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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35-50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:08pm
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Other but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
My self-summary
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I'm a professional graphic designer, freelance writer, sculptor of stuff, collector of things geeky, avid reader, skilled listener, high octane de-mystifier, thrift store forager and best damn friend to have when the pinches turn to punches.

I've never been good at being flighty, or flaky.

I look people in the eye when I speak to them. I seldom interrupt and I do my best never to assume.

I'm taken by women with smarts; women of wit, and (frankly) women who just might have a bit more going on upstairs than I.

Some people in this life are willing to meet you half way on things, others won’t give you an eighth of a damn. I’m a ¾ the distance guy. I’ve been told I try too hard and I should practice being more aloof. I've tried. I'm simply no good at it. If that’s a fatal flaw, then I guess it’ll be one of many that kills me.
What I’m doing with my life
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I do marketing and public relations for a prominent Seattle "small theater." I call myself a "recovering actor" and jump at any opportunity to design--mostly props and graphics. Over this last year I've done several Seattle 'fringe' projects in rapid succession. I've felt more welcome and appreciation from this community than I anticipated.

I love to read, but the time to do so is often fleeting.

I write whenever I find the time and been rewarded with being published more times than not. I sometime perform the stuff I've written. People seem to like it, so I'll keep doing it.

I've been blessed of late as people from my deep past; high school, early college, keep coming back into my life. Its been amazing catching up with some of these folks--anymore, the world doesn't seem so huge and cold.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I make things and ideas come alive in words and graphics and pictures and stage. I'm good at amusing people, making them laugh and putting them at ease.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My laugh. I inherited it from my father. It's big and loud and makes some people wince.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Right now? Listening to (and loving to death) The Decemberists, Storm Large, Rinde Eckert and the Paul Dresher Esnemble Electro-Accoustic Band, Camper Van Beethoven, and Stan Ridgway.

Movies? Too many, to count. I love fantasy and monsters (zombies crack me up), foreign films (Night Watch, The Host), Peter Jackson, Tim Burton, animated films, documentaries--just about anything that either makes me laugh, makes me think, heavily stimulates my imagination or simply keeps me distracted. I don't care much for what I call "cringe humor," stuff like The Office. Not to say I haven't watched it on occasion and laughed, but I cannot linger for too long. Perhaps I am too empathatetic. I dislike most reality TV--especially the current trend of talent competition shows--for the same reasons. Those shows give me cramps.

I love to read, and can never make enough time to do it. I really dislike, "What is your favorite" -type questions, they're so limiting...but the books that have left a lasting impression upon me (and for that reason spring immediately to mind) both past and present are; GEEK LOVE by Katherine Dunn, THE MASTER AND MARGARITA by Mikhail Bulgakov, THE AMAZING ADVENTURES OF CAVALIER AND CLAY by Michael Chabon, and PATTERN RECOGNITION by William Gibson, THE SPARROW by Mary Doria Russell. Lately I've been reading Jonathan Carroll (LAND OF LAUGHS, THE GHOST IN LOVE). I'm an avid follower of the Fortean Times.

...mind you, those are the handful I thought of this week, ask me next week and you'll more than likely get another answer.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
• Regular long walks in the rain or sunshine, it makes no difference.
• Someone to act as my sounding board.
• Something to read.
• A creative project to look forward to, be it writing or sculpting or building a mask or just organizing my shelves.
• Time with true friends-- the kind that are just happy for your company and vice versa.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The Laws of Attraction--whether its bullshit or not; whether someone can really wish or believe themselves into the reality they want. That one can control the course of their romantic, financial or creative destinies?

Whether I missed some metaphorical boat to a greater destiny, or if I just have to be patient with myself, with the world.

I think about the concept of Empathy a great deal. Oftentime I wish we could invent an Empathy Machine in which we'd be placed at birth and calibrated into the world view other living beings. We'd get a lot more done, there'd be a lot less conflict, and I cannot help but believe the world would be a place of much more wholeness if we simply had the natural ability to see the world through another's eyes, if just for a moment.

I frequently think about how much I love words, yet how words are so imperfect...I wind up eating them quite frequently. Eating them, swallowing them, and wasting them. Thank god they're an unlimited resource.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Flexible. I'm see a lot of live theatre and am proud to be a part of that community. I love live music and of late of been MC'ing events at a friend's art/dance studio. But Friday's are seldom the same routine.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I walk about 15 miles a week, when weather and daylight allow. I hate working out, I don't care much for sports. But I keep as physically active as helps keep my head and my heart (both literal and figurative) healthy.

Sometimes the words of David Sedaris echo too loud in my brain, "Remember, today's elf is tomorrow's troll..."
You should message me if
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If you are looking for a companion, someone stalwart and genuine. If you can see the inherent humor and beauty in the world around you. If you see a beautiful and complete person every time you look in the mirror.

...and if you thought anything I have shared here was worthy of deeper inquiry.