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28 M Toronto, Ontario, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:20am
5′ 8″ (1.72m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
I am a suburban boy living in the "big city." I am a quirky, care free, slightly neurotic, nerdy, queer young adult. A few years ago I decided to move to Toronto with my ex, which is something I dreamt of since I was a boy. Since then I have been on this crazy odyssey of figuring out who I am. That sounds kind of cliche, but cliches are cliches for a reason. Since moving to Toronto I have obtained a BA, met a variety of quirky and wonderful creatures, had a few relationships, started work on my novel, began a rewarding career in journalism and became an uncle. Some of those times have not been very kind, but I wouldn't change a single day and I can't wait to experience more.

One thing that bothers me about online dating is that, on the surface, it seems like a rather cold way to meet someone. Not to mention Okcupid has decided that it only wants to place people in three categories, "gay, straight and bi." I don't fit into any of these. The truth is, I don't identify as gay or bi because it's far too limiting and I would love to live in a world where okcupid and society finally recognizes that. I like to date a wide variety of people. Now some people, particularly heterosexuals and gay men, are uncomfortable with the idea of my sexual fluidity. There's the whole stereotype that sexually fluid people are promiscuous and duplicitous; that they are just confused or going through a phase. I don't really feel that I'm going through a phase. All relationships are phases, really. And I have had a wide variety of them. I claim a queer identity and take people on a case-by-case basis.

By the way, I am a textbook INFP
What I’m doing with my life
I am a freelance writer and currently taking a summer course to bone up on some technical skills.

I also have a radio podcast, called Hardwired. Check it out! (currently being retooled)

I am also writing a novel. But that's nowhere near being ready for you to read.
I’m really good at
I'm a boy in flux
The first things people usually notice about me
I've never really given this very much thought. So, I just asked a friend of mine. He said my hair and my glasses. I find that intriguing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am a pop culture junky and enormous dork. So, I can't list things here.

Music is the one thing that absolutely drives my every day life. I'd be completely lost without it. Some of my favourites include Patti Smith, Broken Social Scene, Lucius, The Smiths, The Arcade Fire, Ohbijou, Portishead, Muse, Radiohead, Death Cab, Tool, Iggy Pop, The Stooges, Yo La Tengo, Crystal Castles, Peaches, Sonic Youth, Cocteau Twins. Massive Attack's 100th Window and Groove Aramada's Black Light are perfection. I like dancing to some pop too like Robyn, Tegan and Sara, Mumford and Sons, Kleerup, Uh Huh her, M83. Big band music on vinyl; instant cheer me up music. You should also know that I am obsessed with the Girl With The Dragon Tattoo soundtrack.

Avid listener of Radiolab, This American Life, Ideas, and Q with Jian Ghomeshi.

I have a very serious love affair with Indian food.
The six things I could never do without
This is an ever-changing list. But besides things like shelter and my kitty. There isn't anything I could NEVER do without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I am incredibly indecisive. So, I spend a lot of time trying to come to terms with anything.
On a typical Friday night I am
No typical. Last couple of Fridays have been spent seeing some of my favourite bands, like Against Me and Lucius.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 20–30
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you want to accompany me on a movie date. You want to cuddle while listening to Ohbijou.
Or just message me. I like meeting new people and I think you'll find me pretty rad if you got through that whole profile summary without hitting the back button. Also, I rarely make first contact.