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33 Philadelphia, PA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 28–48
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 7:24am
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body type
Strictly anything
When drinking
Other, and laughing about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Open relationship
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
As a kid I invented my own religion. I've been to places like Tajikistan. I do found object sculpture and stop-motion animation.

A friend's summary: "You feel things."

I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Walking down alleyways looking through discarded things. Making other things out of things.

Also: Paying attention. Wandering, with or without purpose. Being curious. Discovering new enthusiasms. Gathering up odd bits of cultural detritus. Strange facts, like: Richard Simmons had a bit part in Fellini's Sayricon.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Quiet! Eventual corollary: quiet weirdo.

I hear "mysterious" occasionally, though I couldn't keep that one going long-term, even if I wanted to. Too goofy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I absorb a lot. Non-exhaustive selection:

Movies: Jacques Tati & Robert Bresson movies. David Lynch. Experimental animation. Barbarella, The Wicker Man (1973), I Walked With a Zombie. For comedies, After Hours.

Music: New wave. Semi-campy 60s-era duets. (Serge Gainsbourg & Bridgitte Bardot, Nancy Sinatra & Lee Hazlewood.) Pop songs with harpsichords. The Fiery Furnaces. Prince. Scott Walker...Lately any time a song comes up on random shuffle and I love it but I can't quite place it, it ends up being from the Wire album Chairs Missing.

Books: At Swim-Two-Birds, The Magic Mountain, The Temple of the Golden Pavilion. Flannery O'Connor. Occasional science fiction.

Television: Twin Peaks, Mad Men, Buffy, Rupaul's Drag Race.

Food: Hard-boiled eggs, fresh dates, scotch. Ethiopian, Indian, & anything I haven't tried before.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Dark or absurdist humor, playfulness, art, feet & eyeballs, staring out the windows of buses and trains, the times I have to get up out of bed to write down ideas before I forget them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Self-adhesive vinyl floor tiles.

How the type of chair I'm sitting in affects the type of conversation I'm having.

The gap between "I see" and "I know."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
At most parties I have ever been to, I have at some point left the room, walked outside by myself for 15 minutes or so, and then returned. Introvert refueling session.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You'd like to share some bizarro thoughts. Or you're in the arts and want to talk shop. Or you know some great hiking spots. Or...?

I like people who are reflective, kind, open, and at least a tiny bit subversive.

Kink-friendly is a requirement.