controversyatx
34 Chapel Hill, NC
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My self-summary
I'm a silly, curious, confident, weird, passionate, feministic, Buddhistic, thoughtful, empathetic, non-judgmental, slightly-extroverted person with a wealth of interests.

Social justice is important to me, and I'm interested in finding ways to make the world better for the most vulnerable among us. I'm also interested in creative things and new experiences. I'm interested in how people's minds work, what the best ways of interacting are, and the most-effective ways of pursuing productive, happy lives. I sometimes meditate, and I'm interested in soaking up Eastern and Western philosophical thought. I like to read. I like to play outside.

At times, I have a snarky sense of humor and/or feign outrage. People love it!

ENFP and 2w3 SO/SX, yo.

"Then she sat as if paralysed, thinking. She had never in her life felt such a longing. She wanted Mikael Blomkvist to ring the doorbell and ... what then? Lift her off the ground, hold her in his arms? Passionately take her into the bedroom and tear off her clothes? No, she really just wanted his company. She wanted to hear him say that he liked her for who she was. That she was someone special in his world and in his life. She wanted him to give her some gesture of love, not just of friendship and companionship. I'm flipping out, she thought." - from Stieg Larsson's "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo"

Look — it's not that I think that Larsson's a poet or something, but this is a conception of love that I can get behind; it's not far from how I might think of it, and I just happened to have been reading it at the time that I wrote this profile. I feel you jackasses judging me, okay? I'm very intuitive.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm finishing up my undergrad at UNC before going on to a life of academic work. I'm currently pursuing a bachelor's degree in economics, and after that, I'll be pursuing a Ph.D. in either economics or public policy.

Also, I write, and I make music (mostly, this is just instrumental stuff I've made; but there exist things with [mine and/or others'] vocals, too).

Addendum: I'm working on a novel.
I’m really good at
empathizing, reasoning, making people feel good, writing, math, singing, dancing, listening, understanding ideas and feelings, asking questions, making people feel comfortable, making people feel uncomfortable.
The first things people usually notice about me
I dress in old man shirts, and I wear nerdy glasses.

I get along well with others. I'm not a judgmental person, and maybe that helps people feel that they can open up to me. I like when people feel this way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Five of each (not necessarily my favorites; just what quickly came to mind):

Fiction: Siddhartha, Lolita, The Pearl, A Catcher in the Rye, 1984.

Non-fiction: The Status Syndrome; Twilight of the Elites; Independence, Propertylessness, and Basic Income; Development as Freedom; Freakonomics.

Also, I'm into poetry, but listing poetry books seems unnecessary. Just know that I like poetry (I even write some).

Film: Flirting, La Dolce Vita, The Holy Mountain, The Seven Samurai, It's a Wonderful Life.

TV Shows: House of Cards, Parenthood, Mad Men, Real Time with Bill Maher, Eastbound and Down.

Music: James Blake, Stevie Wonder, Radiohead, James Taylor, Mac DeMarco.

Food: Arabic, Mexican, Korean, Italian, Japanese.
The six things I could never do without
This is the worst section in the profile, and I feel like any profile can be significantly better if this section isn't properly filled out. I read some profiles, and I think to myself, "this is a great profile!" and then, I get to the "six things" section, and I'm like, "ugh, this is boring/stupid/blehhhhhhh, and this person is the worst person in the world; I would never date them because this section of their profile makes me so goddamn angry." So I feel that I gain an advantage by not filling out this shitty part of the profile. Why do they insist on keeping this section in the profile? Does anyone even like this section? It's weird that they still want us to do this!

lolsorrybutnotreallysorry
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Minds, emotions in the room, my daughter and how cute and sweet she is (but to be clear, it's likely that you'll never meet her; I'm very picky about who meets her; I wouldn't want my miscreant friends corrupting the lovely little lady), what the pertinent thing is in the moment, how to solve poverty, bills.

Also, things like, "I think that 'vegetables' should really be spelled and pronounced, 'vegedibles,'" and, "'snot rocket' rhymes with 'hot pocket.'"
On a typical Friday night I am
writing, reading, drinking, dancing, sexing, sleeping, TV-ing, movie-ing, music-ing, creating, destroying, meandering, marauding, pooping, eating, paying bills, and/or other thing(s).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm unenthusiastic about ever having emotionless sex; I'd rather avoid it, really.
You should message me if
you think that there's a pretty good chance that it might be fucking awesome if we meet.

Addendum (this is the second time in my profile that I include a subsection called "addendum," for those keeping score at home): I'm starting to get into Myers-Briggs and Enneagram, as my profile, toward the beginning, alludes to. If you're into these, I'd like to hear from you.
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