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33 Seattle, WA Genderfluid, Two Spirit, Gender Nonconforming, Other

Genderfluid, Two Spirit, Gender Nonconforming, Other

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  • Ages 25–85
  • Near me
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Last online
Today – 9:26am
Demisexual, Pansexual, Sapiosexual, Queer
Native American, White
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Other and it’s important
Working on University
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Goodness, it really is time to spruce this baby up, isn't it?

I've been on OKC since it was a cute little quiz hub with dating as a sideline, and have always treated it as such, leaving for the most part when the quizzes stopped really being a thing.

Now that I'm up and about adventuring with That80sDJ, I feel like networking, making friends, and expanding our adventures as much as possible would be an incredibly rewarding experience.

I can be overwhelmingly sweet and overwhelmingly opinionated in equal turn and without much warning. I hate people who hate drama, because they invariably create it and then eschew having any responsibility as such -- I would rather deal with the challenges of life maturely, which I think leaves little space for denial or avoidance.

I'm an old school goth nerd who cut her teeth on Commodore 64 boot commands and big floppy disks when they were actually floppy. I no longer know how to access root but am eager to learn. I love sci fi, fantasy, horror, comedy, satire, and I have far more respect for cliché than is strictly accepted by society as a whole.

My relationship is open, but dead serious and not up for challenges or competitive spirits. That80sDJ and I are both autonomous and individualistic; we love sharing our fantastic dynamic with others but neither require absolute control or constant presence. Regardless, we function as long term partners and have no interest in being swayed.

Finally, I am Demi as fuck. My feelings can fill in over five minutes or five years, but I won't recognize you as a sexual being until certain stars have aligned, certain stories have been added to my mythos, and I won't be able to tell you beforehand if and when this will happen.

Let's just say that Eris, the Greek goddess of discord, decides who and when I gain attraction towards. Under those circumstances, I offer no guarantees.
What I’m doing with my life
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My overall passion is creating mythos using as many art forms in conjunction as possible, and with that, I'm returning to college for the sole purpose of learning Visual Communications / Animation for Multimedia.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Communication, arts of several forms, writing, sleeping. Mostly sleeping.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm small and look mostly harmless.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This one will take a minute and I don't want to miss anything so I'm going to come back to it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Altruism, logic, intellect, confidence, philosophy, and ... Thai food.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Social justice. There's always more to learn, and if my movement isn't inclusive, it's not for me, or most of the people I care about.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That I'm not exciting enough to horde private things for people to be shocked about! ;)

Seriously, I see things differently than others. When I keep things private, it's due to something more drastic than shame, and therefore, I don't tend to "admit" to them. If I trust you, I'll share sensitive information; if I don't, well, it's not shame keeping me from sharing with you.

You should message me if
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If I were to summarize -- you take nothing but compassion seriously, because the rest is just adventure. But since you might want specifics ...

Social justice doesn't send you running. You want to address structural issues and social conditioning that advantage some groups over others, not because you're a killjoy but because you want everyone to be invited to the table. You love people -- sure, they make you mad sometimes -- but ultimately, you want to empower everyone to be happy.

You're a total nerd about something. Art, music, computers, history, philosophy, science -- my things are comics, animation, and a sort of wibbly wobbly human experience thing; I tend more towards fantasy trappings with the depth of thought that goes into science fiction, but if you can explain fantasy baseball to me, it's all good.

When sex or romance isn't guaranteed, you still value a relationship with great fervor because people are dynamic and surprising and ephemeral and irreplaceable.

Your confidence exists as a creative force, not destructive. You use it to boost people, not to shut them down, crush them, or insist on being right.

You're imperfect. Sometimes painfully so. You mess up bad sometimes, you hurt people, and that in turn hurts you, but the reparation isn't about you and you know how to take accountability. You can apologize without a "but ..." or "if ..." statement (eg, "I'm sorry, but reasons / if it bothered you") -- it's important to you to mend bridges because people are important, more so than ego.

You know that sweat or dirt from a garden wash off. You might squeak in horror from beach sand in your bathing suit but it won't stop you from having a good time. Allowances are there for serious sensory issues and such, but outside of such issues, you don't live in a bubble.

You know what a "trigger" really is; "trigger warnings" don't enrage you on some irrelevant free speech principle.

You have all of this serious. But you giggle.

You enjoy people and beauty and have a lust for life and you giggle.

You want to do things and see things and learn things and experience things and have fun and be silly and giggle.

You don't take yourself so seriously that childlike things make you mad. You don't have to have a child present to enjoy an occasional (or regular!) cartoon binge.

You're not a narcissist. You wouldn't like me if you were. I could smell it on you in minutes if you were. I humor narcissists for a while but move on easily when the novelty of tricking a trickster fades; genuine people are more fun because the social games we play are mutually agreed upon and therefore sustainable.

You're sex positive because it's about fun consent and autonomy; you're about safety precautions because the risks aren't fun.

You might like bdsm or kink. If you don't, you're not judgmental. Risk awareness and management are key, as with anything.

You might want to chat at a distance for a while. You might want to meet somewhere in public. Comfort and safety are key.

You might be marginalized and need contact with people who don't use it against you. There will be no body shaming, slut shaming, homophobia, transphobia, gender policing, tone policing, racism, sexism, intentional or complacent ablism here -- I'm a carrier of social conditioning but I am also a firm believer in my own accountability.

You might call me out. I might call you out. It's cool, there's cocoa.

You want to know someone who is all of these things, and some quirks that can't be explained that easily.

But it still all comes down to taking compassion seriously, and nothing else, because it's just a ride. <3