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33 Durham, NC Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:37pm
Sapiosexual, Straight
Asian, White, Other
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Working on university
Less than $20,000
Strictly non-monogamous
Has a kid, and might want more
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a weird, liberal, passionate, feministic, Buddhistic, silly, curious, serious, kind, confident, thoughtful, empathetic, non-judgmental, smart, slightly extroverted person, with a wealth of interests.

I'm passionate about social justice and finding ways to make the world better for everyone, especially the most vulnerable among us. I'm also interested in (making and/or observing) creative things and in new experiences. I'm interested in how people's minds work, what the best ways of interacting are, and how we can most-effectively go about pursuing productive, happy lives. I try to meditate often, and I'm interested in soaking up as much Eastern and Western philosophical thought as I can. I like to read. I like to play outside.

Also, I have an asshole sense of humor, at times, and that occasionally gets confused, but almost exclusively on the internet.

ENFP and 2w3, yo.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
After an eleven-year hiatus, I got back into undergrad in the fall. I really like school, and I've been doing really well at it. I'd go to school for the rest of my life if someone would pay for it. Soon, I'll be transferring to a four-year school (I've been attending DTCC this year), and I have no idea where I'll end up (Stanford, please). I'm currently pursuing a bachelor's degree in economics, and I'll be pursuing a Ph.D. in either economics or public policy after that.

Also, I write:, and I make music: (mostly, this is just instrumental stuff I've made; but there exist things with [mine and/or others'] vocals, too).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
empathizing, reasoning, making people feel good, writing, math, singing, dancing, listening, understanding ideas and feelings, asking questions, making people feel comfortable, and making people feel uncomfortable, too!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I dress in old man shirts, and I wear nerdy glasses. I'm quite smart and quite handsome.

I get along well with others. I'm not a judgmental person, and maybe that helps people feel that they can open up to me. I like when people feel this way about their interactions with me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Five of each (not necessarily my favorites; just what quickly came to mind):

Fiction: Siddhartha, Lolita, The Pearl, A Catcher in the Rye, 1984.

Non-fiction: The Status Syndrome; Twilight of the Elites; Independence, Propertylessness, and Basic Income; Development as Freedom; Freakonomics.

Also, I'm into poetry, but listing poetry books seems unnecessary. Just know that I like poetry (I write some, actually!).

Film: Flirting, La Dolce Vita, The Holy Mountain, The Seven Samurai, It's a Wonderful Life.

TV Shows: House of Cards, Aqua Teen Hungerforce, Mad Men, Real Time with Bill Maher, Eastbound and Down

Music: J Dilla, Stevie Wonder, Radiohead, James Taylor, The Police.

Food: Arabic, Mexican, Korean, Italian, Japanese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This is the worst section in the profile, and I feel like any profile can be significantly better if this section isn't properly filled out. I read some profiles, and I think to myself, "this is a great profile!" and then, I get to the "six things" section, and I'm like, "ugh, this is boring/stupid/blehhhhhhh, and this person is the worst person in the world; I would never date them because this section of their profile makes me so goddamn angry." So I feel that I gain an advantage by not filling out this shitty part of the profile. Why do they insist on keeping this section in the profile? Does anyone even like this section? It's weird that they still want us to do this!

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Minds, whatever emotions might be in the room, my daughter and how cute and sweet she is (but to be clear, it's likely that you'll never meet her; I'm very picky about who meets her; I wouldn't want my miscreant friends corrupting the lovely little lady), what the pertinent thing is in this very moment, how to solve poverty, bills.

Also, things like, "I think that 'vegetables' should really be spelled and pronounced, 'vegedibles,'" and, "hmm... 'snot rocket' rhymes with 'hot pocket.'" (Yay rap skills)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
writing, reading, drinking, dancing, sexing, sleeping, TV-ing, movie-ing, music-ing, creating, destroying, meandering, marauding, pooping, eating, paying bills, and/or maybe some other thing(s).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You might've seen me in the streets, but homie, you don't know me.
You should message me if
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you think that there's a pretty good chance that it might be fucking awesome if we meet. Also, if you're okay with the fact that I'm not eager to get into a monogamous relationship.

If the idea of super-long talks, exploring new things, and profound makeout sessions appeals to you, I might be your guy! That said, I'm all about starting up friendships with people where we do absolutely no boning.

Addendum: I'm starting to get into Myers-Briggs and Enneagram, as my profile, toward the beginning, alludes to. If you're into these, I'd like to hear from you.