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40 • M • San Francisco, CA
I’m looking for
- Girls who like guys
- Ages 30–51
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last Online
- Yesterday – 7:25pm
- Body Type
- When drinking
- Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Relationship Status
- Open relationship
- Relationship Type
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Likes cats
- English (Poorly)
trying to escape the present indefinite.
Currently reading: Goldfinch! I loved Secret History and Little Friend.. so I'm obviously pretty excited about this… There's also a pile of five or six books in various state of completion. A few books I've managed to finish reading recently: Altered Carbon, 2666, The Secret History (which I really can't recommend highly enough). I'm kind of an omnivorous reader, so don't get me started.
Currently listening to: random punk rock / metal that I used dig as a kid... also picked up a bizarre fascination with "Poinciana" by Ahmad Jamal
I rarely bother updating this section.. so caveat emptor. Or not.
reading : the stranger, confederacy of dunces, enders game, the sci-fi of neal stephenson, curious george, bukowski, anything really.
watching: horror, twin peaks, millennium (if you liked that show and listen to jazz, stop reading and just message me)
listening: hard to pin down, but i wouldn't make it without music by bach and joy division, lots of npr and jazz.
food: home made bread, anything baked , anything vegetarian
drink: tea and water mostly. If it wasn't made from industrial grade carcinogens, I would drink Yoohoo every day.
Oh come on, I thought that was clever...
also why my profile is taking this downward drift: from factoids about me (above this fold) down to descriptive text about things that i like.
I'm in an open relationship, which you won't be taking the place of OR butting in on.. So go ahead and send me a message!
this seems like an entertaining day to you: Farmers market in the morning. Vaguely plan a large meal to cook. Go to the library, get some books and records. Walk around the city. Stop at a coffee shop. Listen to records [jazz is good] Smoke weed. Cook.
You don't have to actually have done this, but if this sounds boring or extreme (from either perspective) then we probably won't get along too well.
Also you should definitely send me a message if you like playing the classical piano... I have zero ability, but have been obsessed with Bach's keyboard music recently.
There's also this, that I wrote awhile back, but I'm still trying to figure out whether to remove it:
If you're a woman that loves jazz and would be excited to train a newbie about it's charms. That's any age[*] , not scared off by the fact that I live with a partner who is cool with seeing other people. What else? You should be comfortable with your weight, SF +/- Bart. You should like fantastic (occasionally silly) tales, not scoff at books with pictures, read books without pictures.
If you're the above you should be replying. If you're not, then we probably won't get along too well. Unless you're nice blend of similar/opposite, in which case we might become famous pals!
[*] you know what i mean, pervert! [**]
[**] having laughed at that is a bonus
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