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36 • Oakland, CA • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 30–38
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Apr 25
- 5′ 7″ (1.70m)
- Body type
- Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
- Working on masters program
- Art / Music / Writing
- Mostly monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Has dogs
tons of love to give (a tantric approach to life: not jaded, not cynical) and a mix of introvert/extrovert. ENFP/INFP depending on the day. Sparked by intellectual conversation
Still very much a kid at heart,
Definitely long winded (just look at the length of this profile!) And to quote Sir Mix A lot: an LA face with an Oakland booty. Curvy, and thick 42 inch hips.. but sleek. Hourglass figure.
I want a creative, inspiring connections. Silliness and laughs. I love geeks and creative types, people who, like me, love life. Warm, enthusiastic personalities. people who like to make stuff.
My disclaimer: I want to hear from people who want real connection. Is that too much to ask? I hope not ;) This site is full of people who want to "keep it light" and I like it deep. Innuendos included.
I'm hard to define. I am equally comfortable at a black tie affair as I am playing Playstation or crafting. (I love video games for their artistic merits, honestly) I'm well rounded and can wax poetic about topic ranging from Bitcoin to Buddhism. Ayahuasca is an amazing teacher. Definitely not afraid to get dirty, take that how you will. I am a bit dominant in personality (though not in the bedroom) and men who are just a tad submissive with the woman they adore suit me best. I live a pretty kinky lifestyle. More on that when we meet, perhaps
I live on the edge of Emeryville/Oakland....and am San Francisco all the time and don't mind the thought of dating someone outside the Bay.
I meditate, love philosophy, appreciate Buddhism and Taoism for it's wisdom-isms. I'm pretty witchy. That said, I'm also down to earth and can hang with just about anyone, logical, business-types and atheists included.
In an ideal world I'd find someone who has both the time and means to travel. I'd love to find someone who lights me up. A best friend who I can't keep my hands off ;)
That said, I do take things slow, believe in being friends before anything else. Ultimately, someday, I'd love a partner to go deep with. You know, co-habitation: The final frontier. Someone to share a home with, a space for creating and a big round table to gather friends around.
This last paragraph is meant to scare you off. If it hasn't, awesome :) xo
I run a few businesses and enjoy a lot of freedom.
I paint, and sculpt, and adore installation and video. I've studied at several fancy art schools, exhibited in galleries, and have been lucky enough to actually sell most of my artwork. Fun, right? I balance all my artsy-stuff with good, entrepreneurial business sense. no starving here.
And in true Renaissance style: I've been studying Chinese Medicine for 3 years, part time.
The Power of Attraction. Finite and Infinite Games
TV: Reno 911, adult cartoons, The Office, Little Britain
music: I love outdoor music festivals and will gladly get on a plane to go to a good one. Priorities. Priorities.
To name a few: MUTEK (montreal) DEMF (detroit electronic music festival) treasure island music fest, and yes, burning man (though i am not a "burner" by any means)
more music: gang gang dance, SBTRKT, fleet foxes, the beatles, beruit, matmos, iron and wine. mazzy star. the shins. jeff buckley, bat for lashes. fever ray , the knife, owen pallett. noise, drone, glitch, dubstep, funk, soul, 80's cheese, old school 90's hip hop, like black moon, smif n wesson, aaliyah, some gangsta rap believe it or not...and...fleetwood mac?
food: anything but wheat. im pretty turned on to the paleo diet these days.
The rest of this stuff is gravy:
~you're silly, you're able to get ridiculous
~you dream of an urban homestead: chickens, bees, gardens
~you're great at sexy stuff ;)
~you're extroverted / have a big personality
~you have done some work on yourself, you are emotionally available
~you value stability. this includes financial stability
~you love love
~you love nature: hiking, diving, snorkeling, camping, hot springs...
~you like to make stuff
~you wanna go out dancing
~you have a stellar music or film collection you want to introduce me to
p.s Fellas: online dating is completely fraught with weirdo's and scammers, men who don't read profiles, and other bad news bears. If she seems a little uptight, perhaps that is why. You men seriously have no idea. This place is full of landmines, be kind! Xo
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