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31 F New York, NY

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28–48
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Graduated from law school
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My self-summary
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I am less on the look-out for love, and more on the look-out for new friends and hiking/mountain-biking/rock climbing buddies.


That said, I'm not opposed to love, dating, or what have you. When it works, I'm all about it. So, who knows. I'm here, right, so I suppose I'm willing to give it a whirl.

I am about: cooking, movement, being outdoors, beautiful music, sweet souls, writing, art, goodness, leftist politics, liberation, pedagogies of transformation, decolonizing my own mind.

I am all for embracing love where you find it, although sometimes, in my heart of hearts I think: down with love! Up with people! Instead of worrying about finding a partner, why don't we all start a Yiddish movie society or bake a cake or go for a run instead?

(I realize that if cake baking is what I'm after, I have most likely come to the wrong place, but what the hell, a girl can dream.)

So. Maybe we should go on a date. Or maybe you were bullied by your friends into being here, and dating is not your speed. Maybe you're interested in starting a Yiddish film club, finding a running buddy (mine is an 8 minute mile), or baking that cake I can't stop thinking about. If so, I'm your guy.

I like hiking in the fall, reading, ice skating, most wine, swimming, books, movies, the city, the country, allegory, the Oxford comma (using it, not using it, whatever), and not being a lawyer--I dodged a major bullet there. If we date, I like kissing. If we don't, I like friend-making. A win-win.

Speaking of the wins: despite suffering from an occasional love allergy, if we hang out, no sparks fly, but you seem amazing, I'll be inclined to set you up with nine of my coolest, most beautiful, charming, wealthy, witty, and talented friends.

You have to admit, it's quite a deal I've worked out for all of us, here.
What I’m doing with my life
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At the moment, grad school, teaching, low-level athletics, writing, procrastinating, writing some more, delighting in everything I can, learning new things, cooking delicious things, singing poorly, loving it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, cutting my own hair, setting people up--for romance, not for failure. If you need help finding a date, I'm your man.
The first things people usually notice about me
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You may either ask them directly, or if you dare: find out for yourself.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: some of us did not die, a moveable feast, fierce attachments, how we survived communism and even laughed, the big sea, the ways of white folks, the fire next time, killing the black body, cathedral, nobody knows my name, white teeth, my antonia, the collected poems of akhmatova, number our days, pathologies of power, this is how you lose her, where the wild things are.

movies: when we were kings, annie hall, my architect, moscow does not believe in tears, la haine, italian for beginners, when the levees broke, moonstruck, etre et avoir, the fog of war, follow that bird, the prime of miss jean brodie, stories we tell, the princess bride, once, four little girls, salmonboy, beaches.

shows: no tv for this lady. when i'm very sick, i'll watch The West Wing and/or Law & Order via Netflix, but keep no television, and generally stay off the sauce.

music: danielle doyle, manu chao, rem, stevie wonder, neil young, erykah badu, ray lamontagne, nat king cole, bruce springsteen, alabina, smokey robinson, puccini, edith piaf, roxette, eliza gilkyson, nina simone, peggy lee, the cure, emmylou harris, lionel richie, boyz II men, lucinda williams, rod stewart, aimee mann, joy kills sorrow, raffi, jodeci, vonda shepard, indigo girls, zaz.

food: i like to cook. i like to eat: yogurt, kale, popcorn, broccoli eggplant and pineapple pizza, fresh fruit, veggie chili, breakfast food, roasted vegetables, good bread, cheese, & wine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Life will teach you that you can do with just about anything, but I like mine full of movement, books, laughter, love, sleep, and seltzer water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
learning more Russian, health disparities, Paul Farmer, weight-bearing exercise, how to procrastinate more efficiently, Bette Midler, whether to sit for a bar exam, sleep, good kissing, outdoor exercise, why my best friends live in Seoul and London and not around the block, whether I secretly like The Dirty Truth (I think not), liberatory education, radical politics, feminist pedagogy, writing my thesis.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am not thrilled by the degree of self-promotion that answering this question requires. Suffice it to say: I do things. I believe that time is short and should be used wisely and with a sense of purpose and adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The other night I had a dream in which I played a contestant on a game show about grammar. Joan Rivers hosted, and surprisingly (to me, at least), Bette Midler played the co-host/letter flipper. I became so excited on sight of Bette Midler that I *had* to do a dance, only my moves were something like Bill Cosby on psychedelics, so I mostly embarrassed myself on national dreamland television. Nonetheless, the winning question concerned the appropriate use of the apostrophe, and I won, and won, and won.

Also, I really wanted to marry Wanya Morris for most of my adolescence.
You should message me if
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let's call it what it is. you should message me if:

you imagine i might sing your heart awake, your politics aren't reprehensible, and, finally, if you think i might want you to lie on top of me. definitely get on that.