Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If I could be any punctuation mark I'd be a semicolon; if I could
be any phoneme I'd be a schwa. I enjoy fervently making false
claims about root vegetables, blurring dichotomies, and even
splitting an infinitive or two when I'm feeling feisty.
Other interests include cilantro, cognitive science, photography,
and other people.
I am analytical, wry, and never bored
I'm in an open relationship. I don't have rigid expectations about
where OKC connections will lead - various permutations of sex,
romantic attachment, and platonic friendship are all OK. I'm
currently more interested in meeting women than men. I generally
only relate well to straight cis men if they're "culturally queer"
/ really reflective about the construction of gender and
WARNING: I am overcommitted these days, so if I don't write you
back, it is likely a sign I'm losing at Schedule Tetris rather than
a judgment of incompatibility. Feel free to write me anyway; I may
write back several months later when I level up.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Juggling far too many activities and projects because the world is
so abundantly interesting (and I'm so easily distracted) that I can
barely keep up.
A couple years back, I was prioritizing backpacking and
mountain-climbing and gardening and fermenting things, and spending
most of my weekends on elaborate food preparation projects or deep
in the wilderness. After moving to the bay a year ago, I fell into
the local hacker/maker/interactive art culture and spent the summer
building a giant metamorphosing fire sculpture, and am now scheming
to build swarm robots and DIY brain stimulators (which I promise
are totally not going to kill anyone). I ride my bicycle ~50-150
miles per week and am always interested in raising that
I also waste a lot of time on the internet. Don't tell anyone -
it's a secret.
I would like to do more:
-amateur mycology (of the culinary kind, mostly)
-climbing of all the things (bouldering gyms! mountains!
-illicit camping in urban liminal spaces
I recently co-founded a hammock cult and am fond of rigging
hammocks in as many places as possible.
Also, I'm still looking for the perfect home for my 2nd pair of
7-inch-diameter googly eyes.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking. Writing. Indecisiveness. Nesting parentheses. Abstract
concept-wrangling. Making people sleepy with magic cuddle hypnosis
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyelashes, my shyness (although this is context-dependent: once
you get to know me well, or if you get me going on the right topic,
I will never shut the hell up).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
As I grow older I feel less and less defined by my tastes, and
increasingly reluctant to rattle off a long list of band names as
tribal signifiers. I do have deeply felt attachments to certain
books and music (and film to an extent, although less than the
other two), but am erratic about keeping up with new stuff.
Best two novels I've read recently: Housekeeping by Marilynne
Robinson and Zazen by Vanessa Veselka. Been considering rereading
Infinite Jest for the 3rd time.
Shows: Arrested Development, Breaking Bad, Battlestar Galactica
(this is a comprehensive list of all the TV i've watched in the
last 3 years!)
Music: today I listened to Emeralds, Wye Oak, and Fever Ray.
Magazines: Harper's and Bitch!
Websites: I am addicted to Metafilter/Ask Metafilter, mostly as a
Food: South Indian food, tom yum soup, avocados in dessert
contexts, avocados in non-dessert contexts, polenta, quinoa, yams
yams yams, raspberries, bitter greens, garlic and lemongrass and
cumin and ginger and chilis. Vegetables I grew myself, or that you
grew! I'm really into food preparation and sharing as a means of
social connection. That being said, these days a disturbingly high
percentage of my calories come from burritos and Larabars. I love
to cook, but it takes time, and it's less fun when you're only
cooking for yourself (hint hint).
Tangent: today I learned that beets contain geosmins, the chemicals
responsible for the smell of freshly turned soil after a rain,
which humans can smell at 10 parts per trillion. How awesome is
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Thinking. Memory. Narrative. Sex. Coding. Relationships, broadly
construed. My cats. The surreality of present-day American culture.
How people perceive and/or impose patterns in lived experience. How
to live a better life (and wtf constitutes a better life, anyway?)
Buddhist psychology and mindfulness meditation. Fantasy trips to
other countries (cycling through southeast Asia, anyone?)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
WARNING! WARNING! measures of central tendency are not good summary
measures for asymmetric distributions!
(Translation: on a typical Friday night I am a giant nerd.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, what do you want to know? My conversational boundaries are
permeable, and topics which are supposedly taboo in "polite
company" (sex, religion, politics, etc) tend to fascinate me. I
also worked in reproductive healthcare for a couple years, which
erased a lot of stigmas for me -- now I'm prone to blithely
bringing up topics like cervical mucus
in mixed company.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are looking for compatible things (see my self-summary for what
I'm looking for) and you are:
-Reflective, emotionally open, and intellectually curious
-Passionate about an esoteric topic and willing to tell me about
-Up for a long, rambling walk through the city or backcountry with
the goal of getting lost, perhaps guided by a walking algorithm we
-A woman in tech who wants to hack on shit together (makeouts
-Knowledgeable about rope bondage (I'm not, but I'd like to
Realistically, things are unlikely to work out between us unless
you a) live in the east bay or b) live in SF and will seek parity
in how often we cross the bay to see each other.
If you want to write me but aren't sure how to initiate a
conversation, here's a prompt: tell me about something you've been
trying to figure out lately. Alternatively, propose an absurd
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