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36 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly), French (Poorly), Japanese (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I was born and raised in Western Massachusetts, and I'll always be a New England yankee at heart. I still miss Fall foliage, proper maple syrup and watching the Red Sox lose. That said, I no longer have to deal with shoveling snow, raking leaves, mud season, watching the Red Sox lose or Massachusetts drivers, so it's a fair trade.

As long as I can remember, I've been creative and artistic, as well as a hopeless geek. As a teenager, I aspired to be an illustrator (specifically, a comic book penciller), so when the time came, I studied fine arts and illustration in college, finally earning a BFA in painting from UMass Amherst. Shortly thereafter, I got sidetracked into teaching English overseas, which led into a rather long transient period. I've lived long-term in Japan and Taiwan, as well as a too-short stint in London ( we got kicked out; long story). But after a couple of trips to the Bay Area, I knew this was where I wanted to be.

I have a wonderful wife, Jellykka , with whom I've been since 2002. We've had an open marriage since probably 2007. It started as a provisional experiment during a time when we were living in different countries, but once we got comfortable with it, we came to the realization that conventional monogamy wasn't for us, and we've taken the plunge into poly self-identification.

It bears some mentioning that in the past couple years I've become fairly active in the Bay Area kink scene, mostly with SF:TNG. It was a bit of a learning curve: at Open SF 2012 I remember thinking I was the most vanilla person at the entire convention, but after being introduced to kink by a secondary partner it's become a rather significant aspect of how I identify. That said, it's an option, not a requirement. I'm glad to be acquainted with veteran kinksters, vanilla folks and everyone in between.
What I’m doing with my life
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My life's ambitions have also seen a realignment along with the location change. Seeing little real opportunity of making a proper living as an illustrator ( for one thing, I really AM colorblind) I decided that I'd like to pursue an entirely different career path. Upon arriving in the Bay Area, I got into carpentry and gave that the college try for a couple years. I've kind of burned out on that, so now I'm plotting my re-entry into school, with one eye on health care and the other on real estate.

Otherwise I occupy my time by building furniture, taking care of our shiba inu, rock climbing, brewing beer, keeping the drawing skills sharp, teaching myself to cook more healthy foods and basically just minding the house. My wife and I are now homeowners, and there's enough middling work to do around here to keep the building skills sharp.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
reading a tape measure, figure drawing, finding things that other people have lost, spatial relation problems, remembering who was in what movie, losing at pool, cooking Japanese comfort food, public speaking and telling outrageous lies with a straight face.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The fact that I have really big hands.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Phantoms in the Brain by Vilayanur Ramachandran; Candide by Voltaire, A Hitchiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams, The Ancestor's Tale by Richard Dawkins

Movies: Yojimbo, Jaws, Gods and Monsters ( or really, anything with Ian McKellen), Seven Samurai, Up (I'm not too ashamed to admit I almost cried)

Shows: Archer, Doctor Who, Firefly ( told you I'm a geek), Breaking Bad, Mythbusters, Dexter, The Venture Bros.

Music: Pink Floyd, The Propellorheads, Dropkick Murphys, The Who

Food: Indian, Japanese, Mexican, Thai, Taiwanese ( except for stinky tofu), Lebanese
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My tool box ( yeah, yeah, I know there's a bunch of things in a toolbox, but seriously, I couldn't build a footstool with only six tools)

2. My brewing kit ( see caveat for #1)

3. A good mechanical pencil with 3B lead.

4. A wire-bound sketchbook of quality paper.

5. My desktop.

6. The Red Sox cap which my wife bought on a trip back to Boston, to replace the one which I had thoroughly worn out.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what I forgot to do before leaving the house in the morning.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Watching Star Trek: The Next Generation with the missus, or exploring my simian heritage at Mission Cliffs.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Remember that bit about getting a little misty while watching Up? Yeah, that.
You should message me if
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- you've ever sunk the cue on the break.
- you know what that means.
- you're game for a little climbing at Mission Cliffs.
- you root for the Red Sox.
- you root for anybody but the Yankees.
- you own at least three sketchbooks.
- you identify as poly, or at least have a rough understanding of what that means.
That said, please don't bother if...

- you don't think LGBT people deserve the same rights the rest of us take for granted.
- you're going to be judgmental about how my wife and I live our lives.
- you think that speaking French makes a person less of an American (seriously; I'm Franco-American, that's one of my berserk buttons).
- you support so-called "Right to Work" legislation ( I'm a big organized labor supporter; that's another one of my berserk buttons).