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33 Chapel Hill, NC Man, Cis Man

Man, Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27-42
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:25pm
Sapiosexual, Straight, Demisexual
Asian, White, Other
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Average build
Working on University
Has kid(s) and might want more
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a weird, passionate, feministic, Buddhistic, silly, curious, confident, thoughtful, empathetic, non-judgmental, slightly-extroverted person, with a wealth of interests.

Social justice is important to me, and I'm interested in finding ways to make the world better for the most vulnerable among us. I'm also interested in creative things and new experiences. I'm interested in how people's minds work, what the best ways of interacting are, and the most-effective ways of pursuing productive, happy lives. I sometimes meditate, and I'm interested in soaking up Eastern and Western philosophical thought. I like to read. I like to play outside.

At times, I have a snarky sense of humor and/or feign outrage. People love it!

ENFP and 2w3 SO/SX, yo.

"Then she sat as if paralysed, thinking. She had never in her life felt such a longing. She wanted Mikael Blomkvist to ring the doorbell and ... what then? Lift her off the ground, hold her in his arms? Passionately take her into the bedroom and tear off her clothes? No, she really just wanted his company. She wanted to hear him say that he liked her for who she was. That she was someone special in his world and in his life. She wanted him to give her some gesture of love, not just of friendship and companionship. I'm flipping out, she thought." - from Stieg Larsson's "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo"
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm finishing up my undergrad at UNC before going on to a life of academic work. I'm currently pursuing a bachelor's degree in economics, and after that, I'll be pursuing a Ph.D. in either economics or public policy.

Also, I write, and I make music (mostly, this is just instrumental stuff I've made; but there exist things with [mine and/or others'] vocals, too).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
empathizing, reasoning, making people feel good, writing, math, singing, dancing, listening, understanding ideas and feelings, asking questions, making people feel comfortable, and making people feel uncomfortable, too!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I dress in old man shirts, and I wear nerdy glasses.

I get along well with others. I'm not a judgmental person, and maybe that helps people feel that they can open up to me. I like when people feel this way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Five of each (not necessarily my favorites; just what quickly came to mind):

Fiction: Siddhartha, Lolita, The Pearl, A Catcher in the Rye, 1984.

Non-fiction: The Status Syndrome; Twilight of the Elites; Independence, Propertylessness, and Basic Income; Development as Freedom; Freakonomics.

Also, I'm into poetry, but listing poetry books seems unnecessary. Just know that I like poetry (I write some, actually!).

Film: Flirting, La Dolce Vita, The Holy Mountain, The Seven Samurai, It's a Wonderful Life.

TV Shows: House of Cards, Parenthood, Mad Men, Real Time with Bill Maher, Eastbound and Down

Music: J Dilla, Stevie Wonder, Radiohead, James Taylor, The Police.

Food: Arabic, Mexican, Korean, Italian, Japanese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This is the worst section in the profile, and I feel like any profile can be significantly better if this section isn't properly filled out. I read some profiles, and I think to myself, "this is a great profile!" and then, I get to the "six things" section, and I'm like, "ugh, this is boring/stupid/blehhhhhhh, and this person is the worst person in the world; I would never date them because this section of their profile makes me so goddamn angry." So I feel that I gain an advantage by not filling out this shitty part of the profile. Why do they insist on keeping this section in the profile? Does anyone even like this section? It's weird that they still want us to do this!

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Minds, emotions in the room, my daughter and how cute and sweet she is (but to be clear, it's likely that you'll never meet her; I'm very picky about who meets her; I wouldn't want my miscreant friends corrupting the lovely little lady), what the pertinent thing is in the moment, how to solve poverty, bills.

Also, things like, "I think that 'vegetables' should really be spelled and pronounced, 'vegedibles,'" and, "hmm... 'snot rocket' rhymes with 'hot pocket.'" (Yay rap skills)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
writing, reading, drinking, dancing, sexing, sleeping, TV-ing, movie-ing, music-ing, creating, destroying, meandering, marauding, pooping, eating, paying bills, and/or maybe some other thing(s).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm really unenthusiastic about ever having emotionless sex; I'd rather avoid it, really.
You should message me if
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you think that there's a pretty good chance that it might be fucking awesome if we meet.

Addendum: I'm starting to get into Myers-Briggs and Enneagram, as my profile, toward the beginning, alludes to. If you're into these, I'd like to hear from you.