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36 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 25
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm mostly sweet though sometimes feisty,
tons of love to give (a tantric approach to life: not jaded, not cynical) and a mix of introvert/extrovert. ENFP/INFP depending on the day. Sparked by intellectual conversation

Still very much a kid at heart,
Definitely long winded (just look at the length of this profile!) And to quote Sir Mix A lot: an LA face with an Oakland booty. Curvy, and thick 42 inch hips.. but sleek. Hourglass figure.

I want a creative, inspiring connections. Silliness and laughs. I love geeks and creative types, people who, like me, love life. Warm, enthusiastic personalities. people who like to make stuff.

My disclaimer: I want to hear from people who want real connection. Is that too much to ask? I hope not ;) This site is full of people who want to "keep it light" and I like it deep. Innuendos included.

I'm hard to define. I am equally comfortable at a black tie affair as I am playing Playstation or crafting. (I love video games for their artistic merits, honestly) I'm well rounded and can wax poetic about topic ranging from Bitcoin to Buddhism. Ayahuasca is an amazing teacher. Definitely not afraid to get dirty, take that how you will. I am a bit dominant in personality (though not in the bedroom) and men who are just a tad submissive with the woman they adore suit me best. I live a pretty kinky lifestyle. More on that when we meet, perhaps

I live on the edge of Emeryville/Oakland....and am San Francisco all the time and don't mind the thought of dating someone outside the Bay.

I meditate, love philosophy, appreciate Buddhism and Taoism for it's wisdom-isms. I'm pretty witchy. That said, I'm also down to earth and can hang with just about anyone, logical, business-types and atheists included.

In an ideal world I'd find someone who has both the time and means to travel. I'd love to find someone who lights me up. A best friend who I can't keep my hands off ;)

That said, I do take things slow, believe in being friends before anything else. Ultimately, someday, I'd love a partner to go deep with. You know, co-habitation: The final frontier. Someone to share a home with, a space for creating and a big round table to gather friends around.

This last paragraph is meant to scare you off. If it hasn't, awesome :) xo
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Self employment has always been key for me
I run a few businesses and enjoy a lot of freedom.

I paint, and sculpt, and adore installation and video. I've studied at several fancy art schools, exhibited in galleries, and have been lucky enough to actually sell most of my artwork. Fun, right? I balance all my artsy-stuff with good, entrepreneurial business sense. no starving here.

And in true Renaissance style: I've been studying Chinese Medicine for 3 years, part time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being nurturing. Being straight up. cuddling. sticking with things, reading people. rapping (poorly). making stuff. bringing something interesting to the table. planning adventures. making things grow. taming wild things. Being brave. smiling...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
a sensuality so thick you could spread it on toast
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
authors: Byron Katie, Abraham / Esther Hicks, Eckhart Tolle
The Power of Attraction. Finite and Infinite Games

TV: Reno 911, adult cartoons, The Office, Little Britain

music: I love outdoor music festivals and will gladly get on a plane to go to a good one. Priorities. Priorities.
To name a few: MUTEK (montreal) DEMF (detroit electronic music festival) treasure island music fest, and yes, burning man (though i am not a "burner" by any means)

more music: gang gang dance, SBTRKT, fleet foxes, the beatles, beruit, matmos, iron and wine. mazzy star. the shins. jeff buckley, bat for lashes. fever ray , the knife, owen pallett. noise, drone, glitch, dubstep, funk, soul, 80's cheese, old school 90's hip hop, like black moon, smif n wesson, aaliyah, some gangsta rap believe it or not...and...fleetwood mac?

food: anything but wheat. im pretty turned on to the paleo diet these days.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
scuba diving (I love to snorkel in Monterey) science and art, and where the two intersect. wealth creation. singing lessons. vintage Porsches. vintage campervans. poverty and class issues. street art. travel to: Iceland, Italy, Costa Rica, Austrailia, Spain, Scandinavia. Design. gardening. music. psychedelics. DMT. ayahuasca. shamanism. tantra. how to live with my heart open. BDSM (10+ years now exploring...) how to make a long term relationship work...and be inspiring and supportive at the same time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am not a 9-5'er so fridays do not stand out for me. I'm just as likely to stay up late on a wednesday night. Sometimes I'm out dancing, or maybe at home with a friend and a film. (pretty sweet set up: projected movies in bed!) if I'm lucky I'm at a hot spring getting witchy. Or I'm working in art. I'm mellowing out these days, and finding more pleasure in simple things...but I still love to dance, check out bands, attend art openings and what not. Typical retired hipster stuff.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
like me, you are happy to not procreate. I do not want kids. Its a deal breaker for most.

The rest of this stuff is gravy:
~you're silly, you're able to get ridiculous
~you dream of an urban homestead: chickens, bees, gardens
~you're great at sexy stuff ;)
~you're extroverted / have a big personality
~you have done some work on yourself, you are emotionally available
~you value stability. this includes financial stability
~you love love
~you love nature: hiking, diving, snorkeling, camping, hot springs...
~you like to make stuff
~you wanna go out dancing
~you have a stellar music or film collection you want to introduce me to

p.s Fellas: online dating is completely fraught with weirdo's and scammers, men who don't read profiles, and other bad news bears. If she seems a little uptight, perhaps that is why. You men seriously have no idea. This place is full of landmines, be kind! Xo