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cottonthrills

60 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 45–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:08am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Education
University
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
2014 update...although I suppose it wasn't necessary because it still seems to be summer. Sunbathing in January, love it, but my poor plants...

I’m a tall, slender fellow with many interests, possibly too many... I love music and am a classical music singer very active in a chamber chorus. But I also love soul, funk, rock, and nearly all other genres. I’m always up for a trip to a museum, play, movie, performance...and the odd roadside attraction: went to the Serpentarium in Lodi, a sort of a store/museum for reptiles and tarantulas, highly recommended.

My chorus went to Cuba last summer, a life-changing experience, with singing, drumming and dance lessons and wonderful collaborations. I've always loved to dance and hope to continue lessons here in Cuban folklorico - quite wild and suited to my propensity towards controlled flailing.

Bookswise, I'm plowing through the Edna O'Brien biography and, on Audible, Eleanor Catton's The Luminaries. I like Twain and Don DeLillo a lot and usually read the New York Times daily but Sunday is just too much. Convince me otherwise! Fave sections are Science on Tuesday, Food on Wednesday and Arts on Friday. I also get The New Yorker and The Nation and wish I had more time for them. I'm slowly transitioning to reading everything on a tablet but resistant to giving up the shareability of physical newspapers. I'll add a poet I've been a fan of since college, John Berryman: often bleak, but powerful.

Other interests? Gardening - I have a big yard out front full of drought-tolerant plants and a reasonable-sized vegetable garden out back. I might take up canning next year because last summer my eyes were way too big for my tummy. Food: good coffee, beer, wine, and cuisines of every stripe, dining in or out. I enjoy cooking but I’m not a natural - I have to stick to the recipe. I love occasionally throwing a big party and spending the day in the kitchen.

The American Southwest is a favorite travel spot - I was just in the Tucson area among the big saguaros (sans cowboy hats) - and I’d be happy to go back to Italy or Spain. Pets: I have a little dog who is a total lover and likes to lick toes. The Dale Carnegie of dogs.

What am I like? That’s a bit harder…I like being quiet and thoughtful at times but I can also rise to life-of-the-party. My humor can be wry, sometimes off-the-wall but not generally offensive. Silly for sure – it just bubbles out. I’m a good listener, sometimes wise, sometimes too trusting – the price of not having your guard up all the time. I have a big laugh that’s pretty recognizable so I don’t need to be microchipped. I like a hike in the hills or the City but am very happy cozied up in front of the fire or TV (the 1% of watchable shows.)

I like to eat well and stay fit with vigorous dog walks in the hills and workouts in my home gym. It helps in keeping up with the young’uns on the dance floor.

I feel uncomfortable saying ‘I’ so much. Aye.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working at a great university job in IT. It’s a mite nerdy at times but I work with a great crew of fun-loving people who are also serious about the mission of education.

Changing lives through music. Imparting ecstasy, grief, joy.

Learning to love, a lifelong project.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Baritone arias. Doing the chicken dance. Cocking an ear. Reading a recipe and getting myself into a pickle. Revisiting the hardware store. Wondering if that's a weed.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My curly mop. Or my laugh; it travels.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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In addition to all the above, I like a good epic from time to time. A fave is Don Delillo’s Underworld. Music: Brahms, Poulenc, Betty Carter, Thelonious Monk, George Clinton, the Isleys, Temptations, Gillian Welch, guitar-oriented rock bands. A favorite old movie is Children of Paradise and every ten years or so I watch Harold and Maude.

My tastes can be high- or low-brow but in books and shows I tend to be more particular. Maybe for books because I'm a slow reader and hate to waste my time on fluff - although I did enjoy Abraham Lincoln, Vampire Hunter. I tend to prefer plays to Broadway shows.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Noise and silence.
Clear winter days; hot summers.
Thought, and its absence.
Whatever part of my body that can still tap its foot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Music.
Friends and family.
The fate of this old earth.
My dog. I’m besotted.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Walking, singing, dancing, gazing, thinking, drinking.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Every Xmas I read A Child’s Christmas in Wales by Dylan Thomas and Dinah the Christmas Whore by David Sedaris. And I’m still in love with Emma Peel.
You should message me if
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You like what you see and your dance card is free. Or your weed-pulling skills are going fallow and you really need to donate some time to keep your hand in.