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34 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 28–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:29am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm mostly sweet though sometimes feisty,
spiritual, tons of love to give (a tantric approach to life: not jaded, not cynical) and a mix of introvert/extrovert.

I'm artistic, feminine, curvy but sleek.
Still very much a kid at heart, and just a tad feral.
Definitely long winded (just look at the length of this profile!)
and to quote Sir Mix A lot: an LA face with an Oakland booty.

I love geeks and creative types, people who love life. Warm, enthusiastic personalities, men who appreciate both city life and being in nature suit me best. I'm open to friendships if you just want a friend to hang out an make stuff together: painting, collaging, sculpting, or co-working on laptops in cafes. I honestly prefer getting creative together over bars.

I'm hard to define. I am equally comfortable at a black tie affair as I am playing Playstation or crafting. (I love video games for their artistic merits, honestly) I'm well rounded and can wax poetic about topic ranging from Bitcoin to Buddhism.

I bring a lot of ninja communication skills to a relationship...meaning I have worked on myself, love creating win/win situations, and know how to deal emotionally with tough conversations or hurt feelings. It would be awesome to find someone similar who has what it takes to communicate well. Really, its rare.

I live on the edge of Emeryville/Oakland....and am San Francisco all the time.

I'm not American. I am quite spiritual, (not to be confused with religious. I am not religious whatsoever) I meditate, I love philosophy, appreciate Buddhism and Taoism for it's wisdom-isms. I'm pretty witchy. That said, I'm also down to earth and can hang with just about anyone, logical, business-types and atheists included.

In an ideal world I'd find someone who has both the time and means to travel. I'd love to find someone who lights me up. A best friend who I can't keep my hands off of ;)

Dating/LTR wise: This is where I am a black sheep.
I'm really only compatible with men who don't want kids, or those who know they would be fine without them. I know this rules out 90% of you, which sucks, but that's life.

And it's not that I don't like them, in fact, I don't mind if you have some already, particularly if they are older.

I do take things slow, believe in being friends before anything else. But ultimately, we are a match if you are (eventually) looking for something domestic and cozy.

I'd love a partner to go deep with. You know, co-habitation. The final frontier. Someone who wants a sweet, artistic, bohemian but together wifey to come home to and snuggle up to at night. So, if the thought of settling down gives you hives, if you are still ADD dating, we are not a match ;)
This last paragraph is meant to scare you off. If it hasn't, awesome :) xo
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Self employment has always been key for me
I run a few online businesses
the newest of which is

I just started posting art on Etsy

I also love to paint, and sculpt, and adore installation and video. I've studied at several fancy art schools, exhibited in galleries, and have been lucky enough to actually sell most of my work. Fun, right? I balance all my artsy-stuff with good, entrepreneurial business sense. no starving here.

I love all the nuances of communication, so I take classes in non-violent communication ( NVC ). It's amazing stuff and is quickly making me less of a brat.

And in true Renaissance style: I've been studying Chinese Medicine for 3 years, part time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being nurturing. cuddling. sticking with things, reading people. rapping (poorly). making stuff. bringing something interesting to the table. planning adventures. making things grow. taming wild things. smiling...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
a sensuality so thick you could spread it on toast
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
authors: Byron Katie, Abraham / Esther Hicks, Eckhart Tolle
The Power of Attraction. Finite and Infinite Games

TV: Reno 911, adult cartoons, The Office, Little Britain

music: I love outdoor music festivals and will gladly get on a plane to go to a good one. Priorities. Priorities.
To name a few: MUTEK (montreal) DEMF (detroit electronic music festival) treasure island music fest, and yes, burning man (though i am not a "burner" by any means)

more music: gang gang dance, SBTRKT, fleet foxes, the beatles, beruit, matmos, iron and wine. mazzy star. the shins. jeff buckley, bat for lashes. fever ray , the knife, owen pallett. noise, drone, glitch, dubstep, funk, soul, 80's cheese, old school 90's hip hop, like black moon, smif n wesson, aaliyah, some gangsta rap believe it or not...and...fleetwood mac?

food: anything but tofu. im pretty turned on to the paleo diet these days.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
science and art, and where the two intersect. wealth creation. singing lessons. vintage Porsches. vintage campervans. poverty and class issues. street art. travel to: Iceland, Italy, Costa Rica, Austrailia, Spain, Scandinavia. Design. gardening. music. psychedelics. DMT. shamanism. tantra. how to live with my heart open. BDSM (10+ years now exploring...) how to make a long term relationship work...and be inspiring and supportive at the same time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am not a 9-5'er so fridays do not stand out for me. I'm just as likely to stay up late on a wednesday night. Sometimes I'm out dancing, or maybe at home with a friend and a film. (pretty sweet set up: projected movies in bed) if I'm lucky I'm at a hot spring getting witchy. I'm mellowing out these days, and finding more pleasure in simple things...but I still love to dance, check out bands, attend art openings and what not. Typical retired hipster stuff.
You should message me if
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~you have done some work on yourself, you are emotionally available
~you're silly, you're able to get ridiculous
~you wanna date and go slow and have fun
~like me, you desire a LTR, but imagine you could be OK without having kids
(really, this is really the only reason I am giving online dating a try)
~you dream of an urban homestead: chickens, bees, gardens
~you're great at sexy stuff ;)
~you're extroverted / have a big personality
~you are looking for someone amazing to create a life together
~you value stability. this includes financial stability
~you communicate well
~you love love
~meditation does not weird you out.
~you love nature
~you wanna go out dancing
~you have a stellar music or film collection you want to introduce me to
~you like lists

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