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42 Brooklyn, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35-50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:23pm
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Judaism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Please read this all the way through, especially the "who I'm looking for" section, before you message me. Please; no military, no dogmatic/conservative religious people, no Republicans, I'm serious about my preferred age range, and I'm not looking for a penpal. My politics mean a lot to me. Are you sure we have something in common? Then go for it!

I'm funny and smart, sometimes quiet and often thoughtful.
An intellectual, with the occasional lowbrow sense of humor of the average 14 year old.
I don't party too much these days, but I'll make it out to ALL the summer concerts (and many of the winter ones too).

I believe that nobody's perfect, we're all a work in progress, and that's just fine. I value subjectivity and humility, art and social justice, good food, culture and families. I was born in the San Francisco Bay Area and I've been in Brooklyn since 2000.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a disgruntled adjunct professor and freelance consultant, on the lookout for a steady full-time gig. I read, I volunteer, I meditate, I get out, I stay in. I'd like to travel more, maybe live overseas for 6 mo to a year, maybe Mexico City. I like to kick it in Brooklyn, go to the movies, go for a bike ride or picnic, snuggle up with a movie. I eat healthy, occasionally hang out in a bar or music venue (though I mostly quit drinking, I'm not uptight and I could care less if you do). I spend a lot of alone time, and I'd mostly not have it any other way.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
baby whispering
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
red hair and glasses? covered in freckles? accompanied by bike and backpack?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Loved The Wire, Project Runway, Breaking Bad, RuPaul's Drag Race. I've been doing the live streaming netflix thing more than watching TV recently, although I have fairly low standards as far as TV is concerned. I prefer comedy to other genres and don't have a tremendous attention span. I used to watch (and keep up to date on current events thanks to) Colbert and Stewart (RIP I miss you both). Now I listen to NPR mostly.
My favorite food is avocado and I am a fantastic cook.
I regularly read New York Mag (though I let my subscription lapse). I love books by and about New York/ers (Auster), Beats (Kerouak, Burroughs), Russians (Lolita, Master and Margarita), short stories by Cheever or Carver. Loved Middlesex, Cavalier & Clay, Life of Pi, Oscar Wao, Freedom (Franzen), The Marriage Plot (Eugenides). Just finished Just Kids.

Some greatest Hits, music-wise: Talking Heads, Minutemen, Nick Drake, David Bowie, Stevie Wonder, ELO, Wilco, Elliott Smith, Fela, Nina Simone, Modern Lovers, Television, X, De La Soul, TV on the Radio, Manu Chau, Kool Keith, Bob Marley, Jay Z, Handsome Boy Modeling School, George Harrison, Devo, Cody Chestnutt, B52s, Built to Spill, Bad Brains, Dub, 80s, punk, disco, hip hop, classical, jazz. Recent new faves include TuneYards and Tame Impala
And Big Star! How could I have forgotten Big Star!

Things I like that aren't books, movies, music or food: parties, flea markets, antiques, museums and mellow bars, picknicking in Prospect Park, biking around the 'hood, beaches, woods and mountains, free concerts, block parties and hanging on the stoop in the summer.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
millennial conceptions of entitlement and social justice. the past and the future. youth activism. meta-referentiality, postmodernism, the time space continuum, sampling, mashing and culture jamming, transnationalism, trans-anything. climate change.

I'm considering a move to Mexico City. Scratch that, I'm considering being a single mom and going back to school for a PhD.

And, this:
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopefully out of the house, or in the house with people/person I like/love.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can be quiet or introverted (but I snap out of it eventually), occasionally emotional, indecisive or self-conscious. Sometimes I feel old and out of it, but mostly I feel awesome and over-it.
You should message me if
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I'm pretty ambivalent about dating these days, so maybe you shouldn't. That being said; go ahead and give it a shot if you think we have something in common (no, really) and you meet my criteria in regards to age and politics, first and foremost. And by all means, if I messaged you first, respond in kind! Do it now!

Have a warm smile and easy laugh. Be a deep thinker and deep feeler. Have an open heart.
The fact that I am a devoted and resolute feminist and lefty is not only not a problem to you, but an asset.
Have something to say, and put a modicum of effort into this. Please don't message me with some generic "Hi, How are you". Can't think of anything to say? Maybe don't bother.
Be in the market for something moderately "serious”.
Hopefully be into kids – I’m aiming to have one soon (most likely without you).
I’m ultimately looking for something truly great – fun, egalitarian, future-oriented, groovy, realistic, fulfilling – all that. Anything short of amazing isn’t really worth a lot of my time. In other words, if you’re not going to rock my world, don’t rock my boat.