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34 Portland, OR Non-binary, Gender Nonconforming, Genderqueer, Genderfluid

Non-binary, Gender Nonconforming, Genderqueer, Genderfluid

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–99
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Mar 12
Pansexual, Sapiosexual, Heteroflexible
Native American, White
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Less than $20,000
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
WARNING: This profile, and my questions, are MANY years out of date, and really not representative any more.
I just don't have time to redo them lately.
I sometimes have entire conversations with certain friends consisting entirely of Meows.

I was always the Weird Kid, the Quiet Kid, and the Smart Kid. Surprisingly, growing up and trudging through public school didn't grind those traits out of me.

I'm a theology geek.
You don't have to have this in common with me for us to get along, though.
I had a long ramble here about religions and spirituality, but realized it was better suited for a blog post so the short-attention-spanned can read (or not) at their leisure.

I'm Sapiosexual.
I'm also Polyamorous, but in an interesting situation of attempting a Monogamous relationship.

I have a great many hobbies that fall under the general category of Geekery, but I choose not to identify myself by those hobbies. Or I suppose you could say, I'm a Geek but I'm not *JUST* a Geek.
I kill some free time playing World of Warcraft.
I've been known to play tabletop RPGs, D&D, White Wolf's World of Darkness (both incarnations), etc.
I'm an active paid member of the Camarilla.
I enjoy a small handful of Anime series and movies.
I've attended Cons.
I participate in the SCA.
I have sizable collections of action figures, comic books and Magic cards.
I am highly unlikely to bring up the subject on any of these unless actually participating in them at the time, so I'm rather a geek-in-disguise in my daily life.

I'm currently in a massive phase of reassessment and revision of myself down to the core.
Thus, this profile also needs a serious revision.
However I've been lacking the patience and time to go over it all.

I'm doing a section at a time now. This profile is definitely a work in progress. As are we all, ultimately.

"...everything you learn is already part of you, even to the Godhead Itself. Study nothing except in the knowledge that you already knew it. Worship nothing except in adoration of your true self. And fear nothing except in the certainty that you are your enemy's begetter and its only hope of healing. For everything that does evil is in pain."
-Clive Barker, through one of his characters, in 'Imajica'

I am Introspective, Empathetic, and Passionate
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I just recently returned to higher education. My main fascination lately has been with the weird little niche field of Cognitive Ethnomusicology, a three-way overlap of Music Theory, Anthropology and Psychology.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading, spelling and grammar. They're second nature to me.

Recognizing faces.


Understanding others' perspectives.

Giving backrubs.

Crosswords, Sudoku and logic puzzles.

I've also been told I give really good hugs.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Often the first thing people notice about me is that they've just trod upon me. I have an amazing way of being unnoticed without trying.

They used to notice my hair. But it's far shorter now and thus no longer so noteworthy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
* The Iron Dragon's Daughter by Michael Swanwick. Gritty steampunk fantasy. child slavery, sex magick, love, death, drugs, violence and college. And so much more, but I can't give away the ending.
* Most anything by Neil Gaiman. He's had horrible luck with film/TV adaptations though.
* The Black Jewels Trilogy by Anne Bishop. Very atypical fantasy setting. Strong female characters drive both the 'good guys' and the 'bad guys', no knights in shining anything, one dragon and it doesn't fight anyone or have a hoard of gold. Plus three unique, intense and fascinating mentally scarred male anti-hero types that would put a Wolverine or Punisher to shame.
* Philip Pullman's "His Dark Materials" trilogy. 'Young adult' steampunk with philosophy, theology and quantum physics = <3
* Only Begotten Daughter by James Morrow. The Second Coming is a female, and Christians kill Her. Then things get interesting.

* Douglas Adams. From the Hitchhiker's series to Dirk Gently. Wonderful sense of humor, 'random nonsense' that turns up at the other end of the book, or in another book entirely, to actually make perfect sense and explain EVERYTHING. Holistic Detective Agency. Impossible Couch. 'Nuff said.
* VALIS by Philip K. Dick. How much of this is directly autobiographical and how much was embellished to make for better Fiction reading, I don't know. But if even a small chunk of it is accurate, it's an intense experience. And the book will twist your brain in to funny shapes.
* Dune by Frank Herbert.
* Heinlein's Stranger in a Strange Land.
* Childhood's End by Arthur C. Clarke.

Other-ish fiction:
The Magus by John Fowles. The literary equivalent of Schroedinger's cat or a Rorschach test. I'm still not sure precisely what the meat of the plot is about, and I think I prefer it that way. Don't read it if you don't want to think.
* Daniel Quinn's Ishmael. Using fiction to deliver a real-world message.
* 'Lamb: The Gospel According to Biff, Christ's Childhood Pal' by Christopher Moore
* I don't read much realistic fiction, so this one won't reach 5.

* Prometheus Rising by Robert Anton Wilson. His works tend to repeat each other often, but this one says the most in the best way in my opinion.
* Freedom is a Two-Edged Sword by John W. 'Jack' Parsons. Not only was he a brilliant mind in the field of rocketry, but this provides a great glimpse in to the thoughts of such a dynamic personality beyond that field as well.
* Holographic Universe by Michael Talbot.
* Quantum Self by Danah Zohar. (This has a particular sort of synergy when read immediately after or before the previous book.)
* The Chalice and the Blade: Our History, Our Future by Riane Eisler
* Immanuel Velikovsky.
* Godel, Escher, Bach by Douglas R. Hofstadter
* The Passover Plot by Dr. Hugh J. Schonfield
* Undoing Yourself with Energized Meditation and Other Devices by Christopher S. Hyatt, Ph.D.
* From the Ashes of Angels by Andrew Collins.

* Principia Discordia & Apocrypha Discordia
* The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran. Not so much a story as a series of inspirational quotes strung together loosely by a narrative. Beautiful ideas though.
Thus Spoke Zarathustra by Friedrich Nietzsche. I don't understand why people see his ideas as so gloomy and negative and destructive. I didn't get that at all from it.
Various & sundry religious or spiritual scriptures and treatises. The rarer or more unusual the better.

Movies: Too many to name thoroughly, so I'll pick one for each letter of the alphabet.
American Beauty. Now that I've finally seen it, it replaced Amélie as my A.
Boondock Saints
City of Lost Children
Dark City
F - Crap, a tie. Fifth Element or Fight Club.
Godzilla movies (a type, not a title, but still.)
Idle Hands
Jay & Silent Bob Strike Back
Knockaround Guys
Labyrinth, though Ladyhawke came in right on its tail.
Mel Brooks movies.
National Treasure
Office Space
Payback. Ooh, or Paycheck.
Romeo + Juliet
Serenity. Closely followed by Secret of NIMH and Secret of Roan Inish.
Tank Girl
V for Vendetta
What Dreams May Come
Young Frankenstein. And if that doesn't count 'cuz Mel Brooks is already covered, Young Einstein.
...My problem with movies is I have a talent for being more tolerant than most people of bad movies. Some I like BECAUSE they're bad.

This is a difficult one to cover thoroughly enough. I like at least a little bit from every genre. Seriously. Name any genre, and if I've ever heard it I can name at least something I like in it. If I HAVEN'T heard it, I'll thank you for expanding my horizons.
I like atypical time scales, as well as complex & intricate melodies. Especially intricate bass melodies.
particularly great music gives me an immediate physical sensation.
Also, Jonathan Coulton rocks my socks.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I have to assume for the sake of a more interesting question that the basic needs vis-a-vis Maslow are provided for, and this is more a question of what you would completely break down without rather than what you would literally expire directly from the lack of.

1. Giving and receiving physical touch with a human being I trust and am comfortable around. No, I don't mean sex. Despite the reputation of Scorpios, I am not a sex addict. (Far from prudish, and can be 'in the mood' at the drop of a hat, but I digress.) I am a very touch-oriented person, and can go fairly crazy if I go without it for long. My personal boundaries when it comes to touch are unusual. It's all or nothing, depending on which side of that crucial comfort-level boundary you fall. I've upset people by attempting to give them hugs, and those people confuse me.
2. Music. Whether a magical perpetual generator, a stereo and a stack of unscratchable CDs, or simply the materials tools and knowledge to craft my own more 'primitive' instruments.
3. Someone of at least slightly above average intellect to converse with.
4. A private place. Being an introvert, I need peaceful alone-time once in a while to recharge or I go a little crazy.
5. The ability to bathe.
6. Clothing. Even if not necessary for protection from temperature/elements/whatever. While I believe in questioning societal norms, I do not believe in throwing them out just because they ARE the norms. And upon questioning, I determined I rather *like* the ability to be clothed.

Given just those six things, no more and no less, I could be stranded on the proverbial deserted island until a ripe old age and remain fairly content considering the circumstances.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The interplay between the psychological models of Freud, Jung, Reich and Leary.
How much of human behavior is autopilot or conditioned thinking.
Advanced physics theories.
Who and what I am.
How to put half the things spinning through my brain in to words.
How in addition to being a rollicking-good Comic Book Film, if you tilt your synapses sideways and squint it also makes an interesting dissertation on what happens when an individual embarks on a mission to *violently* destroy a community's tunnel realities and conditioned behavior.
Recursion, paradoxes, and fractals.
Whether there may be some as yet undiscovered scientific principle behind Acupuncture.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...probably at work, unfortunately.
When I'm not, I'm usually reading something or researching something online or, rarely, hanging out with co-workers or friends doing a whole lot of nothing in particular.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I harbor a secret love for all the most horribly offensive (but non-scatological) jokes known to man (IE racist, sexist, anything-else-ist, morbid humor, dead baby jokes, etc.) despite being about as far from the sentiments involved as possible.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
"the only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue center light pop and everybody goes 'aww'."
-Jack Kerouac're in the Portland area and want someone to share activities ranging from intense intellectual conversations to laughing like maniacs at a good Comedy to just hanging out and relaxing somewhere.


...there's something about my personality or interests you harmonize with, and you don't mind an internet pen pal who can be slow to respond sometimes because he's mulling over his reply for an eternity.


...You want to ask me a question. ANY question. The deeper, the better. The worst you'll get is a polite "I'd rather not answer that." You'll most likely get an answer though, and particularly good questions may be added to my profile or become blog posts.
Edited to add:
THIS IS NOT, I REPEAT, NOT a test of the amazingness of your deep-and-unique-question-asking skills. Any old question that comes to your mind will do. I'm constantly brimming with curiosity, so I see it as my reciprocal duty to the universe to indulge other peoples' curiosity as much as possible.

It has been brought to my attention that people are sometimes intimidated by thinking they need to come up with something of significant intellectual merit to start a conversation with. No... Seriously, some of my favorite conversations start with the most random silly little shit and spin off in to the cosmos. So really anything more than "Hi!", "How are you?", something that shows you actually read my profile some, is fine.
But... please, spell out your words (not 'ur wrds'), and as proper capitalization and punctuation as you can manage is a big plus too. I'm not going to get down on you for mistakes, but at least *trying* shows you put more than two seconds thought in to banging out a message to me.