Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Look, bottom line is... I might not be such a good looking guy, but
I still pass for a *VERY* handsome dog.
Other things going for me: I've lust for living a fiercer life...
experimenting like a mad scientist at all hours: kitchen;
conversation; bedroom; business; travel; etc. Maybe I've lived
two-to-four lifetimes by now?
I'm test-proven as "commitment courageous" under all stress
conditions of a 14-yr prior marriage relationship. (It's been a
decade since.) I'm emotionally / romantically available and
ready/willing to engage in a mutually supportive friendship or
intimate relationship or hell, just sushi.
I am seeking "connection" in an intimate partner. If more than
connection develops we deal with that then?; lower-intensity
lower-expectation to start. We build together on that - maybe
something invincible. (?)
I'm averse to the ordinary; I'm an outlier and failure as far as
marketing targets go. I'm not a junk collector and spiritually
"reboot" and purge "the stuff"; I'm officially a
highly-unencumbered free spirit. I mostly reject material
consumerism; I instead experience stuff like travel, living
overseas, community building / organizing.
I like tea, coffee, soda water with bitters & slice of lime, a
dry red wine and egg nog - though not all simultaneously.
I should add: while I'm passionate and intense about most
everything I do, my sense is that relationship drama belongs on
television... not in real life. I don't own a television. I'm an
advocate of John Gottman's models for coping with life's conflicts
and happy to use anything on your tool belt that is similarly
I do my share of regular weekly give-back in volunteer and
community work rather than watch television. Studies say the
average American watches 34.4 hours of TV each week. (?) Gads.
Accordingly, I am seemingly, a freak---nonetheless, I still pass
for a very handsome dog.
Finally, I have a clove of garlic - but nothing to do with it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Leaning into my fears, seeking my deepest truths, and offering my
gifts to those close to me and to the world. I just returned to the
States - from living in Indonesia for over a year.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being very present when in person. I'm not as good at being present
when not---but I'm working on it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
....whatever I am doing. I am passionate focused---sometimes maybe
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... not needing to do something "Friday Night" merely because it's
Friday night. Or, answered differently, a 'typical' Friday night
does not exist?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hey, on this site elsewhere --- I have about 150 publicly-answered
questions. Not enough? Meet me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Please have learned to like yourself & your life for the most
part; be detectably inward-secure.
Please be mostly sane, partially observant and grown-up. Be willing
to embrace responsibility for articulating your needs in a positive
and specific way.
Have some capacity to relax in trust and flow feminine energy,
light, life and love sometimes in all directions... even better if
this happens when you're not paying attention.
Best case: be all the above and multidimensional with penchant for
the absurd ~or not~ and if not, just have some outrageous specific
bent yourself. I want to marvel at you.
Be affably witty and irreverent; cynically funny enough to either
challenge me with your communicative mind or participate in
entertaining us ~or~ just laugh at me as I entertain us. Ah, this
IS a wish list after all... right? Instead make that... a
communicative "sexy" mind.
(Oh, and be appreciative of over-abundant parenthetical
Importantly, be pro-active in your own personal evolution: ten
bonus points for identifying which of your "projects" needs most
work and triple the points for any work-path you can articulate
with clarity of intent.
But wait! Ten more bonus points available for being geographically
convenient! And double points if you've also never asked for a
glass of milk at a Chinese restaurant. Ten make-up points are
available between January and July for good sense of dance rhythm
or extraordinary cooking talent on a first come-first served
I am often active in social justice advocacy. Though my ideal first
time getting together would NOT include protesting or civil
disobedience, please lean left... while I can enjoy lively
discussions and difference of opinion I'm mostly intolerant...of
So yeah, I'm not particular---even vegetarian friendly.
If you don't say hi, it's unfortunate and I wish you the best and
only happiest adventures in your search!
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