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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40–57
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 4
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and it’s important
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Creative, sensitive, simpatico, affectionate, sensual, gentle, demonstrative, fit, unpretentious intellectual, 5'7" 174 lbs., 59, good company and possessing a sense of humor, seeks warm, intelligent, cultivated, attractive boon companion, 40–57, to share my life and interests, and in whose life and interests I would like to share. I am an editor and not insufferable Francophile (I own a studio apartment in the south of France) fond of the visual arts, literature, the cinema, classical and serious contemporary music, jazz, world music, and foreign language/culture. I’d like my match to be emotionally available and physically affectionate. My politics are to the left of liberal; if there were such a party in the U.S., I’d likely be a Social Democrat. It goes without saying I’d have a hard time with a Republican, let alone a Tea Partier. . . . "Only connect." ... "Comme la vie est lente / Et comme l'espérance est violente." (No photo, no response; it's only fair.)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm trying ever so hard not to live it to the fullest. It just wears me out.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good with words, spoken or written. I also do a wicked imitation of Flipper.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
are my deformities. ... Geez, I don't know, I've never asked anyone, and I don't think about it all that much.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Let's talk current—my favorites are legion. Recent reads:

Tahar ben Jelloun: "Cette aveuglante absence de lumiére" and "La nuit sacrée" (This Blinding Absence of Light and The Sacred Night); C. P. Cavafy: "Collected Poems," trans. Daniel Mendelsohn; Edward P. Jones: "All Aunt Hagar's Children"; Irène Némirovsky: "Suite Française"; Stéphane Hessel: "Indignez-Vous"; Edouard Levé: "Suicide"; Alex Ross: "The Rest Is Noise: Listening to the Music of the Twentieth Century," "Listen to This"; Graham Greene: "The Third Man"; Emile Zola: "Thérèse Raquin"; Gilles Deleuze: "Negotiations"; David Harvey: "The Condition of Postmodernity"; Stendhal: "La Chartreuse de Parme"; Elaine Pagels: "Revelation: Visions Prophecy, and Politics in the Book of Revelation"; John Pope-Hennessy: "The Piero Della Francesca Trail"; Sarah Bakewell: "How to Live: or, A Life of Montaigne in One Question and Twenty-One Attempts at an Answer"; Jared Diamond: "Guns, Germs, and Steel: The Fates of Human Societies" and "Collapse: How Societies Choose to Fail or Succeed"; Rebecca Rischin: "For the End of Time: The Story of the Messiaen Quartet"; Metropolitan Museum, "Velazquez Rediscovered"; Seamus Heaney, trans.: "Beowulf"; Metropolitan Museum: Walter Liedtke, " 'The Milkmaid,' by Johannes Vermeer"; Holly Flora: "Cimabue and Early Italian Devotional Painting"; Metropolitan Museum: "Antonella da Messina: Sicily's Renaissance Master"; Reinhard Steiner, "Egon Schiele, 1890–1918: The Midnight Soul of the Artist"; Samuel Beckett: "Worstward Ho!"; James Shapiro: "A Year in the Life of William Shakespeare: 1599"; F. Robert Rodman, M.D.: "Winnicott: Life and Work"; Manuel de Landa: "A Thousand Years of Nonlinear History"; Emile Zola: "L'Argent" and "Germinal"; David Harvey: "Paris: Capital of Modernity" and "A Brief History of Neoliberalism"; Dario Fo: "Accidental Death of an Anarchist"; Marguerite Duras: "Hiroshima Mon Amour" (screenplay to Alain Resnais' film of same title); Louis-Ferdinand Céline: "Voyage au bout de la nuit"; Mark Rothko: "Writings on Art"; Charles Nicholl: "The Reckoning: The Murder of Christopher Marlowe"; Guy de Maupassant: "Bel-Ami," "Yvette," and "Le Horla"; Georges Simenon: "La Chambre bleue"; Beaumarchais: "Le Barbier de Seville" and "Le Mariage de Figaro"; Margaret MacMillan: "Paris 1919: Six Months that Changed the World"; Edward P. Jones: "The Known World"; Maynard Solomon: "Beethoven," "Mozart: A Life"; Patrick Modiano: "Rue des boutiques obscures"; J.M. Coetzee: "Elizabeth Costello"; Ann Patchett: "Bel Canto"; Peter Taylor: "In the Tennessee Country"

Now working on: Flaubert: "L'Education sentimentale"; Maupassant: "La Maison Tellier"; Peter Taylor: "The Old Forest and Other Stories"; Eric Auerbach: "Mimesis"

Next up: Kamel Daoud: "Meursault: Contre-Enquête; Marguerite Yourcenar: "Mémoires d'Hadrien"; Charles Baudelaire: "Salon de 1846"; Honoré de Balzac: "Illusions Perdues"; Jameson: "Postmodernism, or, The Cultural Logic of Late Capitalism," "The Political Unconscious: Narrative as a Socially Symbolic Act"; Tahar ben Jelloun: "La nuit de l'erreur"; José Saramago: "The Double" and "Blindness"; Susan Sontag: "Regarding the Pain of Others" and "Against Interpretation and Other Essays"; Italo Svevo: "Zeno's Conscience"; Di Lampedusa: "The Leopard"; Lawrence Rainey, ed.: "The Annotated Waste Land, with Eliot's Contemporary Prose"; Robert Alter, trans.: Genesis; Jean-Pierre Dupuy: "The Mark of the Sacred"; Suzanne R. Hudson: "Robert Ryman: "Used Paint"; Roberto Bolaño: "The Savage Detectives" and "2666: A Novel"; Kierkegaard: "Fear and Trembling unto Death"; Nietzsche: "The Birth of Tragedy"; Zola: "L'Assommoir"; Le Roy Ladurie: "Montaillou" and "The Peasants of Languedoc"; Gilles Deleuze and Felix Guattari: "Anti-Oedipus: Capitalism and Schizophrenia"; Tahar ben Jelloun: "La nuit de l'erreur"; Maupassant: "Pierre et Jean"

Now on my iPod/stereo:

Fauré: "La Chanson d'Eve and Other Songs" (Baker), "Mélodies "(Von Stade); ; Bach: Motets, Violin Sonatas and Partitas (Kremer), Cello Suites (Bylsma and Starker), English Suites (Gould); Schumann: Piano Quintets (Emerson); Callas: "Puccini and Bellini Arias," "The Voice Within the Heart," "La Divina"; Beethoven: late piano sonatas (Levit, Gilels), piano trios (Stern, Rose, Istomin); Albeniz: "Iberia" (De Larrocha); Glass: "The Fog of War"; Mozart: piano sonatas (Alfred Brendel), string quartets (Quartetto Italiano), piano quartets (Beaux Arts Trio); Brahms: cello sonatas (Serkin and Rostropovich), string quintet and sextet (Amadeus Quartet); Puccini: "Tosca" (with Maria Callas); Grieg: Lieder (Von Otter); Christina Branco: "Corpo Illuminado" (Portuguese fado); Dastan Ensemble: "Through Eternity: Homage to Molavi (Rumi)" (Persian classical); Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan: "Concerts en Paris"; Bill Evans: "Portrait in Jazz" and "Sunday at the Village Vanguard"; Ravel: "Chansons madécasses" (DeGaetani); Messiaen: "Quartet for the End of Time" (Tashi); and "Vingt regards sur l'enfant Jésus" (Peter Serkin)


"The Leopard"; "Tree of Wooden Clogs"; "Padre, Padrone"; "Water"; "I've Loved You So Long"; "The Discreet Charm of the Bourgeoisie"; "Belle du Jour"; "Belle Toujours"; "The Wages of Fear"; "The Return of Martin Guerre"; "Mr. Hulot's Holiday"; "Gabrielle"; "The Dead"; "Aguirre, Wrath of God"; "Some Like It Hot"; "The Marriage of Maria Braun"; "Ali: Fear Eats the Soul"; "Downfall"; "Run Lola Run"; "The White Ribbon"; "Hidden"; "Into Great Silence"; "Mouchette"; "Diary of a Country Priest"; "400 Blows"; "The Lives of Others"; "Three Colors: Red, White, and Blue"; "The Decalogue"; "To Be and to Have"; "Tous les Matins du Monde"; "House of Sand and Fog"; "The Music Room"; "The Apu Trilogy"; "The Promise"; "The Child"; "The Son"; "A Boy with a Bike"; "Jean de Florette"; "Manon of the Spring"; "Army of Shadows"; "Autumn Sonata"; "The Tall Blond Man with One Black Shoe"; "Amarcord"; "Mafioso"; "Gomorra"; "The Conformist"; "Red Desert"; "Aventura"; "The Passenger"; "Illustrious Corpses"; "On the Waterfront"; "The Battle of Algiers"; "The Mill and the Cross"; "Bringing Up Baby"; "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?"; "Gloria" (with Gena Rowlands); "Woman under the Influence"; "Streetcar Named Desire"; "Children of Men"; "Pan's Labyrinth"; "Nights of Cabiria"; "The Garden of the Finzi-Continis"; "Old Joy"; "Away from Her"; "The Sweet Hereafter"; "You Can Count on Me"; "Trainspotting": "Naked"; "Topsy-Turvy": "Secrets and Lies"; "Happy-Go-Lucky"; "The Thin Blue Line"; "The Fog of War"; "My Architect"; "Gerard Richter Painting"; "Mysteries of Lisbon"; "In the Mood for Love"; "Nine Queens"; "Maria Full of Grace"; "Alamar"; "Talk to Her"; "All about My Mother"; "A Separation"; "The Artist Is Present"; "Amour"; "Populaire"; "Tu seras mon fils"; "A Room with a View"; "Gloria" (Chile, 2014); "The Invisible Woman"; "Marborosi"; "Seven Samurai"; "Rashomon": "Dreams"; "Ran"; "Kagemusha"; "Tokyo Story"; "Floating Weeds"; Early Summer"; "Late Spring"; "Leviathan"; "Bamako"; "Timbuktu"; "Ida"; "Far from the Madding Crowd"


Italian, Japanese, French, Chinese, Thai, and other ethnic cuisines. I have learned quite a lot about wine over the years, and though I can't say I qualify as a connoisseur, I know what I like.


I turned in my cable box a while back.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
art, books, inner life, ardor, imagination, music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
art and aesthetics, income inequality, social justice, politics, ideas, this planet, the nightmare of psoriasis (I don't have it)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
a great date.
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you think there's a good chance of connecting.

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