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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
May 1
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Graduated from law school
My self-summary
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I am less on the look-out for love, and more on the look-out for new friends and hiking/mountain-biking/rock climbing buddies.


Okay, fine. I'm not opposed to love, dating, or what have you. When it works, it's a beautiful thing. True partnership, also a beautiful thing. Having someone you adore lie on top of you, too, is a beautiful thing. So, I'll amend my earlier declaration. I'm here, after all, so I'd better be willing to give it a whirl.

I am about: cooking, movement, being outdoors, beautiful music, sweet souls, writing, art, goodness, leftist politics, liberation, pedagogies of transformation, decolonizing my own mind.

I am all for embracing love where you find it, although sometimes, in my heart of hearts I think: down with love! Up with people! Instead of worrying about finding a partner, why don't we all start a Yiddish movie society or bake a cake or go for a run instead?

(I realize that if cake baking is what I'm after, I have most likely come to the wrong place, but you know, cake is awesome, and a girl can dream.)

So. Maybe we should go on a date. Or maybe you were bullied by your friends into being here, and dating is not your speed. Maybe you're interested in starting a Yiddish film club, finding a running buddy (mine is an 8 minute mile), or baking that cake I can't stop thinking about. Maybe you find me endlessly entertaining but categorically unloveable, and that's cool, we all have our shortcomings. Friendship is awesome too, so, I'm your guy.

I like hiking in the fall, reading, ice skating, most wine, swimming, books, movies, the city, the country, allegory, the Oxford comma (using it, not using it, whatever), and not being a lawyer--I dodged a major bullet there. If we date, I like kissing. If we don't, I like friend-making. A win-win.

Speaking of the wins: despite suffering from an occasional love allergy, if we hang out, no sparks fly, but you seem amazing, I'll be inclined to set you up with nine of my coolest, most beautiful, charming, wealthy, witty, ebullient, and talented friends. They're all hot.

You have to admit, it's quite a deal I've worked out for all of us, here.
What I’m doing with my life
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At the moment, grad school, teaching, low-level athletics, writing, occasional procrastinating (but I've mostly put that off), writing some more, delighting in everything I can, learning new things, cooking delicious things, singing poorly, loving it and everyone in it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, cutting my own hair, setting people up--for romance, not for failure. I'm a born shadchan. If you need help finding the love of your life, let me help you, I'm your man.
The first things people usually notice about me
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lack of social grace. absence of poker face. propensity to laugh at myself.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: some of us did not die, a moveable feast, fierce attachments, how we survived communism and even laughed, the big sea, the ways of white folks, the fire next time, killing the black body, cathedral, nobody knows my name, white teeth, my antonia, the collected poems of akhmatova, number our days, pathologies of power, this is how you lose her, where the wild things are, every day is for the thief, allah is not obliged, the still point of the turning world, bury my heart at wounded knee, the collected works of james baldwin, vivian gornick, and edwidge danticat.

movies: when we were kings, annie hall, my architect, moscow does not believe in tears, la haine, italian for beginners, when the levees broke, moonstruck, etre et avoir, the fog of war, follow that bird, the prime of miss jean brodie, stories we tell, the princess bride, once, four little girls, salmonboy, beaches.

shows: no tv for this lady. if i'm very sick with the flu or what have you, i'll watch The West Wing via Netflix, but keep no television, and generally stay off the sauce.

music: danielle doyle, manu chao, rem, stevie wonder, neil young, erykah badu, ray lamontagne, nat king cole, bruce springsteen, alabina, smokey robinson, puccini, edith piaf, roxette, eliza gilkyson, nina simone, peggy lee, the cure, emmylou harris, lionel richie, boyz II men, lucinda williams, rod stewart, aimee mann, joy kills sorrow, raffi, jodeci, shotakovich, vonda shepard, the indigo girls, zaz.

food: i like to cook. i like to eat: yogurt, kale, popcorn, broccoli eggplant and pineapple pizza, fresh fruit, veggie chili, breakfast food, roasted vegetables, good bread, cheese, & wine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Life will teach you that you can do with just about anything, but I like mine full of movement, books, laughter, love, sleep, and seltzer water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
learning more Russian, health disparities, Paul Farmer, weight-bearing exercise, how to procrastinate more efficiently, Bette Midler, whether to sit for a bar exam, sleep, good kissing, outdoor exercise, why my best friends live in Seoul and London and not around the block, whether I secretly like The Dirty Truth (I think not), liberatory education, radical politics, feminist pedagogy, writing my thesis.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am not thrilled by the degree of self-promotion that answering this question requires. Suffice it to say: I do things. I believe that time is short and should be used wisely and with a sense of purpose and adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I love life and am generally quite happy in and about it, but this profile probably makes me seem far more whimsical than I actually am.

Also, on last check, I'm not quite 5'8", but actually a solid 5'7" and a half. I'm rounding up. I contain multitudes. I can get away with it, but accuracy in journalism is important, and they tell me that the truth will set you free, so there it is.
You should message me if
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you imagine i might sing your heart awake, your politics aren't reprehensible, you love your life, you're actively engaged in the world and actively working to leave it better than you found it. and finally--forgive the colloquialism--if you think we might want to lie on top of one another. definitely get on that.