.S. Detector
knowledge from wearing other hats in the past
1964 New York's World's Fair
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the times someone left me in charge & how it's been a revocable honor, efficiencies be hanged.

the times i've been honest & it invoked a fear factor.

black women: the sistas on this site all from over the world . (statistics are skewed for the pampered class & don't reflect your awesomeness.) i relate to a spectrum, but best to the literate, evolved & tolerant.

blondes can be fun, but women of color preferred. call it my hard limit.
if you don't find a free range non-lobotomized human dangerous & have protocols in place if a brotha is unconventional to your encounters things could be harmonious.

i'm not here to make anyones' head hurt or befuddle her. nor am i here to atone for the collective sins of the phallocrat patriarchs. if you like women, i don't care. but if you truly truly don't like men, i tend to notice lil stuff like dat. i also notice if i happen upon a random sista in public in yoga pants & she reacts as if threatened & exposed. immediately seeks to cover up or change direction. (i see you don't do that on Sadie Hawkins' Day) it was hanging on ya when you left the house before you ever saw me.
i need not suffer the wrath of Jocasta's brooch pin. I'm artistic also & Lucian Freud totally snoozed on a demographic that's rich in texture. ya can't hide Gibraltar if ya got one ya feel me? so don't have or at least be working on body image issues. (& yes i noticed they can last for decades) celebration can be misconstrued as violation. also sharing the same sidewalk. "dat dere be dat bullshit" as the internet meme sez.

there's two sections of my profile that no longer appear. Snowden knows you can't really tell secrets. They're not received well by the unenlightened & the truth itself is sufficiently taxing.

that said, monogamy for me amounts to over-specialization. latitude to choose doesn't equal licentiousness. i don't slut-shame healthy expressions, polyamory, kink. i do take issue with "Don't Ask Me To Smile" "The End of Men" & other scowling divisive diatribes that alienate the sexes. i'm a good friend, a warm caring host, accepting of GBLQ but hold the" T." (ciswomen or bust. no compromise. ) it doesn't mean one is a rotten person for having principles. i'm old school-hot tubs & champagne are soothing with like-minded company. i like guy stuff-i fix great meals for guests. i'm proactive. if you can grasp that, there's a chance to be in sync. i'm low-key but intense when needed. i also know that euphoria can be fleeting so people value deeper stuff.

i celebrate black womynkind & value intelligence. If things were reciprocal, they' be smoking.

i'm not one dimensional nor reduce you to same-i connect with personalities.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?

(First Fridays in Oaktown)

if not at above event, then i may likely be modifying an upcycled art piece, like finding a carved wood Masai then make his shield & weapons from mixed media. when a merchant from Africa saw the finished product, she exclaimed that it appeared as if an African made it. I told her, "well aren't we all s'posed to be from there, just a lil bit?" (insert wry grin)

there can be other uses for Fridays...
You should message me if
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you've seen the error of your man-hating ways.

you see men as you wish to be seen, as allies, partners, friends.

(something has rendered women into skeptics & men into cynics & you buck the trend)

i end with an original verse:

i swear she was a Venus figurine
with the hips of life
on marble columns
sacred her to death when i told her
'i long to worship
the great earth mother.'