Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


32 M Chapel Hill, NC

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:43pm
Asian, White, Other
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Working on university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Has a kid
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

Similar Users

My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
The people that I admire most, and seem to be most drawn to, I would describe as some combination of: sensitive, smart, fun, silly, quiet, weird, bookish, creative, empathetic, curious, passionate, outdoorsy, perceptive, warm, affectionate, independent, feministic, and more! Many of the friends that I've made in the last several months are cat people.

I'm often interested in people who are intuitive and sensitive. It's often been my experience that these are people who I can appreciate in ways that I can't always appreciate other people. It's not a rule that the people that I date must be very intuitive and very sensitive, though.

I'd love to make new friends. My partner, , and I are in a polyamorous relationship, but it's very new to us, so we might not, for the time being, be totally sure about things like protocol.

I'm interested in politics, philosophy, psychology, love, Buddhism, nonviolent communication, travel, new experiences, silliness, ideas, acceptance, feminism.

ENFP and 2w3, yo.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Experiencing all that I can, trying to figure out how I can best help people, both individually, and on a more global basis. Also, trying to have as much fun as possible, all the while, and trying to live as content, fulfilling, and enriched a life as I possibly can.

Also, I write:, I make music: (mostly, this is just instrumental stuff I've made; but there exist things with vocals, too), I sing in a fantastic band, and I've written reviews of poetry for a website:

I'm currently pursuing a bachelor's degree in economics, and I'll be pursuing a Ph.D. in public policy after that.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
several things. If we like each other, I'm sure that we'll figure out why. I think that I'm pretty good at a few things that are important to me, but maybe some people wouldn't prioritize those things in the same way that I do, and life seems very much like a choose-your-own adventure book; you really do get to decide what you do, and how you feel about things. I'm okay with all of that, and I'm not interested in creating distortion.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I dress in old man shirts, and I wear nerdy glasses.

Personality-wise, I can be silly, but I can also be serious, especially when it comes to profundities. I've found that I can be a likable person, as far as a lot of people are concerned, assuming that he/she sits across from me, and that we have a conversation. I'm genuine, and earnestly interested in what makes one person different from every other person. I'm not a judgmental person, and maybe that helps people feel that they can open up to me. I like if some people feel this way about their interactions with me.

Also, I, perhaps, overuse commas.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Five of each (not necessarily my favorites; just what quickly came to mind):

Siddhartha, Lolita, The Pearl, A Catcher in the Rye, 1984.
Flirting, La Dolce Vita, The Holy Mountain, The Seven Samurai, It's a Wonderful Life.
Breaking Bad, Boardwalk Empire, Californication, House, Mad Men.
J Dilla, Stevie Wonder, Radiohead, James Taylor, The Police.
Arabic, Mexican, Korean, Italian, Japanese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This is the worst section in the profile, and I feel like any profile can be significantly better if this section isn't properly filled out. I read some profiles, and I think to myself, "this is a great profile!" and then, I get to the "six things" section, and I'm like, "ugh, this is boring/stupid/blehhhhhhh, and this person is the worst person in the world; I would never date them because this section of their profile makes me so goddamn angry." So I feel that I gain an advantage by not filling out this shitty part of the profile. Why do they persist in keeping this section in the profile? Does anyone even like this section? It's weird that they still want us to do this!

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Minds, whatever emotions might be in the room, how I'm so looking forward to getting back to school, my daughter and how cute and sweet she is (but to be clear, it's likely that you'll never meet her; I'm very picky about who meets her; I wouldn't want my miscreant friends corrupting the lovely little lady), what the pertinent thing is in this very moment, how to solve poverty, bills.

Also, things like, "I think that 'vegetables' should really be spelled and pronounced, 'vegedibles,'" and, "hmm... 'snot rocket' rhymes with 'hot pocket.'" (Yay rap skills)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
writing, reading, drinking, dancing, sexing, sleeping, tv-ing, movie-ing, music-ing, creating, destroying, meandering, marauding, pooping, eating, paying bills, and/or, maybe, some other thing(s).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You might've seen me in the streets, but homie, you don't know me.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Just do it; maybe it'll be great. If not, just blame me, ya jerkass.

Addendum: I'm starting to get into Myers-Briggs and Enneagram, as my profile, toward the beginning, alludes to. If you're into these, I'd like to hear from you.