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32 Durham, NC Man


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  • Ages 23–39
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  • For new friends, short-term dating

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Last Online
Yesterday – 4:07pm
Asian, White, Other
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm a weird, liberal, silly, serious, loving, kind, curious, thoughtful, confident, empathetic, non-judgmental, slightly extroverted person, with a wealth of interests.

I'm passionate about social justice and finding ways to make the world better for everyone. I'm passionate about removing institutional oppression and more-localized oppression. I think that there's a tendency in modern cultures for people to engage in self-destructive behaviors, and while I think that we all engage in these things, I think that bringing awareness to these things, and coming up with alternatives, is valuable. I'm also very interested in (making and/or observing) creative things and in new experiences. I'm interested in how people's minds work, what the best ways of interacting are, and how we can most-effectively go about pursuing productive, happy lives. I try to meditate often, and I'm interested in soaking up as much Eastern and Western philosophical thought as I can. I like to read. I like to play outside. I like to abruptly end paragraphs.

I hate hurting people, but sometimes, it seems regrettably necessary to sometimes cause a little bit of pain, in the near term, in order to avoid dealing a lot of pain later. Also, I have an asshole sense of humor, at times, and that occasionally gets confused, but almost exclusively on the internet.

ENFP and 2w3, yo.
What I’m doing with my life
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After an eleven-year hiatus, I'm back in school. I'm taking 21 hours, and HOLY SHIT IT'S ALMOST OVER. I really like school, and I'm really glad to be back. I've been doing really well in school, so I'm glad for that. I'd go to school for the rest of my life if someone would pay for it. It's hard to overstate the positive feelings that I have around the fact that I've managed to scrape myself from the turf, and get back to school, and that I'm doing so well in it. I'm currently pursuing a bachelor's degree in Economics, and I'll be pursuing a Ph.D. in Public Policy after that.

Also, I write:, and I make music: (mostly, this is just instrumental stuff I've made; but there exist things with (mine and/or others') vocals, too).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
empathizing, reasoning, making people feel good, writing, math, singing, dancing, listening, understanding ideas and feelings, asking questions, making people feel comfortable, and making people feel uncomfortable, too!
The first things people usually notice about me
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I dress in old man shirts, and I wear nerdy glasses.

Personality-wise, I'm often silly, but at other times, I'm plenty serious. I get along well with others. I'm genuine, and earnestly interested in what makes one person different from every other person. I'm not a judgmental person, and maybe that helps people feel that they can open up to me. I like when people feel this way about their interactions with me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Five of each (not necessarily my favorites; just what quickly came to mind):

Fiction: Siddhartha, Lolita, The Pearl, A Catcher in the Rye, 1984.

Non-fiction: The Status Syndrome; Twilight of the Elites; Independence, Propertylessness, and Basic Income; Development as Freedom; Freakonomics.

Also, I'm into poetry, but listing poetry books seems unnecessary. Just know that I like poetry (I write some, actually!).

Film: Flirting, La Dolce Vita, The Holy Mountain, The Seven Samurai, It's a Wonderful Life.

Television: Breaking Bad, House of Cards, Californication, House, Mad Men.

Music: J Dilla, Stevie Wonder, Radiohead, James Taylor, The Police.

Food: Arabic, Mexican, Korean, Italian, Japanese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This is the worst section in the profile, and I feel like any profile can be significantly better if this section isn't properly filled out. I read some profiles, and I think to myself, "this is a great profile!" and then, I get to the "six things" section, and I'm like, "ugh, this is boring/stupid/blehhhhhhh, and this person is the worst person in the world; I would never date them because this section of their profile makes me so goddamn angry." So I feel that I gain an advantage by not filling out this shitty part of the profile. Why do they insist on keeping this section in the profile? Does anyone even like this section? It's weird that they still want us to do this!

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Minds, whatever emotions might be in the room, how glad I am to be back in school, how stressful school is if you take too many hours, my daughter and how cute and sweet she is (but to be clear, it's likely that you'll never meet her - I'm very picky about who meets her - I wouldn't want my miscreant friends corrupting the lovely little lady), what the pertinent thing is in this very moment, how to solve poverty, bills.

Also, things like, "I think that 'vegetables' should really be spelled and pronounced, 'vegedibles,'" and, "hmm... 'snot rocket' rhymes with 'hot pocket.'" (Yay rap skills)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
writing, reading, drinking, dancing, sexing, sleeping, tv-ing, movie-ing, music-ing, creating, destroying, meandering, marauding, pooping, eating, paying bills, and/or, maybe some other thing(s).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You might've seen me in the streets, but homie, you don't know me.
You should message me if
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you're okay with the fact that I'm not eager to get into a monogamous relationship. I'm a very affectionate person, and relationships that are based on profound understandings of one another are very meaningful to me. I don't like most people, but I try to love everyone. That said, when I do like someone, it's very important to me, and I become inclined to explore the potential depths of those relationships.

I was recently in a serious, live-in, non-monogamous relationship (see? even my serious relationships aren't monogamous, lately). I never really fall out of love with anyone that I fall in love with. That said, I'm emotionally available.

If you think that I might be a cool guy, but you're also *really* hoping to get into a serious, monogamous relationship, I'm almost-definitely not your guy, and I hope that you wouldn't waste your time. That said, I'm all about starting up friendships with people where we do absolutely no boning.

Addendum: I'm starting to get into Myers-Briggs and Enneagram, as my profile, toward the beginning, alludes to. If you're into these, I'd like to hear from you.

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