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47 F Westwood, NJ

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Last Online
Aug 7
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Trying to quit
Aries, and it matters a lot
Graduated from two-year college
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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If you hate drama, and are "drama free" you must be a zombie addicted to the consumer culture. Life = drama and if you can't handle reality move along please! Life is not a post card pretty picture of how things SHOULD be, sold to you by people that want you to buy stuff. It is real and hard and lonely and beautiful. I am not looking for the perfect man, i am looking for a human who is awake and alive in reality, the here and now, which is as beautiful as it can be.

“How do you react when you think you need people's love? Do you become a slave for their approval? Do you live an inauthentic life because you can't bear the thought that they might disapprove of you? Do you try to figure out how they would like you to be, and then try to become that, like a chameleon? In fact, you never really get their love. You turn into someone you aren't, and then when they say "I love you," you can't believe it, because they're loving a facade. They're loving someone who doesn't even exist, the person you're pretending to be. It's difficult to seek other people's love. It's deadly. In seeking it, you lose what is genuine. This is the prison we create for ourselves as we seek what we already have.”
― Byron Katie

I am a miserable failure by society's standards, but I am living life, with all it's light and dark, being the most honest, kind person I can be, and it mystifies me that it is such an unpopular thing, but then again not, because life is so much more of a temporal thing by our current perspective, no wonder people have their asses clenched so tight - but we have to grow past this, just sayen.

“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”
― Jiddu Krishnamurti

If you are happy with the status qua and don't see how backasswards things are, please move along. Seinfeld called it bizzarro world, maybe for different reason, but I see things like integrity derided and greed awarded and I am not comfortable with that.

That being said, I do love to laugh and have fun and try to find the good/lessons in things. I am passionate about the world but can laugh at some pretty stupid stuff as well.

At this age many people have reached their peak and are settling in to coast but I have not come close to realizing my full potential and am excited about the possibilities.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to figure out how to best use my talents to make a positive difference in the world.
I’m really good at
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cooking, making people laugh, writing,
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Crime and Punishment, The Idiot, Gone With the Wind, 1776, 1491, East of Eden, The Road Less Traveled, A New Earth...

Movies: Butch Cassidy and The Sundance Kid, Jeremiah Johnson, Elizabeth, Young Frankenstein, The Holly Grail, ANY Jason Bourne, Man on Fire, Dead Man, Troy, The King's Speech

Music: Stevie Ray, Beatles, Neil Young, Pink Floyd, Pearl Jam, Nirvana, Alice in Chains, Johnnie Lee Hooker, REM, Screaming Trees, Mazzy Star, Dead, Fleetwood Mac, Eagles, ozzy(Blues, rock, classical, jazz, soul -Anything, as long as it is quality)

Shows: Big Bang Theory, Daily Show, Colbert, Bio, History, Top Chef, Third Rock

Food: Northern Italian, Japanese, Mexican, Italian, French - and hoping to try some new
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Daughter
Good food & wine
intellectual stimulation
Giants Football - somehow this season I have survived without it, just barely. :_(
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The universe/meaning of life.
How I can make a difference in the world.
How to be the best mom I can be.
What to have for lunch.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Glad its Friday
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 39–54
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
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You are intelligent, have integrity, and a sense of humor is a must!