New words!! Same person
Songs that define me
Hey Ho: Lumineers
Ballad of Love and Hate: The Avett Brothers
November Blue: The Avett Brothers
The Perfect Space: The Avett Brothers
As you read, I might seem so VERY serious, but I am not.
I smile, laugh and play...A LOT! It might really be what I am best at. That Crow like sense of balance between making a living and finding the joys in the small things...The bright and shiny things that make life worth living
So......I'm not changing my profile much......
My Partner of two years, who I love very much ...Is in a "Poly" marriage...told me that I should date...That I needed more than what she could give at this time and that I should "Date".......
She knows that I love the company of women and that I truly enjoy meeting new people.
So.........I would like to meet someone that thinks in similar ways....that might want me all of the time but for various reasons.....might want me around for a two or three nights.... to share dinners...I'm a great cook....to see shows or movies...to marathon a tv show...to sit and watch the snow fall and wrap our bodies together.
We are all very busy people at our age and we have limited time to spend with a partner and I understand that and that is how I've come to this point in my life.
I am willing to share....my life with you and I am willing to share you ............with someone else....Big Question....Can You Share?
I "Don't" do jealousy
It is possible...I believe.... to love more than one
If this resonates with you let me know and we will see....
Overt..fans of..UO and OSU football..Sports in general .Frat/Sorortity....purse dogs....Dogs are my babies.....please don't contact me....
I'm leaving the rest because it gives a sense of who I've been and who I am as a person....I've been on and off OKC for the last 4 years and have built and altered this as I've changed and I want to keep it the way it is.
I believe in love....intense passionate....immediate love( I don't necessarily mean love at first sight, although that has happened too)....I am lucky, I have seen it, experienced it.......been completely devastated by it and yet I love as if I have never been hurt.
I have never experienced that slow.....weeks.....months long build up to "Love". You either know your heart or you don't...Each person has their own way and mine is to approach life with an open heart.......That being said, I have never walked away from the ones that I love and that has lead to having wonderful friends that were lovers and lovers that are wonderful friends.... I am POLY and My promise is that if we are together, You get all of me whenever we are together. I truly believe that we can have many loves in our lives. It's not for everyone, but it works for me and the wonderful people in my life. If you are interested, go look at www.morethantwo.com it has lot's of info about Poly/Mono relationships
I told someone recently that falling in love is like running a long race. The beginning is full of adrenalin, excitement, fear, elation.....absolute giddiness of the learning, touching and feeling of another. That intense passion to know everything about the other. As the race moves along the heart slows and the brain calms.....easing into a steadier pace.....it is a long race after all. Running side by side......each heart beat.....each breath getting closer to unison.......As there truly is no end to this particular race, there will be times where each person outdistances the other and that heartbeats and breaths get out of sync. But hopefully the strength of the bond is enough that each works to let the other catch up.
I told one of my best friends... That there will come a time where I will meet someone and She will look at me and take my hand and say "You are mine now".
It has happened before.....I know what it feels like. Unfortunately, Life...circumstance....timing were wrong. Although I still love those people deeply, my heart is still open.
I want to look at you and become totally aware that I don't need to look any farther............I am looking for a partner, someone comfortable in their skin. Willing to love and be loved, to see pain and joy in their partner and to try and help with one and accentuate the other.
Can you love a girl not your own? Help and allow help from your partner? Comfortable in your own skin? Walk across a daylit room naked, make love on an empty beach, flirt and send naughty texts just to see how revved up things can get.
I want a partner that is emotional, willing to say what she means, to cry and laugh and cuss like a sailor...................to savour life
Garden by moonlight and tear down walls by halogen, dance till three, talk till dawn, make love till we can't, argue, and kiss, and do it all over again.
After many years of living in a fairly buttoned down Middle Class life.....I have been living a life that is freer and much more spontaneous. My home and my life are "Under Construction" and although it is chaotic it is also thrilling to work on what I want when I want.
I tend to live in "Work" gear......although I am told I clean up well;) If dirt, dust, and mild chaos bother you, then I am not your man. If you can see my vision.....look for the treasures in my pile of steel.....Want....to help and enjoy and learn..That would be Fantastic! Nothing more attractive than a beautiful woman in dirty jeans and a smudge on her cheek as far as I am concerned.( On that note......I see so many comments about Men...shirtless in the mirror, faces shadowed by Baseball caps to hide balding heads...Well Ladies.....there is an equal amount of bad bathroom shots on I-phones from women...over exposed, under exposed.....Artistic? Nontheless....I want to see the real you.
Please be.....available.......I know we all have full, busy lives but I am looking for someone who has the ability to spend more than a few hours a week together. That is "Dating" and I am fine with that, but it doesn't seem to me to be the basis for some form of monogamish. I want to be with someone that I can spend...at the very least a couple of days a week. To "Couple" at least for a little bit...to laugh and cook and talk into the wee hours and wake up together....and you get coffee in bed too;)
You know the scene in "Rudolph"? His nose starts to shine and his Dad slaps coal on it to "Tone" it down.
Who I am.....tends to shine pretty brightly. Some of my friends have suggested slapping coal on it to tone it down.
I can't, nor do I want to do that. I like who I am and to "Tone" it down would be lying about who I am.
I am passionate and intense and it will either work for you or it won't. I give my all to people that I care for.
Please.......If you are coming out of a long marriage/relationship......I am not interested in being the "Practice Boyfriend" ......to fall fast and hard and then to bring it to a screeching halt "Because......You just aren't Ready". Hopefully you know your own heart as well as I know mine.
Hopefully your kids( If you have them) know you are dating and an Ex that knows it too.
Just so we are clear...............I am not a fan of "The Rules". If we had a really great date and honestly made a connection. I am not afraid to tell you the next day that I would like to see you and I will text to say Hi. It's who I am. I am pretty direct and appreciate it when others are as well.
On that note, please have the decency to say that you didn't...You aren't going to hurt my feelings......
After a recent experience, please don't say yes you had a good time and yes you want to do it again and then disappear. We are all grown ups and honesty is the best policy.
IF YOU JUST WANT TO GET LAID...."TO CLEAN THE COBWEBS OUT" As someone told me a day or two later, have the decency to tell me at the time....I am not into sleeping around or being used...Give me a chance to decide if that is what I want too. Sex means something to me and it creates a connection that I'm only willing to have with people I feel something for and to not have at least a simple friendship out of it demeans the connection.
If you want to......my old, LONG profile is in my Journal. It is long but full of where I have been in this interesting On-line dating world.