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53 M Jakarta, Indonesia

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 33–99
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jun 16
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Dropped out of masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Portuguese (Okay), Indonesian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Let's see, so where was I?...

okay... I might not be such a good looking guy, but I still pass for a * VERY * handsome dog.

I have lust for life... experimenting like a mad scientist: kitchen; conversation; bedroom; business; travel; etc.

I'm test-proven as "commitment courageous" under all stress conditions of a 14-yr prior marriage relationship. (It's been a decade since.) I'm emotionally / romantically available and ready/willing to engage in a mutually supportive friendship or intimate relationship or hell, Sushi.

I am seeking "connection" with an intimate partner. If more than just a little romantic connection develops, let's deal with it then; lower-intensity lower-expectation friendship to start with and if we're lucky---and attraction happens and stays---then at whatever rate we and the Universe mutually determine - we build something invincible together. (?)

I'm averse to the ordinary; (I'm an outlier and failure as far as marketing targets go.) In spiritual "reboot" and recently purged "the stuff"; I'm officially a highly-unencumbered free spirit.

I like tea, coffee, soda water with bitters & slice of lime, a dry red wine and egg nog - though not all simultaneously.

I should add: while I'm passionate and intense about most everything I do, my sense is that relationship drama belongs on television... not in real life. I'm an advocate of John Gottman's models for coping with life's conflicts and happy to use anything on your tool belt similarly "evolved."

I do my share of regular weekly give-back in volunteer community work rather than watch television. Accordingly I am, apparently, a freak---nonetheless I still pass for a very handsome dog.

Finally, I still have a clove of garlic but still nothing to do with it. Suggestions?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Leaning into my fears, seeking my deepest truths, and offering my gifts to those close to me and to the world.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being very present when in person. I'm not as good at being present when not---but I'm working on it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
....whatever I am doing. I am passionate focused---sometimes maybe too hard?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... not needing to do something "Friday Night" merely because it's Friday night. Or, for me, there is no typical Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hey, on this site elsewhere there's about 150 publicly-answered questions. Not enough?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Please have learned to like yourself & your life for the most part; be detectably inward-secure.

Please be mostly sane, partially observant and grown-up. Be willing to embrace responsibility for articulating your needs in a positive and specific way.

Have some existing capacity to relax in trust and flow feminine energy, light, life and love sometimes in all directions... when you're not paying attention.

Better still: be all the above and multi-dimensional with penchant for the absurd or have some outrageous specific bent yourself.

Be affably witty and irreverent; cynically funny enough to either challenge me with your communicative mind or participate in entertaining us. Ah, this IS a wish list after all... right? Instead I'll make that... a communicative "sexy" mind (and be appreciative of over abundant parenthetical quips.)

Importantly, be pro-active in your own personal evolution: ten bonus points for identifying which of your "projects" needs most work and triple those points for each work-path you could articulate with any clarity.

But wait! There's still ten more bonus points available for being geographically convenient! And double those points if you've also never asked for a glass of milk at a Chinese restaurant.

Please have clear boundaries and stabilized relationships with past partners in your life. If that's not your case and you're all over the map, interim make-up points are available for having a good sense of dance rhythm and extraordinary cooking talent. Make-up points here are perishable: factor us as "just friends" in the long-run scenario.

I have been active social justice political advocacy in Seattle. Though my ideal first time getting together (I prefer meeting casually vs. a stressful date), does not include protesting and civil disobedience, please lean left... while I can enjoy lively discussions and difference of opinion I'm intolerant...of intolerance (?)

So yeah, I'm not particular---even vegetarian friendly.

You should message me if you recognize the influence of your own intent in your life. If you don't say hi, that's unfortunate and I wish you the best and only happiest adventures in your search!